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LML you are a strange species... Egybrit is right, this woman gave her heart to a man she thought would take care of it and he threw it to the ground and stamped on it... How can she possibly be grateful for that? I can honestly say that i do not understand you and your lack of empathy! I think she deserves an apology from you for that post... Or at the very least an explanation...
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quote:Originally posted by Tinkerbell123: I married an Egyptian man in July. On 12th of December, he has divorced me!!!!!!!!!!
Look at the bright side. You were married for more than 72 hours. Some marriages last only 24.
You were married. Some people could never marry. At all!
He will be living with his new wife, she will cook, clean and do eveything for him, and you won't.
If he married you and had in addition another orfi wife, it's better to be his ex, rather than his 2nd wife.
This man did a great favor to you. He simply changed his mind and you should thank him for that. He could of live with you for 3 years and then divorce you.
Be happy he did all divorcing. He did all, you don't have to do it on your own, and it's FREE of charge.
She is richer, and quicker for getting him visa. You can always find another guy who needs visa! How do you lose anything here?
You can say you are single again! You know how many people wish they are single? Tons of them.
If you feel revenge, so badly to report him ( and prevent him from having life with her ) you really never truly loved him - so this divorce could not possibly be a mistake.
LOL! This is so funny. (Some people here just lack sense of humour).
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You could copy & paste his photo on that Russian/German website and point to ladies, and say to everyone "I know this man!".
You don't have to think how to get him back. He is already taken.
If he is so bad, you have better chances to stay sane this way. He could of drive you crazy until rest of your life.
Oh.... you can date anyone again!
When he divorced you, he at least proved to you that he wasn't with you for visa, a pair of pants and a paycheck. ( otherwise he would stayed )
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quote:Originally posted by lovingmylife: Look at the brighter side:
You could copy & paste his photo on that Russian/German website and point to ladies, and say to everyone "I know this man!".
You don't have to think how to get him back. He is already taken.
If he is so bad, you have better chances to stay sane this way. He could of drive you crazy until rest of your life.
Oh.... you can date anyone again!
When he divorced you, he at least proved to you that he wasn't with you for visa, a pair of pants and a paycheck. ( otherwise he would stayed )
I do have to agree with you when you said:
quote:When he divorced you, he at least proved to you that he wasn't with you for visa, a pair of pants and a paycheck. ( otherwise he would stayed )
This was one of the 1st things that I noticed when I read the post.
If he only wanted a visa he had his chance with her..she was already doing the paperwork. He already had one foot in the UK's door, but he didn't use her to get his visa nor did he use her as a meal ticket.
So IMO like LML said there are other reasons he is not with you and you should be thankful for his departure and count your blessings if the story is true.
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Exactly Sands. You see, if the story is really true.
This message board has a 'groupthink' going on.
Groupthink is a type of thought exhibited by group members who try to minimize conflict and reach consensus without critically testing, analyzing, and evaluating ideas.
This is when a group makes faulty decisions.
and why:
Desire to avoid being seen as foolish, or a desire to avoid embarrassing or angering other members of the group. Individual doubts are set aside, for fear of upsetting the group’s balance thus they make hasty, irrational decisions.
Highly cohesive groups are much more likely to engage in groupthink. The closer they are, the less likely they are to raise questions to break the cohesion.
Suggestion:
Each member needs to be “critical evaluator” of love problems. This allows each member to freely air objections and doubts.
This message board has couple of dominant negative thought posters about Egytpians, and Muslims. They succeded "temporarily" to create a 'groupthink' phenomena, thus the group is conditioned to think "their way" and conform, rather than to think for themselves.
Members here have a strong need to conform to group rules because to do otherwise would risk the horrors of rejection.
I am free person and I DON'T conform to groupthink.
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quote:Originally posted by lovingmylife: Exactly Sands. You see, if the story is really true.
This message board has a 'groupthink' going on.
Groupthink is a type of thought exhibited by group members who try to minimize conflict and reach consensus without critically testing, analyzing, and evaluating ideas.
