I know this subject was already treated a loads of time but I need advice about the situation.
One month ago, I was in Egypt for one week. The latest day, an Egyptian man from the hotel invited me for a drink, but I refused because I had to leave one hour later. He explained me he had noticed me since the beginning of the week but he was not enough self-confident to talk to me. He wanted to know me more. What he said during these ten minutes was quite different from I heard from the other Egyptian men all the week. We exchanged e-mail address. He wrote one e-mail and explained he loves me, needs to be protected and he wants to marry me. Since, we have only contact per letter: he says he thinks of me all the time and wants to meet me.
I am a little confused after all I read on this forum about Egyptian men. Do you think I should trust him and meet him to see what his intentions are ? Or as someone suggests in an another post, should I phone him to ask about personal details before?
posted
Which part of the posts describing some Egyptian Men/gigolos that are NOT the real typical Egyptian decent gentlemen, did you not understand?
When someone/ from anywhere in the world / that knows nothing about you, asks you to marry him, he wants to have the 'licence' to your rights, whatever they are; PLUS a 'good' time.
What confused you exactly?
[This message has been edited by Monica (edited 08 February 2004).]
i agree with monica, and i just want to add something, for good egyptian men , marriage is a very important point, it means , i am going to make a family , it is a responsibility not everyone is willing to bare unless he is charged with love and passion for his 2nd half, and also he must have seen some signs telling him , oh god , this is the one for u , such as , understanding, care , love, a lot of things that makes him sure u r the one, beside , u r from a different culture than his, so it is also more critical to him because u will be introduced to a new socity to u , and as long as he is ur husband so he will be responsible to ur adaptation and ur weird reaction , so for god;s sake , convince me , how can all this come in letters in such a short time period?
i agree whith what boss and monica said you now he tells you he loves u when he only spoke to you for just 10minutes, he doesn't know who you are or what type of person or how u think .and he tells u he loves you. most girls always hear things like this from guys but you now he might like you not love you he might like the way you look or maybe the way you act or something. becuse no way that he would love you if you only spoke for 10min and exchanged emails onece or twice.
Bent Masr
Posts: 33 | From: london | Registered: Jan 2004
| IP: Logged |
posted
If someone sitting next to me on a bus in Glasgow, Scotland told me he loved me after chatting for 10 mins, I'd wallop him across his heid with my handbag. It weighs about 10 lbs on a good day.
He hasn't seen you on good and bad days, in different situations.
He is probably attracted to you but something more deeper than that? it sounds unlikely.
But that is not a slur against you. That's common sense and even if you knew him a week, still no indication of how you would be as a couple.
It's a long way to go - what are you hoping for? an instant answer as to whether you are soul mates? can he take time off work and family commitments to be with you? you should at least find out more about him, if he is single, his family life, where he lives, his intentions, his financial status, that all takes time and can't be done in 1 e-mail.
No where else that I have traveled to in the world would a woman actually take a man seriously if he proposed marriage after a ten minute conversation. In fact, most women would be very annoyed.
Shana-I would suggest researching the economic and social issues that many Egyptians are having to cope with at the moment. You might then understand why a few Egyptian men seem to 'fall in love' so quickly.
posted
Shana, are u serious?! Do u really think it is possible to LOVE a person u saw and talked to just once for one hour?! Is it LOVE?! U know I noticed a very interesting thing. Almost all girls say that their habibie is "not like the others and he doesn't say the same things like others and etc,". However, in fact they are exactly the same like all these resort boys and all of them say the same b***t and they even write in the same manner. If u compare several different letters from different egyption boys u will find they are the same. I am not talking about really educated egyption men. It is stupid (sorry) to belive in a man's love in such situation like the one u described. Like somebody has already said If a stranger came to u in ur own country and told u he loves u, would u belive him?
Posts: 287 | From: Moscow Russia | Registered: Feb 2004
| IP: Logged |
posted
hi shana....i have never read such rubbish...i bet he is already useing the same pater to others.....you need to kick him to the curb...PRONTO take care of yourself....roddy
quote:Originally posted by Shana: Hello
I read few posts on this site
I know this subject was already treated a loads of time but I need advice about the situation.
One month ago, I was in Egypt for one week. The latest day, an Egyptian man from the hotel invited me for a drink, but I refused because I had to leave one hour later. He explained me he had noticed me since the beginning of the week but he was not enough self-confident to talk to me. He wanted to know me more. What he said during these ten minutes was quite different from I heard from the other Egyptian men all the week. We exchanged e-mail address. He wrote one e-mail and explained he loves me, needs to be protected and he wants to marry me. Since, we have only contact per letter: he says he thinks of me all the time and wants to meet me.
I am a little confused after all I read on this forum about Egyptian men. Do you think I should trust him and meet him to see what his intentions are ? Or as someone suggests in an another post, should I phone him to ask about personal details before?
you are old enough to decide for yourself ,,,go back and give a try ,,,go out and have fun and just take easy ,,do not give more than what you want to give ,,,,then every thing would be clear and you will know what your next step will be ,,, after i read all of this replies you got i was walking down the streets ,looking at every man and feeling scared ,,there is a n egyptian monster in here ,,, hey all give the girl break ,,, respect yourself and go and have fun ,,,if you are not sure about him ,,do not go any more further and just HAVE FUN ,,,and please do not come and cry here later on Good luck
posted
i think it depends on who you are and how you treat other ppl.........as far as for me i love Egypt pll with all my heart, my heart is opened for them.... and i've never got smth bad from any one of them............so, if you feel with your heart that you love a man and he loves you too and you are ready to do a lot for him and he for you......then go ahead.........i am russian and i have a brilliant relations with Egyption man..........and i am too much happy though we have too much difficulties......... listen to your heart.........and god will help you!
Posts: 4 | Registered: Apr 2004
| IP: Logged |
UBBFriend: Email this page to someone!
Printer-friendly view of this topic