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The secret world of the child bride: Heartbreaking pictures of the girls as young as FIVE who are married off to middle-aged men By Daily Mail Reporter
Last updated at 9:50 PM on 8th June 2011
Wide-eyed and haunted, the expressions on these young girls' faces hint at the innocence so cruelly snatched away from them. They should be playing, learning and enjoying their childhood. But instead these youngsters have been forced to grow up before they have even reached puberty.
Girls as young as five are being married off in secret weddings. It is estimated that every year ten to 12 million girls in the developing world are married off.
'Whenever I saw him, I hid. I hated to see him': Tahani (in pink) was just six years old when she she married Majed, 25. The young wife posed for this portrait with former classmate Ghada, also a child bride, outside their mountain home in Hajjah In India, the girls will typically be attached to boys four or five years older. In Yemen, Afghanistan, Ethiopia and other countries with high early marriage rates, the husbands may be young men or middle-aged widowers or abductors who rape first and claim their victims as wives afterwards. Some of these marriages are business transactions or to resolve a family feud. Forced early marriage thrives in many regions, often in defiance of national laws. Whole communities often prescribe to the notion that it is as an appropriate way for a young woman to grow up when the alternative is the risk she loses her virginity to someone besides a husband.
Wedding ceremonies are often held in the middle of the night, with the whole village keeping the secret for fear it might be interrupted by police.
In a project for National Geographic, journalist Cynthia Gorney and photographer Stephanie Sinclair travelled to Yemen and Rajasthan in India to investigate the shocking practice. In India girls may not legally marry before age 18 - but ceremonies involving girls in their teens may be overlooked. The younger daughters, as young as five, tend to be added on discreetly, their names kept off the invitations.
Child marriage might be illegal in India, but this doesn't stop ceremonies taking place in the small hours of the morning - it becomes a secret the whole village keeps, explained one farmer. Here, five-year-old Rajani is roused from her sleep long after midnight and carried to her wedding by her uncle
So young: Barely looking at each other, Rajani and her boy groom are married in front of the sacred fire. According to tradition, the young bride is expected to live at home until puberty, before she is transferred to her husband In one case in Rajasthan where her teenage sisters were also being married, a five-year-old bride named Rajani fell asleep before her wedding ceremony began. An uncle lifted her from her cot and carried her in the moonlight toward the Hindu priest and future husband - a ten-year-old boy. Although child brides tend to remain with their families until they are older, this is not always the case. Three years ago, the case of Nujood Ali came to worldwide attention. The ten-year-old Yemeni girl managed to escape her home and made her way to a courthouse to request a divorce from the man in his 30s her father had forced her to marry and who beat her.
She became the poster girl for children in her position around the world and a recent book, translated into 30 languages - I Am Nujood, Age 10 and Divorced. She is now back with her family and has returned to school.
Not all girls have such a lucky escape. Few who are married off as children have any chance of an education but there are far worse consequences. Many are raped and have a low life expectancy due to the number of children they carry at such a young age.
Wailing in protest: Surita, 16, cries as she leaves her family home, shielded by a traditional wedding umbrella and carried in a cart to her new husband's village. Early marriage is the norm in her small village in Nepal
Girls suffer physical abuse and are too frightened to escape because they are threatened with death.
In another case in Yemen, it was discovered that a ten-year-old girl Ayesha had been married off to a 50-year-old man. The journalists were told by her sister Fatima that 'little Ayesha screamed when she saw the man she was to marry'. Someone alerted the police, but Ayesha's father ordered her to put on high heels to look taller and a veil to hide her face. He warned that if he was sent to jail, he would kill Ayesha when he got out. The police left without troubling anyone and Ayesha now lived in a village two hours away with her husband.
'She has a mobile phone,' Fatima said. 'Every day, she calls me and cries.' The medical consequences are also extremely serious and in some cases fatal. One doctor based in the Yemeni capital Sanaa listed some of the medical consequences of forcing girls into sex and childbirth before they are physically mature - ripped vaginal walls and internal ruptures called fistulas which can lead to life-long incontinence.
Girls are often too young to understand the concept of reproduction. The doctor said: 'The nurses start by asking, ''Do you know what's happening?'" Do you understand that this is a baby that has been growing inside of you?'' Few are equipped with the information of how to care for themselves or their babies after childbirth leading to high infant mortality rates.
The people who work full-time trying to prevent these illegal marriages, and to improve women's lives, know that it is a far from simple plan of rescuing girls. Molly Melching, the founder of a Senegal-based organisation Tostan, told National Geographic: 'If we separate a girl and isolate her from her community, what will her life be like? 'You don't want to encourage girls to run away. The way you change social norms is not by fighting them or humiliating people and saying they're backward. We've seen that an entire community can choose very quickly to change. It's inspiring.' These pictures - and more - are in the June 2011 issue of National Geographic magazine, on sale now or visit www.ngm.nationalgeographic.com
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'Whenever I saw him, I hid. I hated to see him': Tahani (in pink) was just six years old when she she married Majed, 25. The young wife posed for this portrait with former classmate Ghada, also a child bride, outside their mountain home in Hajjah
Child marriage might be illegal in India, but this doesn't stop ceremonies taking place in the small hours of the morning - it becomes a secret the whole village keeps, explained one farmer. Here, five-year-old Rajani is roused from her sleep long after midnight and carried to her wedding by her uncle
So young: Barely looking at each other, Rajani and her boy groom are married in front of the sacred fire. According to tradition, the young bride is expected to live at home until puberty, before she is transferred to her husband
Wailing in protest: Surita, 16, cries as she leaves her family home, shielded by a traditional wedding umbrella and carried in a cart to her new husband's village. Early marriage is the norm in her small village in Nepal
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