This is when a group makes faulty decisions.
and why:
Desire to avoid being seen as foolish, or a desire to avoid embarrassing or angering other members of the group. Individual doubts are set aside, for fear of upsetting the group’s balance thus they make hasty, irrational decisions.
Highly cohesive groups are much more likely to engage in groupthink. The closer they are, the less likely they are to raise questions to break the cohesion.
Suggestion:
Each member needs to be “critical evaluator” of love problems. This allows each member to freely air objections and doubts.
This message board has couple of dominant negative thought posters about Egytpians, and Muslims. They succeded "temporarily" to create a 'groupthink' phenomena, thus the group is conditioned to think "their way" and conform, rather than to think for themselves.
Members here have a strong need to conform to group rules because to do otherwise would risk the horrors of rejection.
I am free person and I DON'T conform to groupthink.
EXCELLENT point LML EXCELLENT!Posts: 2342 | From: Its not where I'm from but where Im going | Registered: Jul 2007
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Thanks You haven't read my private message I sent you a few days ago? It says "unread' in my box.
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I've not read ALL of this but I do just have to say...
LML - while your analysis on group think is correct, and does sometimes deter people from saying what they might like to say, there are also a lot of people who do share views genuinely and when they dont, they can present their opinions without conflicting with other members of the 'group'.
In the case of this woman, people were simply saying, do not make light of her situation because however simple and 'funny' it may seem to you, this person feels hurt by the circumstances - no one knows if she is real, but be sure that even if she wasnt real there are another 100 real people reading and relating to her story, so your insensitive 'funny' reply will also hit them too.
Sands, maybe this man did have other reasons to end the relationship, but one thing sticks in MY mind and that is: ANY man or woman that says 'my new partner is rich' is not worth anything, this statement alone proves their character.
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Sands, maybe this man did have other reasons to end the relationship, but one thing sticks in MY mind and that is: ANY man or woman that says 'my new partner is rich' is not worth anything, this statement alone proves their character.
No doubt about it. If the story is true, then the this particular individuals character is seriously flawed and that is why I agree with LML that she has been spared from a potential tremendous marital haphazard and she should count her blessing. Imagine that man being the father of your children..Yuck!
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Do you think that i'd really waste my time putting this post up if it wasn't true. All i wanted was some advice and to tell my story so other women would see what these men are capable of. The fact that u find my story amusing just proves to everyone reading ur idiotic statements that u are just as bad as the idiot i married. Also he did use me for a visa, but found a better deal(visa AND money)so if your so clever tell me what the reason for him marrying me was?!
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quote:Originally posted by Somewhere in the sands:
quote:Originally posted by crisálida:
Sands, maybe this man did have other reasons to end the relationship, but one thing sticks in MY mind and that is: ANY man or woman that says 'my new partner is rich' is not worth anything, this statement alone proves their character.
No doubt about it. If the story is true, then the this particular individuals character is seriously flawed and that is why I agree with LML that she has been spared from a potential tremendous marital haphazard and she should count her blessing. Imagine that man being the father of your children..Yuck!
There is only ONE thing I can say about the person who are making statements like 'my wife is rich'....: The one who is saying this, is NOT rich. Money isn't an issue when you're rich, you are able to choose anybody you like, because you have enough money of yourself. The fact that the man is not rich, is not saying anything about his personality. There is a bigger chance that he is out for the money, but it doesn't have to be this way. The fact that he is exchanging his wife for another richer one, within two weeks, IS saying something negative about him. The fact that he just quitted contact and didn't even give exploination, is also saying something negative about him. Last, the fact that he took the one who could offer him a visa right away and leaves the country is also saying something negative. So, indeed she can be gratefull, that she doesn't have to live with the consquences of being married to a person who isn't the man he pretended to be. As so many of these men are not the ones they pretend to be. At the same time we can ask ourselves how we would act when we were in their shoes. Recently there was a televisionprogramme in Egypt about a man who left as an illegal four times. Four times he was cought by the police and sended back. He is working in a factory right now, and earns EP 170 a month. He would go again whenever he has the chance...
