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Question: Why doesn’t Islam treat man, and woman evenly? Islam forbids a Muslim woman from marrying a non-Muslim man, and allows a Muslim man to marry a Christian or a Jewish woman.
The main principle in Islam is the equality in belief between the husband and his wife. This equality and consistency help in making their marriage successfulllowing a Muslim man to marry a Christian or a Jewish woman, is an exceptional rule applied under special circumstances. And when a Muslim man marries a Christian or a Jewish woman, there is no problem, because he believes in all prophets, and all holy books. There will be no problem between him and his wife in this matter, especially that his religion -Islam- commands him to be fair with his wife even if she were Christian or Jewish. And any Muslim man going through such marriage should have strong belief in his faith, and should strongly abide by his religion.
The reason for forbidding a Muslim woman from marrying a non-Muslim, is that a Christian or a Jewish man believes only in his prophet, and doesn’t believe in prophet Mohamed Salla Allah Allih Wa Salam or any of the other prophets (blessing be upon them).
For example, when this Muslim woman, tries to teach her kids to love and respect all prophets and believe in all of them, her non-Muslim husband will not agree, because he believes only in his prophet. He will interfere in the way she raises her kids, and prevents her from raising them in an Islamic way. And here comes the real problem, because she will have only two options, whether she leaves the whole thing as it is, and does nothing about it -which will be an insult to her religion- or she argues about the matter, and this will sure lead to more marital problems.
On the other hand, there will be no such problems between a Muslim husband, and a non Muslim wife, because if this wife tried to teach her kids to love and believe in her prophet, her Muslim husband will not refuse that because he already believes in her prophet and all prophets. This is why Islam allows the marriage between Muslim man and non-Muslim woman, and forbids the marriage between Muslim woman, and non-Muslim man. Because Islam respects the marital relationship and wants to guarantee its stability, not because it respects men, and disrespects women …
Discussing these issues with the westerners is so important, so that they get to know Islam better, and understand the logic behind social rules, and issues.
I heard a nice story of a Muslim girl. When her school was celebrating Christmas. She was blamed for not celebrating her prophet’s birthday as they do. Allah Subhana Wa Ta'ala inspired her with a very smart answer. She said to her teachers and her friends, “you believe only in one prophet, but we Muslims, respect and believe in all prophets. If we tried to celebrate all the prophets’ birthdays then everyday of the year would be a feast for us.” They were all astounded by her brilliant answer.
as any one hear in ES as a muslim fallen in love with a non muslim I WONT NOT ADMIT IT I DID but didnt pursue to marriage owing it was forbidden and would have caused problems in egypt have you ever now wish you tried to purue it or happy with the desision u made .thanx ..
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another reason is that in islam the children follow the fathers religion as in christanity in judaism the children follow the mothers
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Part of the problem is weak western women who marry these guys in the first place and are so needy they'll agree to anything. I know of only one case here in Texas where the marriage is mixed and the muslim husband agreed to have the kids raised a baptist. In this case the woman demanded this before she agreed to the wedding. They eventually divorced and the two kids have very little contact with Islam. In the west if the marriage does not work the woman can do pretty much anything she wants.
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So all women that marry muslim men are weak? How do you figure that one out?
There are plenty of mixed marriages, where the wife is christian and the husband is muslim. Or even mixed christian marriages orthodox and catholic
However this post was the opposite it was about Muslim women marrying Non muslim men.
You should've gone to spec savers arrow !!!
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Is the Qurânic prohibition of marriage to unbelievers applicable to all non-Muslims? More specifically are Muslim women only allowed to marry Muslim men? Perhaps not.
Firstly - the Qur'ân describes different types of people, there are for example:
Believers
Believers before the time of the Prophet Muhammad (saw): Surah al-I-Imran 3:52, 67
Muslims: Surah al-Hajj 22:78
Faithful People of the Book: Surah al-Ma'idah 5:6;?Surah al-Muddaththir 74:31
Those who believe in Allah (swt), the Last Day & do good deeds: Surah al-Baqarah 2:62; Surah al-Ma'idah 5:72;
Unbelievers
Unfaithful People of the Book: Surah al-Bayyinah 98:1, 6; Surah al-Hashr 59:2
Hypocrites (those who called themselves Muslims but secretly disbelieve): Surah al-Munafiqun 63:1; Surah al-Ahzab 33:1
If we understand Islam as more than one specific religious dispensation, instead the entire body of Allah's (swt) revelation to the cosmos, then we can say that there are those who are generically muslim who may not necessarily follow the specific sharî'ah as we know it from Prophet Muhammad (saw). The Qur'ân says that *any* (not just "Muslims") who believe in Allah (swt), believe in the concept of being held accountable for one's actions, and do good works "shall have their reward with their Lord; on them shall be no fear, nor shall they grieve" (Sûrah al-Baqarah 2:62; Sûrah al-Ma'idah 5:72).
