You haven't found the decent girl yet, the one that will love you and also accept you as you are, and maybe encourage you and motivate you to build a future, slowly but surely, and be genuine enough to give you her emotional support.

Being rich is not the dream of every girl/woman but unfortunately, many are brain washed by shallow ideas.

Having the basic comfort is important, but unreasonable demands of jewellery and cars and clothes, that are absolutely insignificant to a happy and loving life, show that some people are purely materialistic.

In general, everyone wishes to find a genuine person, that will appreciate who we really are, with our strengths and our weaknesses and dreams, reciprocate our kind feelings and respect us as well! No one likes to feel that the 'other' is there for materialistic purposes....hoping you find your other half.

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Originally posted by newman575:
Hey everyone it was along since my last topic, I really missed you all.. this time I just interest to know your opinion (especially females) about love & marriage..
Ok let's start, is it enough to engage with someone who loves you, has his own apartment and has a good salary??? Or you need more.. like a fancy car, a huge account at the bank, a big home.. and so on
What do you need and what are you looking for?? What about wedding party, "Shabka" and "Mahr". Can you marry someone you love even though your family doesn't accept that..
About my experience, I think all girls like to get everything, LOVE & MONEY.. everyone needs everything as a dream but when we are in a situation needs a decision we've to know what we need more. I do my best in my whole life to find someone who will love me just for my personality, every girl I know needs to live with a reach man.. she can spend a fanny time with me till she find her reach man, so that I decided to enjoy my time with my girlfriends till I become a reach man.
Do you know it's much easier than marriage, but I was dream to keep myself just to my girl.. but there's no girl who can accept me without money.. so what I've to do?!!!!

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finding the right person is hard - sooner or later hard reality sets in and you do have to think a bit about money - where to live, food and clothes, school and health for your children - but i truly belive that if you find the right one then money is not important, you will find a way to get by and money and cars and a big bank balance will not keep you warm at night!

i totaly agree with monica when she says
'Having the basic comfort is important, but unreasonable demands of jewellery and cars and clothes, that are absolutely insignificant to a happy and loving life, show that some people are purely materialistic.'

so keep looking - i have always found love(?) although not 'the one' when i least expect it and it has never had anything to do with money.

I think this is a question what you/ she search for in this life and where you are. The background and the way you was brought up is very important. It’s also a question of responsibility for yourself and maturity. Some of us want something from heaven, others ( want) works to achieve it.
Me personally, and many girls who work – try to do something in this life –appreciate the afford of a man to achieve something instead of looking for a guy who does it for them. They say: let’s do it together! I’m not well - off but I work and I’m responsible for myself. The answer comes without question that I also want a person who is developed, work and understand that it costs some affords.
Women or men who want only the luxury cars etc. in general ( sorry, if there is an exception) doesn’t make you happy. They want, require. Outlook and impression is important. And your task is to confirm how great they are.

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Originally posted by Dalia:
Who is your question directed at, newman?

I think it makes a huge difference if you're asking Egyptian women or foreigners ...

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Dalia..why do you think there's a "huge" differnce between foreigners and Egyptians??.. that kinda surprises me!!!

glad you're back with a new outlook (though I do not support the idea with the girl-friends )

I know a number of Egypt. girls, and most since their childhood, get trained and prepared for that only goal, to get married, by their parents. It is their parents who poison their minds with the picture of the perfect, handsome and rich young man, if he is also religious, a little, not too much, that's a plus.

Society tells them how many sets of malaya they need, and the different sets of pots (tefal, alu AND porcellain) simply have to be, how many nightdresses and towels and the kind of marriage-mafresh they need... everything is narrowed down to the material things, everything has to be 'perfect' for that big, special night, THE night... but sadly for everything that will happen after that night, the girls have no plan.. life itself was never part of the lessons. I am a little bit dramatic today?

I have to mention that there are also the other kind of girl, who mostly want a religious husband, and they don't care for the material things, which is also reflected by their families' attitude. One such girl married a very good friend of ours, who does not have a flat nor a huge income (they live in a rented flat), and I know personally 8 young girls and one divorced lady (after a very short marriage), all educated, in their 20's, mashaAllah pretty and religious, and their requirement is just to find somebody religious!

So keep on looking and don't waste your time with sin, for you'll never be successful if you do.

Its kind of a difficult question but I will try to explain it from my POV.