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quote:Originally posted by Tinkerbell123: Do you think that i'd really waste my time putting this post up if it wasn't true. All i wanted was some advice and to tell my story so other women would see what these men are capable of. The fact that u find my story amusing just proves to everyone reading ur idiotic statements that u are just as bad as the idiot i married. Also he did use me for a visa, but found a better deal(visa AND money)so if your so clever tell me what the reason for him marrying me was?!
Tinkerbell if there is one thing I have learnt in this life its to keep well clear of the so called phsycologists of this world when you have a serious problem such as yours. You have to ask yourself why these people become phsycologists and usuallly when you look into their real lives you find they are really screwed up people. Sorry but this board has its fair share of them. Hope you got some practical advice here and in truth you will never really get any straight anwers to the 'why' question. I do though agree you are so much better off without this man, and you have to feel for the lady he moved onto. He won't treat her any better.
Hope you have a good Christmas and a better new year.
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Thank you Penny for all your help, it's true that I am better off without him and I believe it 100%. Thank God i found out now and not further down the line what he was up to. Happy Christmas and all the best for 2008!!!
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Happy Xmas to all on here. For those of us who have sad stories, been used and exploited I hope we can look forward to a better 2008. It is all experience, makes us stronger and less trusting, sad but true. If these men are users, then take comfort in the fact that the women they have moved on to wont get a much better deal. Better to be without then with a bad one.
To all on here thanks again for your advice and love reading some of the threads,
Will any of you be in Cairo round end of December, when I will be there, would be great to meet up.
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Well, in this Thread the woman with "problem" replied to herself with 3 other nicknames. So she participated here with total of 4 nicknames and replied to herself as well. Can anyone guess which nicknames she has been using in this thread?
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Yeah a new year a new start.... MERRY CHRISTMAS AND A HAPPY NEW YEAR to you all!! Posts: 30135 | From: The owner of this website killed ES....... | Registered: Feb 2004
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lovingmylife you may make up posts, have many usernames and reply to yourself but I am not sad like you, I have a life. Playing detective are we, well don't give up your day job, if you have one. You sound like you stay at home in a world of your own and because you have nothing better to do you come up with crazy accusations about my unfortunate situation. LOL you are completely pathetic with a capital P!!! PS:- I do not want my rat of an ex husband back like you said in another post that I did, you are the crazy one not me.
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What's in a name.. The fun of using several usernames at the same time,has always totally amazed me. It means they have to lie, and have to keep up the imaginary images. Can use my time better then that. Maybe it should be nice to take a look at the username itsselve, why has this been chosen, what does it tell? Some are enigmatic, some are na-ive, some spread out the longing, some are realistic and clear, some give an impression about the state of mind on the moment it has been chosen, etc...
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I chosed to be a questionmark. I realised that my expierences were not like the common expierences here, and a lot of them are quite 'inside information'. I don't want to damage any of them, but I thought there were some things that should become known by some of the women that are here once in a while. I had so many questions that seemed to be unanswered. It took me some time to 'place' it all, see it in the right perspective, and I never should have been able to do so, without the help of 'other' Egyptians. "Don't you have to ask "why" ? " was one of the joking remarks during that time. Fact is that there is happening so much that is hard to understand in the male/female issue, and I guess I still don't know half of it. And about your name: Not na-ive or childish. It's a female choice, putting an accent on that you're not somebody without a will... Tiger & lily... Right?
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Actually it has nothing to do with that. Back then my 4 year old daughter was so much into this Walt Disney Peter Pan movie and I HAD to watch it with her. There is an Indian princess with this name in Neverland - a dream world - and I thought oh how cute. Besides it's also a name of a flower, a very pretty one.
BTW 'Tinkerbell' is the little fairy in the Peter Pan book! Posts: 30135 | From: The owner of this website killed ES....... | Registered: Feb 2004
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I'm not that familiar with the Walt Disney movies, we are raised by the old fairy tales from, for instance, Hans Christian Andersen, Charles Dickens, etc. I don't know where Peter Pan is coming from, but I never heard from the story when I was a kid...
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Me not either. I grew up with the fairytales from Brothers Grimm (big time!), Hans Christian Andersen (although many of them are very tragic and saddening) and various Russian ones.
