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is there such a thing? I hear often that if both consenting partners are fine with it then anything that takes place behind the bedrooms is nobody´s business. Do you agree with that? I am not asking for detailed descriptions by the way. Is everything allowed if they feel good about it? How is people´s attitude towards sex and sexual pleasure and perhaps sexual guilt shaped? Are couples allowed to explore every possible avenue to improve their sex life? I hope you understand my point with this thread. Just wanted to discuss in a civil way how ideas about sex are created and what forces are behind it. Would be beneficial also to discuss if cultural clashes, for example between Egyptians and Westerners, have resulted in serious conflicts and how to resolve those.
tina kamal Member # 13845
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sex would be good period....
weirdkitty Member # 15365
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If it doesn't hurt another human being (unless that human being consented ) and doesn't risk lives, then anything behind those doors go. People shouldn't force their own view of "acceptable" sex onto other people. Fantasies are individual, and if they can find someone who wants to explore it with them, then good for them!
EDIT: Yeah, I should also add that it shouldn't hurt animals either, even if they consent to it. lol.
Anthropos Member # 9410
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But what about religious rules then? Cultural norms?
For example. Doesn´t Islam forbid anal sex? Would that still be OK as long as they consented?
VanillaBullshit Member # 10873
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Islam forbids a lot of things, that doesn't deter anybody.
hibbah Member # 12156
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quote:Originally posted by Anthropos: is there such a thing? I hear often that if both consenting partners are fine with it then anything that takes place behind the bedrooms is nobody´s business. Do you agree with that? I am not asking for detailed descriptions by the way. Is everything allowed if they feel good about it? How is people´s attitude towards sex and sexual pleasure and perhaps sexual guilt shaped? Are couples allowed to explore every possible avenue to improve their sex life? I hope you understand my point with this thread. Just wanted to discuss in a civil way how ideas about sex are created and what forces are behind it. Would be beneficial also to discuss if cultural clashes, for example between Egyptians and Westerners, have resulted in serious conflicts and how to resolve those.
don't know enough about the topic, but psychologically, i dont believe its healthy to approach sex with the mindset that anything goes, as long as its two consenting adults- thats what i get from listening to Dr.Drew anyways- he'll often warn callers about engaging in acts like three somes or voyeurism, because it almost always will damage the relationship, and you probably have some issues you need to deal with anyways if you're looking into something of this nature...
yup. love lines.
Anthropos Member # 9410
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good point hibbah.
I feel that people need to have respect for sex as such and not cross a certain line. Maybe that is wrong, maybe it inhibits people from experiencing a deeper intimacy and connection but today with all the media that people access easily there doesn´t seem to be any mystery left. Just preconcieved ideas about how it should do and what should be done.
weirdkitty Member # 15365
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[quite]he'll often warn callers about engaging in acts like three somes or voyeurism, because it almost always will damage the relationship, and you probably have some issues you need to deal with anyways if you're looking into something of this nature...[/quite]
Yes, it COULD ruin relationships. But I bet some relationships have been ruined because one of the partners didn't want a threesomes too lol. I bet most threesomes had in the world have not ruined relationships, and have probably been undertaken just by three curious people, instead of a couple hoping to spice things up. But the only people who talk about it are those saying: "Yeah, we done a threesome and it split us up *jerry jerry jerry*"... There are many, many people who just enjoy threesomes, swinging, even dogging, etc. And they shouldn't be allowed to fulfil this just because some relationships have ended because of this?? It is funny when people don't understand someone’s fantasies they jump to: "oh they must have some issues". If people only see sex as something to do with a loved one, and is "sacred", then fine. But there are many people who just enjoy it and want to have fun, why should they be considered wrong?
Tigerlily Member # 3567
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Quick question: Can a picknick table enjoy sex??
Anthropos Member # 9410
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Wk...I understand where you are coming from.
But is enjoyment always justifiable?
tina kamal Member # 13845
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mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm sex mmmmmmmmmmmmmmm
Samia Member # 4691
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quote:Originally posted by Tigerlily: Quick question: Can a picknick table enjoy sex??
My picnic table wouild break under sex!!! You obviously know something I don't Tiger!!!
Sashyra8 Member # 14488
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quote:Originally posted by Samia:
quote:Originally posted by Tigerlily: Quick question: Can a picknick table enjoy sex??
My picnic table wouild break under sex!!! You obviously know something I don't Tiger!!!
A picnic table could be a good venue.
hibbah Member # 12156
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quote:Originally posted by Anthropos: Wk...I understand where you are coming from.
But is enjoyment always justifiable?
well that depends on whose asking, right?
If you believe that virtue is something people should strive for, then no. and if you believe that a person has a duty towards oneself, and ones body, then indulging oneself for the sake of indulging is wrong, and its going to have ill effects.
if you believe that the only duty a person has to oneself its one owns whims, then why not?
I think people who engage in threesomes, voyeurism, and who are swingers etc- have problems, and such acts are just physical manifestations of these problems. Its a problem that someone can detach themselves to such a degree from any type of emotional feeling when engaging in these acts. i'm sure they'll find a way to justify it, but eh.
wish i knew more about the issue.
weirdkitty Member # 15365
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quote:But is enjoyment always justifiable?
Like I said before, as long as it doesn't hurt a living thing, or force itself in other peoples lives (like sex in public), and the adults are consenting. Then why not?
Who are we to say what is right and what is wrong between two grown people? Just because it isn't to our taste? I have never had a threesome, two of my female friends have. I asked them why and the both said it was for the experience. I think most exploration is merely for the experience, to see what it is like, just like why so many people try drugs. Not because of any issues, but because of curiosity. Many people can separate making love and just having sex. It is not a rare thing, they don't have issues, they just do not place the same values on it as others. Maybe some think that those who only want missionary with the same person all their lives are the ones with issues lol. Fantasies are natural, and if two people happen to get off on golden showers, etc, meet up, and indulge in this, then so what? How on earth is that going to have any negative effort on the world at large? There are staving children, war, disease, murder etc, in the world, the least of our worries should be on what two swingers are getting up to.
Tigerlily Member # 3567
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quote:Originally posted by Samia:
quote:Originally posted by Tigerlily: Quick question: Can a picknick table enjoy sex??
My picnic table wouild break under sex!!! You obviously know something I don't Tiger!!!
Heehee, Samia, check out this topic. I think it's one of the funnier threads on here:
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