There are people out there who married because of love. Others marry because of money. Many people marry because of both reasons. I believe as long as both partners are honest to each other and know the reasons why they commit to each other I don't see anything wrong. People come in different sizes and shapes and everyone has a right to live his own life.

Now the difficult part is how to find out if your partner is honest to you. But I believe this is another topic.

For myself I would just marry someone because I really really love that person (BTW I am married already with off-springs!)
and I don't care if he would be a doctor or a gardener as long as the basic needs are met (this was already mentioned before here). F. e. most of the people in my county Germany, regardless of what their occupations is, they are very skilled and masters of their jobs. So you find mostly people getting married because of love.

But from my experience in Egypt I know that money indeed plays a very important role.

Don't think that all Egytian women are only money-hungry. See it as a safety for your future wife. You need to get her to know very well in person through talking, take time to choose your woman. Try to confirm her motives why she likes you so much and she would love to be your wife.

I am speaking as a European woman and indeed we are more independent and can live alone and support ourselves through work very well.

I believe this shabka, mahr etc. is necessary because it belongs to the tradition of your country. And I can't speak for Egyptian women.

as Tigerlily said, it is also a cultural and religious thing. She has to talk to you about her mahr, because this is part of the Islamic marriage, and it does secure her future. No Egyptian parents can just 'forget' about the mahr, and the material arrangements for their daughters future well-being, see it from their eyes also.

Don't forget, in Europe the girls are highly educated and nearly all have some profession or work, they maintain homes on their own and are self-depending in many ways. When they marry, mostly everybody keeps his own belongings, what they make together of money and fortunes, belongs to both of them. If a couple separates, everybody can go on with his/her life independently.

A divorced woman in Egypt has only her 'muakhar' and if the home was written in her name as 'mahr', this flat. A girl can get badly abused by a not so good man, esp. if the mahr and muakhar are of small value, and if she got divorced she'll bare besides the shame the financial brunt, and will have to return to her family broke.

You need to find that girl, who will fall in love with you and don't consider the financial point as the most important one, but it has to be discussed between yourselves. It is not part of Islam, to marry off the girls at the current extremely high expectations.. remember in the time of prophet Mohamed (saw) a man gave his wife mahr in form of the qty. of Koran he keeps by heart.

Give her your hear and a fair mahr, wa tawakal al Allah.

There are families and girls out there who have not been taken in by the materialism rising up in Egypt, and inshaAllah you'll be able to find somebody special like this.

Quite possibly the biggest gulf of conflict in marriages between western women and misr men.

Yes, it is considered that men must provide materially for their brides but his is not what's happening in Misr.

Men are supposed to provide a bride price, Islamically. This isn't and probably never happen. The parents of the bride provide a 'hope chest' of sorts for their daughter and then she haggles with her husband what he will spend it on. Then he is supposed to get her a flat, but often they end up living with his parents or a close relative. From then on she has to get on her mother-in-laws good side so she can turn her husband on his head to have any sort of influence over her living conditions.

This makes Misr women extremely good at negiotiation and often have to stoop to immature pressure tactics to influence her husband's weaknesses. I call it the 'Virgin Illusion'. I am sweet and innocent why don't you want to make me happy.

Western women often won't play this game, and the Misr men appreciate this, though they still manipulate, control and dominate everything in expectation that he can get her family to submit to paying extra money to ease the husband's greed.

My sister-in-laws family is continueing to hemorage money to please my brother-in-law and my husband has made my life miserable in hopes that my family will give us money (or should I say give him money). Culturally many Misr whether they can give money or not, give to ensure their daughter's happiness. It's better to be exceptionally gutted financially because their fathers know they have done the same.

Though the husband is expected to provide financially for his wife and family often for the first decade or so, he is often subsidized by the in-laws.

A truely vicious cycle and what I consider the main reason why mixed marriages break up, westerners are not used to this.

In my opinion it is extortion. I can't possibly work and pay all the bills and then give some more. My family has little respect for my husband and has urged me to leave him.

I can't we have a child.

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Originally posted by newman575:
Hey everyone it was along since my last topic, I really missed you all.. this time I just interest to know your opinion (especially females) about love & marriage..
Ok let's start, is it enough to engage with someone who loves you, has his own apartment and has a good salary??? Or you need more.. like a fancy car, a huge account at the bank, a big home.. and so on
What do you need and what are you looking for?? What about wedding party, "Shabka" and "Mahr". Can you marry someone you love even though your family doesn't accept that..
About my experience, I think all girls like to get everything, LOVE & MONEY.. everyone needs everything as a dream but when we are in a situation needs a decision we've to know what we need more. I do my best in my whole life to find someone who will love me just for my personality, every girl I know needs to live with a reach man.. she can spend a fanny time with me till she find her reach man, so that I decided to enjoy my time with my girlfriends till I become a reach man.
Do you know it's much easier than marriage, but I was dream to keep myself just to my girl.. but there's no girl who can accept me without money.. so what I've to do?!!!!

