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[QUOTE]Originally posted by Somewhere in the sands: [QB] [QUOTE]Originally posted by With a name like Smuckers: [qb] I have issues with polygamy in Islam. I know it is permitted and some do it and ok, fine. My issue is when some of the men take more than one wife and it seems that hardly ever do I hear of any of them taking any that are : divorced widowed converts Or any of the three combined. If polygamy was instituted to help the men marry the women way back when when wars were so prevelant and the women were getting widowed and left alone (ok and because some had more wives than this to begin with, had to cut it down a bit), why isn't this practiced so much today? No, instead the men are looking for wet behind the ears virgin girls, crossing oceans to bring them to the West or what have you. As a convert I can't tell you how difficult it is to find a good KNOWLEGABLE Muslim man to marry, me being a foreigner, a convert and still have him be Western. Most Muslim men in America will go back to the home country or their parents' home countries for wives and bring them back to America when there are plenty of good American muslimas needing marriage there. Some are divorced and/or widowed sure, but aren't we told that the man gets a great reward in caring for these types of women? It's not that surprising to me that so many Western muslimas marry men who are not their own nationality. I guess it just makes sense that so many do enter into a marriage that works well for all involved, the woman gets the marriage to a Muslim man, he helps her with her Islam, he gets the foreigner, doesn't get the in law family hassle, often doesn't have to fork over stupid amounts of cash, has the chance of moving to the West and *hopefully* he didn't marry one VERY much older and can give him children if he didn't already have them from a prior marriage. I guess I'm going off now...but I just wish there were more Muslim men willing to take wives who were converts in the West. Even the convert men go overseas! hello?? They are all among you! [/qb][/QUOTE]You make a very valid point seeing that the Prophet Muhammad salallahu alayhi wassalaam out of his 11 wives only 1 was a virgin. The other 10 wives radiallahu ta'ala anhuma were either widows or divorced women. Concerning marrying converts well I can speak for my own experience. I have a lot of friends like myself who reverted to Islaam. Most of the reverts that I know about 80% of them have wives who are either the same race or nationality and of those 80% obviously their wives are too reverts/converts. I do know brothers who are married to previously divorced women and mostly likely those women have a child or children. My very very close friend who is like a blood brother to me is too a revert and his wife is a revert who was a widow and she had 1 child before marriage living with her. He had 1 child not living with him. they now have 3 additional children together and she is also encourgaging him to take a 2nd wife. They both are young. I can't answer your question about why for example Arabs migrate to the USA for example and then go back home and marry and then bring their wife to the USA. You will have to ask someone else that question. However, like I said from my experience the majority of brother marrying sisters in the USA usually marry a revert, she and he usually have children from a previous marriage and it includes brother marrying 2nd wives who have extended families also. I am sure you are aware of the hadeeth that encourages and recommends marrying the young and virgins. The Prophet Muhammad salallahu alayhi wassalaam said that, however, he also set a higher standard and showed that it is perfectly fine to marry the widow and divorced women (even those with children) as well. There is no doubt that the Muslims Nation as a whole is very far from practicing Al Islaam (including myself) in the manner that is should be and deserves. We ask Allah to help us to recitfy our situation and make us the example to others as was applied and demonstrated by our beloved Prophet Salallahu alayhi wassalaam and his righteous guide companions may Allah be pleased with ALL of them. Islam in its original form is perfect and beautiful it is the Muslims who have the name Al Islaam a bad impression. The Prophet Muhammad salallahu alayhi wassalam said (translated): "The Muslim Nation is like one Body (a human body) when one part of the body hurts, the whole body hurts." I remembered a few weeks ago I was very ill. I had a sinus infection with a very high fever. I could not breathe properly and I could not smell anything. I felt miserable. My whole body felt bad and my wife reminded me about this hadeeth. She said your nose is hurt, but you feel the affects of it in your whole body...That was so true and it made me look at the hadeeth in a newer light. Okay..I too am straying off the path..So I will go! Warmest regards and Eid Mubarak to you and your family members. May Allah accept from you and and me all of your good deeds that you did these during this bless month. Ameen. [/QB][/QUOTE]
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