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[QUOTE]Originally posted by saeeda: [QB] Thank you so much for your replies. Demiana, you're speaking from my heart. All these questions occupy my mind, and no matter how much i try to convince myself that it will be ok i just cant deny that fear of having to "deny myself". I wanna answer some of your questions. 1) I agreed on raising the kids as muslims because he believes (and all muslims i know believe) that a muslim is not allowed to marry a christian unless she agrees to raise the kids as muslims. So it was something i did because i had no other choice if i wanted not to loose him. I know this sounds scary but it's the truth. I just loved him so much that i couldn't let this issue divide us. My understanding of religion isnt that it should be the reason to divide people but rather to bring them together. Besides that i see islam, as lived by him, as a very good and reasonable and rich religion which would not be harmful or bad in any way for any children. Rather the opposite. So i couldn't have any objection for him to transmit his religious beliefs to the children. And one last point is that we share a lot of values. There is some differences for sure but the most important christian values are to be found in islam aswell. 2) So as you said correctly the real problem is about me and my own feelng. He is open minded on the one hand but very strict on the other hand. Meaning that he respects me as a christian and he'd never ask me to convert (nor would i agree) but he thinks it's his religious duty to raise the children in a way that will make it most probable that they will choose islam as their religion later on. that means to raise them up with the teachings of islam (prophet mohammad as the role model and the words of the qoran as eternal truth). it means to present islam as the true final religion and the other religions as incomplete. it means encouraging them to pray starting from a certain age etc etc. He would never use force but rather try to convince them thet the islamic way of life is the one wanted by god. 3) his convictions about islam of course arent my convictions. if they were i would become a muslim. i believe in other things. i have less rules, sometimes other rules. more general principles than specific rules. and i dont think its right to follow specific rules that dont make any sense or are unreasonable. he believes that there is nothing unreasonable in islam and if we think something is unreasonable it just means that we don't know the reason for it. consequently in that situation we have to just trust god and do it anyway. (because god knows more than us) There are clearly some contradictions. This is the reason for my fears. i am very aware that i may end up in a huge moral and emotional dilemma. i may end up feeling muted. so i dunno what to do now. give up having children? divorce is no option whatsoever, rather i would give up my dream of having children. try to talk to him? how to convince him that he won't commit a major sin if he allows my religion be present aswell in the childrens lives in some way? do you have any recommendations? experiences? maybe some book you can recommend to me? some islamic scholar has said something about this issue that would help me in my position? thak you very much [/QB][/QUOTE]
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