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i think most important for the start of a working marriage is RESPECT and mercy.
if we respect each other and feel mercy, love rises within a marriage. becoz we respect our partners thinking and his piont of fews (doesnt mean, that we always have to agree!). we treat each other in the best way and we feel same feelings, becoz there is mercy.

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Originally posted by mody:
well,newman,i can only say one little thing,
(never trust women for they shall disappoint u), page one...the old book of wisdom:-),
well,women only want money,they can go out with u for a week or 2 if u r handsome and cute and has a good personality but after that forget it,so man what i say is forget it:-)))),

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Actually, it is difficult to balance everythings in the world.

Your question just let me think in deep about myself. I would like to talk about my experience and my feeling in the past and present. However it doesn't mean any suggestion or comments to anyone.

Before, I was married with a man who is younger than me for 2 years and I felt very happy with him for nearly 8 years. During this marriage, he is poor and he is lazy to do any works. As he got the character like an artist, hope you know what I mean. May be you will asking how can we living?

I worked for a big public utilities and earning a stable money. It is not rich, even under the middle class in my area, but I always think that money is not the major things between our love. I paid all the bills and expenses including his expensive habbits too (like diving, feed lot of pets including a 6 feet marine tank, playing over 10 sets of mobile control building boat, playing audo music equipment, fishing...etc.)

Suddently, the company cut the manpower and I was unluck one. After I lost my stable job in the bad economic climate, I hope my husband could help a little on earning money for his own expenses. But my hope was failed, he still kept reliable on me. As a result, I began to think what about the coming 30 years? Still keep in same status? If he love me, he should help me to pass though the hardness....Then, we started argue and hurt our feeling from time to time.

Today, I already left him because I don't have enough money to support him. I already have a big loan from the Bank. Please don't worry about me, the God is good to me. I met my boyfriend and he is take care me very well, although we temperary can't meet and feeling pain. It is because he need to work and station at Egypt, but we keep contact every day. He is also a poor man but at least he try his best to find enough bread for the family, me and my kid (no blood relation with my boyfriend). He is kind and sometime give a hand to my ex-hus.

Money is important for bread, but not major in the life. However, we can't life without money...

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Originally posted by Lady_Fox:
hi Newman575,

Actually, it is difficult to balance everythings in the world.

Your question just let me think in deep about myself. I would like to talk about my experience and my feeling in the past and present. However it doesn't mean any suggestion or comments to anyone.

Before, I was married with a man who is younger than me for 2 years and I felt very happy with him for nearly 8 years. During this marriage, he is poor and he is lazy to do any works. As he got the character like an artist, hope you know what I mean. May be you will asking how can we living?

I worked for a big public utilities and earning a stable money. It is not rich, even under the middle class in my area, but I always think that money is not the major things between our love. I paid all the bills and expenses including his expensive habbits too (like diving, feed lot of pets including a 6 feet marine tank, playing over 10 sets of mobile control building boat, playing audo music equipment, fishing...etc.)

Suddently, the company cut the manpower and I was unluck one. After I lost my stable job in the bad economic climate, I hope my husband could help a little on earning money for his own expenses. But my hope was failed, he still kept reliable on me. As a result, I began to think what about the coming 30 years? Still keep in same status? If he love me, he should help me to pass though the hardness....Then, we started argue and hurt our feeling from time to time.

Today, I already left him because I don't have enough money to support him. I already have a big loan from the Bank. Please don't worry about me, the God is good to me. I met my boyfriend and he is take care me very well, although we temperary can't meet and feeling pain. It is because he need to work and station at Egypt, but we keep contact every day. He is also a poor man but at least he try his best to find enough bread for the family, me and my kid (no blood relation with my boyfriend). He is kind and sometime give a hand to my ex-hus.

Money is important for bread, but not major in the life. However, we can't life without money...