The Qur'ân points to this idea of a 'meta-religion' in that it describes all of Allah's (swt) revelatory messages to humanity have been part of the one deen. Abraham (saw) was neither a "Jew" nor a "Christian" but one who submitted himself to Allah (swt).
In regard to marriage, the Qur'ân (Sûrah al-Baqarâh 2:221) says that Muslim men and women may not marry those of the second category - the unbelievers (al-mushrikaat & al-mushrikiin). However the Qur'an does say that chaste women from the People of the Book are lawful.
Now there is a general principle that unless something is specifically negatively qualified for women (or simply doesn't make sense), laws are understood to be applicable for women as well as for men mutatis mutandis. In this case there is no negative qualifier for Muslim women against marrying men from the People of the Book.
Put another way the Qur'an does not say that Muslim women may *not* marry men from the People of the Book. (The verse about not marrying unbelieving men does not apply because that verse applies specifically to the category of al-mushrikiin.) But even having said that, as long as person fits into the first broad category of 'believer' then he or she is halal for a Muslim or Muslimah. It is the unbelievers who are forbidden to both men and women.
So what is the definition of an "unbeliever"? The Qur'an paints a picture of a person in *active* rebellion against Allah (swt).
* They worship false gods: Surah al-Anbiyya 21:98
* Plot and plan against the Muslims: Surah al-Anfal 8:30
* Spend their wealth hindering people from the path of Allah (swt): Surah al-Anfal 8:36
* Protect one another against the Muslims: Surah al-Anfal 8:73
* Fight against the Muslims: Surah an-Nisa 4:101-2
* Dispute about the signs of Allah (swt): Surah al-Mu'min 40:4
* Detest the call of Allah (swt): Surah al-Mu'min 40:14
* Ridicule the Prophet (saw): Surah al-Anbiyya 21:36
* Regard the Qur'an as lies and sorcery: Surah al-Ahqaf 46:7; ?Surah Saba 34:43
* Scoff at the idea of the Hour: Surah Saba 34:3, 7;?Surah at-Taghabun 64:7
* Reject all of Allah's (swt) scripture: Surah Saba 34:31
* Dispute with vain arguments in order to weaken truth: Surah al-Kahf 18:56
* Revel in self-glory and separatism: Surah Suad 38:2
* Discount the divine nature of revelation: Surah al-An'am 6:25
* Persecute the Prophets (saw): Surah Ibrahim 14:13
* Persist in rejecting truth: Surah al-Buruj 85:19
* Deny spiritual existence - the Hereafter: Surah Qaf 50:2, 12;?Surah an-Naml 27:67
However even if a Muslim woman is married to a mushrik, then she is not required to divorce him as evidenced by the situation regarding the Prophet's (saw) daughter Zaynab who was married to an unbeliever who fought against the Muslims at the Battle of Badr. Whilst the Prophet (saw) asked that Zaynab return to Medina, the marriage was not dissolved and when the husband did finally accept Islam they resumed cohabitation.
The Qur'an narrates the principle that it is not fitting to be married to a person who is in active rebellion and hatred towards the Beloved Creator – whether they are wife or husband, male or female is beside the point.
Secondly, the overarching principle of the Qur'an is the equality of women and men. Recognising however that in some cultures full equality is unachievable (as in 7th century Arabia) the Qur'an then provides a certain number of laws that provide a pattern in situations where women cannot achieve full equality (and thus are dependent on their husbands). This is similar to the concept that the spirit of the Qur'an preaches abolition of slavery but recognises and provides for those cultures which cannot achieve abolition straight away.
If a Muslim woman is in a situation where she can achieve equality then she can stipulate this in her marriage contract. As such she no longer is required to be dependent on her husband and can claim full equal rights. And Allah (swt) knows best.
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i actually know all this and i was aking what would you do if you fell in love with a christian and your heart was saying take him but your faith is saying now which u choose i chose my faith but sometimes im in dinial t what i did im not saying im not love my husband to whome i with now but its not a bed of roses ,,, in islam it cud be clased as adultry if you think of another man u looked that bit up ....
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