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Sad stories with a hided religious and cultural message, it's about norms and values, about good and bad, beauty and jealousy, rich and poor. But at the same time, when taking alook at all these stories carefully, we can see a line, a similarity in all these universal criterion that is also coming back in Egyptian culture, as also proverbs and expressions do. Sometimes I talk about this with an Egyptian man with a good sense for language, and who likes to get to know the kind of international universal wisdom in these old proverbs, legends, proverbs, myths etc. So basically there aren't that much differences.
BTW, the former queen of Belguim Fabiola, made a fairy tale of her own: The Indian Waterlily.My daughter had to play in the school-stage show, when she was four, and also was very much into fairy tales. I still remember her dancing on teh sound of African Beat...http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EZn3mZvJFbI&feature=related. This clip is from a fairy-tale theme park in Holland. All little girls like it....
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quote:Originally posted by egybrit: Happy Xmas to all on here. For those of us who have sad stories, been used and exploited I hope we can look forward to a better 2008. It is all experience, makes us stronger and less trusting, sad but true. If these men are users, then take comfort in the fact that the women they have moved on to wont get a much better deal. Better to be without then with a bad one.
To all on here thanks again for your advice and love reading some of the threads,
Will any of you be in Cairo round end of December, when I will be there, would be great to meet up.
I wont be there at the end of december but not long after, going during the second week of January. Am always open to meeting new people, just because i like to make new friends.
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quote:Originally posted by ?????: I'm not that familiar with the Walt Disney movies, we are raised by the old fairy tales from, for instance, Hans Christian Andersen, Charles Dickens, etc. I don't know where Peter Pan is coming from, but I never heard from the story when I was a kid...
National pride concerning Hans Christian Andersen... he wrote some amazing fairytales.... he was always used for bed time stories Posts: 712 | From: Hurghada | Registered: Aug 2006
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This story is fake story as most people already know. Don't invest your valuable time and post long messages. The member has multiply nicknames (identities), replies to herself, and is manipulating you.
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quote:Originally posted by lovingmylife: This story is fake story as most people already know. Don't invest your valuable time and post long messages. The member has multiply nicknames (identities), replies to herself, and is manipulating you.
Another crack in your record???
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wish you would all stop bitching!! we all know how to spell ,we just cannot be ar**d all the time!!! Posts: 3945 | From: ' Res Contr ' Amor non es guirens, lai on sos poders s'atura | Registered: Dec 2007
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my ex left me for a richer woman too....one older than his own mother !!! well i let his stupid butt go because I knew that karma is a killer and he would get his. well, she gave him $100,000 for new equipment and now where are they....drum roll please....... he is now twice that amount in debt and cant even pay his employees....she quit her job to work with him and they lost everything TOGETHER looool! now neither of them can pay their bills and he is freaking because he has to look at her old ugly fat face for the rest of his life cuz, they snuck off to vegas and got married! he couldnt even marry her in front of family...and for an egyptian thats pretty lame. now i have more money than both of them combined and im loving it!
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THE IMBASILE that thinks my story is fake should get a life u are so far off its actually funny!You think your soooooo clever but you are sooo not! so, if i reply to myself...enlighten me- which other names do i go by? I suppose im peace at last aswell arent i! We're not all desperate like u, i need advice and i got it so if your not interested in this story why do you read it and keep replying to it? answer that inspector!
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Every time when you post fake story and use one of your nicknames Tinkerbell123 to manipulate people, and I see it, I will expose you. After this, it's up to people if they will invest their valuable time to reply to your fake story or will they focus on truthful members with real problems.
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quote:Originally posted by PeaceAtLast: my ex left me for a richer woman too....one older than his own mother !!! well i let his stupid butt go because I knew that karma is a killer and he would get his. well, she gave him $100,000 for new equipment and now where are they....drum roll please....... he is now twice that amount in debt and cant even pay his employees....she quit her job to work with him and they lost everything TOGETHER looool! now neither of them can pay their bills and he is freaking because he has to look at her old ugly fat face for the rest of his life cuz, they snuck off to vegas and got married! he couldnt even marry her in front of family...and for an egyptian thats pretty lame. now i have more money than both of them combined and im loving it!