Lady Fox :P

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Originally posted by newman575:
I think love is not words we say, it's actions we do, so I'm sure that this guy didn'tlove you although you loved him so much, cause if he did he wouldn't let you fought alone to earn your life.. sorry to say that but it's the truth. whe I said I'll not marry a girl/woman talks about money it didn't mean that I'll let her to take my place and act as a man, no I'm the one who has to open the home and pay for life, I ment that she's to live with me in better and worse, and doesn't think about herself but she's to think about our life together.
to be honest with you all I'm fear of tomorrow, I needn't to live alone any more, and I needn't to spend my whole life in searching.. I need to live my life and I believe that real life will not start till I find my soulmate.. I don't know may be I've to go to psychologist

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Originally posted by newman575:
Hey everyone it was along since my last topic, I really missed you all.. this time I just interest to know your opinion (especially females) about love & marriage..
Ok let's start, is it enough to engage with someone who loves you, has his own apartment and has a good salary??? Or you need more.. like a fancy car, a huge account at the bank, a big home.. and so on
What do you need and what are you looking for?? What about wedding party, "Shabka" and "Mahr". Can you marry someone you love even though your family doesn't accept that..
About my experience, I think all girls like to get everything, LOVE & MONEY.. everyone needs everything as a dream but when we are in a situation needs a decision we've to know what we need more. I do my best in my whole life to find someone who will love me just for my personality, every girl I know needs to live with a reach man.. she can spend a fanny time with me till she find her reach man, so that I decided to enjoy my time with my girlfriends till I become a reach man.
Do you know it's much easier than marriage, but I was dream to keep myself just to my girl.. but there's no girl who can accept me without money.. so what I've to do?!!!!

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Originally posted by Rimo:
One question for the guys here, how would you feel if your wife makes more money than you do? what if her family is richer than yours? would you take it in your stride or would it be a chip on your shoulder (even if she doesn't mind) and she has to watch every single word comin out of her mouth and her mother's and her father's and her brother's and her aunt's and her uncle's and.........??????

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Hi Rimo,
I would like to give you a reply to your question.

MY POV if two people are truly in love what does it matter what they have or don't have. What counts is how they feel for each other, how they would lead their lives together, how they respect each other (no matter what they have or don't have), how they would be happy together, how they would grow old together, and how they would they would stay in love together through all the years growing together.

So Rimo, having things or not having things. yes to some people that is important in a realtionship. But for me if my partner was richer than me and had me than me in a material way so be it. It wouldn't be a chip obn my shoulder because we both love each other.

Salam,
Brian

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Originally posted by newman575:
Hey everyone it was along since my last topic, I really missed you all.. this time I just interest to know your opinion (especially females) about love & marriage..
Ok let's start, is it enough to engage with someone who loves you, has his own apartment and has a good salary??? Or you need more.. like a fancy car, a huge account at the bank, a big home.. and so on
What do you need and what are you looking for?? What about wedding party, "Shabka" and "Mahr". Can you marry someone you love even though your family doesn't accept that..
About my experience, I think all girls like to get everything, LOVE & MONEY.. everyone needs everything as a dream but when we are in a situation needs a decision we've to know what we need more. I do my best in my whole life to find someone who will love me just for my personality, every girl I know needs to live with a reach man.. she can spend a fanny time with me till she find her reach man, so that I decided to enjoy my time with my girlfriends till I become a reach man.
Do you know it's much easier than marriage, but I was dream to keep myself just to my girl.. but there's no girl who can accept me without money.. so what I've to do?!!!!

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Hi Newman,
Good question. I had some thought in my mind. Thanks for asking the question though. I learned alot through other people's replies. Hope you find your true love.

Salam,
Brian

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Originally posted by brian04:
Hi Rimo,
I would like to give you a reply to your question.

MY POV if two people are truly in love what does it matter what they have or don't have. What counts is how they feel for each other, how they would lead their lives together, how they respect each other (no matter what they have or don't have), how they would be happy together, how they would grow old together, and how they would they would stay in love together through all the years growing together.

So Rimo, having things or not having things. yes to some people that is important in a realtionship. But for me if my partner was richer than me and had me than me in a material way so be it. It wouldn't be a chip obn my shoulder because we both love each other.

Salam,
Brian

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Thanks Brian, I used to think so.

a sheikh told me recently, the clever Muslim is the one who enjoys all the halal things of the dunya, while he keeps his eyes constantly on the eternal life of the akhira.

It may be a special test to you, that you have not found your soulmate yet, and without God's help you never will.

Would you rather waste your short time in this life with having 'fun' with girls, for the price of your place in paradise?

