Hi, hmm , two days ago i was with my friends celebrating of eid , i saw a girl with my friend who i heared that she loves him , i know my friend so close , the problem is that he cheats her , he knows alot of girls, he always take from her money ,and always do that, there at the cafe' i saw her when she did give him money and a gift from china , i want to help that girl to tell her the truth , there's another girl too who cheats her too , i wanna help them cuz he "Sucks" their blood ... a friend of me told me don't put ur self into problems .. im trying to get their cell numbers and call them and tell them the truth , but they may tell him , and i'll be into a hard position :-(... i really didn't sleep yesterday cuz of that ..
Ahmed
Posted by storiestotell (Member # 4502) on :
hello,
the best thing you can do is not tell them directly so they can say that you told them that but give hints. tell that person situations you know and if she is smart it will make her think and sthe truth about her own situation.
Something else is that if he is really your friend , you can talk to your friend and tell him that his behavior makes you ashamed to be his friend.
Maybee, the question you need to ask yourself is "Do you want to be friends with someone like that" "Do i want people to look at me and say, that a playboy..."
best regards
Posted by _Masrawi_ (Member # 9597) on :
what ages are we talking about here?
Posted by KeepinItReal (Member # 7946) on :
I think AndreAhmed just turned 19 from what I recall on a previous thread, is this correct?
AndreAhmed, I'm more concerned with this friend of yours. He doesn't sound like the type of friend I would want in my life. Not only are his actions effecting those girls lives but your life too. I would have a chat with him definetely. He's what I call "toxic". If you surround yourself with good friends, they bring out the best in you and visa versa. It's unfortunate he's playing with these girls. You know, I don't think this is a situation that will be easy to resolve. I would tell this friend that what he is doing with these girls is wrong and you morally can't sit back and watch anymore. I say go find yourself a new friend. Good luck to you! Posted by AndreAhmed (Member # 9277) on :
storiestotell the problem is i don't talk to these girls so much they just know my name and im trying to get their cell numbers to tell them the truth ...
masrawi , yes i'm 19 and about to get my uni degree.
KeepinItReal You know ? i hate him .. but he's the only mate where who is in my college and lives beside my house and sometimes i want to get some lectures ..etc :-( you know ? i'll call him tommoraw and say , i don't like ur friendship ..etc ( i just know him for 3 years ).. thanks alot ..
Ahmed ( Andre is a name of a computer scientist who i like ).
Posted by Ngeg (Member # 1271) on :
Just known him for 3 years..bas? I see u r very generous with yr years! 3 years here, 3 years there and all u know next is ur life is coming to an end. Very thrifty. So u waste 3 yrs with a guy u hate for the sake of some lectures?? How nice!
Well, to start with..You are no one's gaurdian. You can hint yes. You can confront yr "friend", may be.
BTW, You ought to be more careful with yr choices. You can't let ppl get into yr life only bcz life threw them yr way. This is not a reason!!!!
Posted by _Masrawi_ (Member # 9597) on :
then let her learn the hard way ... we all did.
she's still young ... she'll recover.
Posted by sonomod (Member # 3864) on :
quote:Originally posted by _Masrawi_: what ages are we talking about here?
Does it make a difference?
Posted by _Masrawi_ (Member # 9597) on :
quote:Originally posted by sonomod:
quote:Originally posted by _Masrawi_: what ages are we talking about here?
Does it make a difference?
read my second message (the one right above yours) and u'll have answered your own question ... Posted by Nooralhaq20055 (Member # 9255) on :
quote:Originally posted by AndreAhmed: Hi, hmm , two days ago i was with my friends celebrating of eid , i saw a girl with my friend who i heared that she loves him , i know my friend so close , the problem is that he cheats her , he knows alot of girls, he always take from her money ,and always do that, there at the cafe' i saw her when she did give him money and a gift from china , i want to help that girl to tell her the truth , there's another girl too who cheats her too , i wanna help them cuz he "Sucks" their blood ... a friend of me told me don't put ur self into problems .. im trying to get their cell numbers and call them and tell them the truth , but they may tell him , and i'll be into a hard position :-(... i really didn't sleep yesterday cuz of that ..
Ahmed
If you want opinions, here is mine:
you don't know that girl so don't approach her. don't be friends with this 'friend' either, he's not a very good person and if friends are truly the mirror images of ourselves, what does it say about you? Might be time to speak to him about his behavior, if he chooses not to change, you may need to end the friendship. you will respect yourself more and it will make him really consider his actions. never speak of his actions to others, if anyone asks about your friendship, simply reply, 'it is personal between the two of us' and leave it at that. good luck. salaam
Posted by Tigerman (Member # 9196) on :
Birds in feather fly together ...
Just tell your * friend* how you feel about it and tell her brother too!
Posted by mysticheart (Member # 6838) on :
If i were the girl, i would want to be told. If you do not mind losing the friendship with this man, tell her. She might not believe you but it will make her think. If you dont think you can tell her directly then find any way at all to hint to her, its going to hurt her to find this out but it will hurt her so much more later on, no one deserves what he is doing.
Posted by AndreAhmed (Member # 9277) on :
Thanks for ur inputs ... inchallah after the exams, i'll leave him .On saturday,i'll try to talk with a friend ( a girl however im a shy person,but i'll try for the sake of the two girls ) , and request the number of the girl and i'll sms her or request an appointment and tell her the truth . But The problem is that she loves him and for sure she will defend of her friend ... any way , i don't care... Ahmed
Posted by Ngeg (Member # 1271) on :
Yanhar eswed! We've all told u to quit the thought of talking to her!! Each and every person u d ask would say talk to yr friend!!! You thank us and do exactly what u planned to do before openning this thread!
If u know she will defend him. You know she will think u lie! She will tell him exactly what u told her. He will argue with u and think u betrayed him. You end up in a situation that each and everyone of us went through and simply tried to save u from!!!! Well, if u ask me. This thread was a waste of time.
And "inchallah after the exams, i'll leave him " ..Is that for real? leave him? howa sha2a agartaha yomein wehatsebha?? Come on!! At least confront him. Man to man!! At least for the sake of the lectures u photocopied!!
Ah dear. Good luck young man. I can easily tell u r VERY busy focusing on a maltitude of small problems, that u really missed the big picture!!!!!!!!
Posted by AndreAhmed (Member # 9277) on :
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and a gift from china , i want to help that girl to tell her the truth ![[Big Grin]](biggrin.gif)
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