Thank god for what happened! Although it looked at first as a disaster it now looks as a blessing. He surely got what he deserved. Be happy he's out of your life for good!!
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quote:Originally posted by Leito: LML, you are sure taking your time with this "exposing rampage".
When are you gonna get this job done ?
Also, please bring proof with you .
I`ve even bought myself some new lingerie to be ready when she "exposes" me.Don`t wanna get caught wearing an old set. Posts: 3833 | From: here,there,everywhere | Registered: Nov 2007
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Haram ya Om Leito, no explicit pics on the forum!!! Posts: 30135 | From: The owner of this website killed ES....... | Registered: Feb 2004
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Tigerily ist geistlich kranke Frau. Sie hasst Moslems . Ihr Ehemann setzte ihre und 2 Kinder aus. Er ist Tötungmoslems im Irak.
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quote:Originally posted by PeaceAtLast: my ex left me for a richer woman too....one older than his own mother !!! well i let his stupid butt go because I knew that karma is a killer and he would get his. well, she gave him $100,000 for new equipment and now where are they....drum roll please....... he is now twice that amount in debt and cant even pay his employees....she quit her job to work with him and they lost everything TOGETHER looool! now neither of them can pay their bills and he is freaking because he has to look at her old ugly fat face for the rest of his life cuz, they snuck off to vegas and got married! he couldnt even marry her in front of family...and for an egyptian thats pretty lame. now i have more money than both of them combined and im loving it!
Thank god for what happened! Although it looked at first as a disaster it now looks as a blessing. He surely got what he deserved. Be happy he's out of your life for good!!
oh im verrrrry happy....i want to rub his big brown nose in it so bad too, but its not my nature to stoop down to that. goes to show how sick he makes me. lol...he asked me to go to egypt with him this weekend too.... i laughed and said, 'you have 3 seconds to get off my porch you sick bastard.' then my dad came out and he ran looooool! its funny, everytime my dad knows that he is coming to pick up aleya, he sits outside and waits....... (my parents live 2 doors down from me).
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quote:Originally posted by PeaceAtLast: then my dad came out and he ran looooool! its funny, everytime my dad knows that he is coming to pick up aleya, he sits outside and waits....... (my parents live 2 doors down from me).
How was the relationship between your parents and your ex before? Were they content that you chose a Muslim as husband or rather reserved in the beginning?
Ah and yes I remember you have a child together. I guess that makes the whole situation more difficult. Is he a good parent to her even after the divorce?
Sorry for asking quite personal details.
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quote:Originally posted by lovingmylife: Tigerily ist geistlich kranke Frau. Sie hasst Moslems . Ihr Ehemann setzte ihre und 2 Kinder aus. Er ist Tötungmoslems im Irak.
Who's Tigerily???
Seriously I told you before you in dire need of a good SHAG !! Posts: 30135 | From: The owner of this website killed ES....... | Registered: Feb 2004
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quote:Originally posted by lovingmylife: Tigerily ist geistlich kranke Frau. Sie hasst Moslems . Ihr Ehemann setzte ihre und 2 Kinder aus. Er ist Tötungmoslems im Irak.
Who's Tigerily???
Seriously I told you before you in dire need of a good SHAG !!
quote:Originally posted by lovingmylife: Sie sind eine dumme häßliche fette Frau ohne das Leben Sie sind eine Kuh, die ihr Leben haßt.
Oh I can see you are *obsessed* with me just like Exiled is, very good! I am telling you everybody loves Tigerlily!!!
So how many more ids do I have on this forum? Come on, play the game and find out.... you shall be rewarded, good Muslim woman! I think of something!! Posts: 30135 | From: The owner of this website killed ES....... | Registered: Feb 2004
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Egybrit is right, this woman gave her heart to a man she thought would take care of it and he threw it to the ground and stamped on it... How can she possibly be grateful for that? I can honestly say that i do not understand you and your lack of empathy! I think she deserves an apology from you for that post... 
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