Stay away from forbidden things, protect yourself from the enemy of mankind, shaytan and his whisperings. Overcome your nafs, close the door into shaytan's face, and return back to Allah and Islam, if you want to be successful in this life and the next one.

Fasting helps to control one's feelings, so does reading quran and zikr-lilllah.

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Originally posted by Rimo:
Thanks Brian, I used to think so.

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Salam,
Brian

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Originally posted by Rimo:
One question for the guys here, how would you feel if your wife makes more money than you do? what if her family is richer than yours? would you take it in your stride or would it be a chip on your shoulder (even if she doesn't mind) and she has to watch every single word comin out of her mouth and her mother's and her father's and her brother's and her aunt's and her uncle's and.........??????

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Originally posted by karinfarid:
newman,

a sheikh told me recently, the clever Muslim is the one who enjoys all the halal things of the dunya, while he keeps his eyes constantly on the eternal life of the akhira.

It may be a special test to you, that you have not found your soulmate yet, and without God's help you never will.

Would you rather waste your short time in this life with having 'fun' with girls, for the price of your place in paradise?

Stay away from forbidden things, protect yourself from the enemy of mankind, shaytan and his whisperings. Overcome your nafs, close the door into shaytan's face, and return back to Allah and Islam, if you want to be successful in this life and the next one.

Fasting helps to control one's feelings, so does reading quran and zikr-lilllah.

salam, Karin

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[QUOTE]Originally posted by Rimo:
[b] Thanks Brian, I used to think so.

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Salam,
Brian

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I didn't say it was me now did i ? anyway, whether it was me or someone else, I'm sorry i won't provide details, that would be "dirty laundry" not my favorite thing, but anyway, I've seen this happen, more than once. Man feels bad, woman doesn't know where the hell she went wrong......

Have a nice day ..........

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Originally posted by Rimo:
I didn't say it was me now did i ? anyway, whether it was me or someone else, I'm sorry i won't provide details, that would be "dirty laundry" not my favorite thing, but anyway, I've seen this happen, more than once. Man feels bad, woman doesn't know where the hell she went wrong......

Have a nice day ..........

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In my previous threads I mentioned I would support my woman's career no matter what standing within the relationship.

Be well...

Salam,
Brian

thoughs on the above posts......................
i think that when one is lonely one longs for a cuddle/soulmate/partner to share some of the burden of day to day living.
and day to day ilving can be hard - i know sometimes i wish i could cook a meal for two instead of just for me. i wish there was someone to rub my sholders when i am tired of writing up notes at the computer - i wish there was someone there to hold me while i go to sleep......
but, for me and i think for you too newman, not just anyone will do!

this thread has made me examine my egyptian experience closely - a few folk have asked
"why do women fall under the spell of a few pretty words spoken over a couple of days....they would not fall for it at home"
well i now think that deep down it is out of lonlyness - not for sex but for a soulmate - many of us are not used to sweet words at home and feel that we will never find anyone to share our lives with so we get overwhelmed by a holiday romance.

i know i am well away from newmans question but these are a few of the thoughts i had while reading the thread.

newman - i dont really know what to tell you - i too have just admitted to myself that i would love to be loved and alowed to give love in return - after many years telling myself that i was happy alone and did not ever need anyone - and it is a bit frightening - because i have no idea how to go about 'finding' someone - not even sure that that works (going out and looking - its not like buying apples is it lol) the only thing i have been gratefull to my beach habibi for is that he led me to meet all of you, make some great new friends in egypt and he finally opend my eyes to the fact that i could fall in love again.
i guess the only thing we can do is to take up offers of going out with friends, expanding our circle of friends and get to know people - sooner or later someone will introduce us to someone and so on....... or we join a dating agency lol

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Originally posted by kay in love:
dear friends

thoughs on the above posts......................
i think that when one is lonely one longs for a cuddle/soulmate/partner to share some of the burden of day to day living.
and day to day ilving can be hard - i know sometimes i wish i could cook a meal for two instead of just for me. i wish there was someone to rub my sholders when i am tired of writing up notes at the computer - i wish there was someone there to hold me while i go to sleep......
but, for me and i think for you too newman, not just anyone will do!

this thread has made me examine my egyptian experience closely - a few folk have asked
"why do women fall under the spell of a few pretty words spoken over a couple of days....they would not fall for it at home"
well i now think that deep down it is out of lonlyness - not for sex but for a soulmate - many of us are not used to sweet words at home and feel that we will never find anyone to share our lives with so we get overwhelmed by a holiday romance.

i know i am well away from newmans question but these are a few of the thoughts i had while reading the thread.

newman - i dont really know what to tell you - i too have just admitted to myself that i would love to be loved and alowed to give love in return - after many years telling myself that i was happy alone and did not ever need anyone - and it is a bit frightening - because i have no idea how to go about 'finding' someone - not even sure that that works (going out and looking - its not like buying apples is it lol) the only thing i have been gratefull to my beach habibi for is that he led me to meet all of you, make some great new friends in egypt and he finally opend my eyes to the fact that i could fall in love again.
i guess the only thing we can do is to take up offers of going out with friends, expanding our circle of friends and get to know people - sooner or later someone will introduce us to someone and so on....... or we join a dating agency lol

anyway sorry to ramble on yake care and good luck
love kay

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Originally posted by newman575:
I think you're right, I've to stop thinking bythis dreamy way, live my life as it's, try to enjoy it by the right way, work so hard and colect money. may be one a day I can attract someone.. now age and how do u look like are not important, themost important thing is MONEY, and I'll do my best to get it.
thaks alot to everyone gives his/her opinion, and wish me good luck to live my life and enjoy it lonely.

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Originally posted by newman575:
Ok let's start, is it enough to engage with someone who loves you even though your family doesn't accept that..

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Well, I think it is extreamly difficult to live with a man u don't love. I tried it once and after several months i felt really sick. I lived with him not because of money, but because I thought he was a good person, he loved me and took care of me. I thought i would menage to make myself love him. But i failed and can't stand him anymore even as a friend. It is my fault of course. But I understood that without a feeling it is very very difficult to live with a man no matter how good he is. Money willn't help. Finally u will hate ur man, money and urself.

But money is still very important, as it gives FREEDOM. In my opinion, a flat and good salary are not bad at all. But I belive a man should be motivated to provide his wife and children with good conditions (financial as well). It is quite natural. And woman should provide husband with a support, he should be sure that he has a place, where he would always find a support, care and understanding.

However, not everybody meet his/her person, soulmate, or it is not always possible to be with him.

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Originally posted by Lukoshko:
By the way, ur post surprised me a bit. As i noticed lately, lots of women are ready to provide their lovers with money and do everything for them. I am talking about the well known situation with resort gigolos. Those women don't care about money at all. And there are quite a big amount of such women in Hurgada and Sharm.

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hey I'm looking for a wife not for someone who I'll spend my vacation with.. but I think it's a good idea when I decide to spend an enjoyalbe time with someone
by any way I think I've to stop thinking or looking for my soulmate and I wish one a day I'll find her.. I'll spend my whole enargy & my time in playing gym and in working.. and do my best to stop thinking about emotions and desires..

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Originally posted by newman575:

by any way I think I've to stop thinking or looking for my soulmate and I wish one a day I'll find her.. I'll spend my whole enargy & my time in playing gym and in working.. and do my best to stop thinking about emotions and desires..

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Good luck

i will not find better words more than Kay did, and in fact it is true, for me also it is a matter of soulmate and lonliness. and regarding your main question , don't think much about this, and don't focus ur mind on this point, your other half will hit u suddenly ,don't search, just be yourself, and don't feel petty for being lonely ,crush into new friends, fill your time, avode Haram, god will bless u, work for your own career, show your tenderness and feelings to friends, relatives , orphans.
and don't worry , u will find your own love, if it is not so hard to find then u will not know how precious it is!!!

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Originally posted by newman575:
Hey everyone it was along since my last topic, I really missed you all.. this time I just interest to know your opinion (especially females) about love & marriage..
Ok let's start, is it enough to engage with someone who loves you, has his own apartment and has a good salary??? Or you need more.. like a fancy car, a huge account at the bank, a big home.. and so on
What do you need and what are you looking for?? What about wedding party, "Shabka" and "Mahr". Can you marry someone you love even though your family doesn't accept that..
About my experience, I think all girls like to get everything, LOVE & MONEY.. everyone needs everything as a dream but when we are in a situation needs a decision we've to know what we need more. I do my best in my whole life to find someone who will love me just for my personality, every girl I know needs to live with a reach man.. she can spend a fanny time with me till she find her reach man, so that I decided to enjoy my time with my girlfriends till I become a reach man.
Do you know it's much easier than marriage, but I was dream to keep myself just to my girl.. but there's no girl who can accept me without money.. so what I've to do?!!!!

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