posted
Hello there, I just have a little question and I was a bit curious what you here on this board though about it... The question is: Do you think it's important with love, from the start, in a marriage?
So, if you have a minute to spare...feel free to air your views... Thank you!
Posts: 23 | From: Sweden | Registered: Dec 2004
| IP: Logged |
posted
hi yoghut, i do think love is important at the start of a marriage, because i think its one of the main things marriage is baised on. apart from trust, caring, wanting to look after eachother in sickness and in health, honesty, and respect etc. love isnt always need at the start of a marriage, e.g my aunt had an arranged marriage, and didnt know the man she was marrying, so there for couldnt love him, but years after being married, my aunt fell ill and couldnt take care of her self, and for the first time my uncle had to do it for her, and from this she learnt to like my uncle, then to trust him, then to respect him, and then to love him.
Posts: 28 | Registered: Apr 2005
| IP: Logged |
posted
It depends on what you have been brought up in. If you have had a Western upbringing where romantic love is the only reason for marrying then love is important at the start.
If your upbringing is a culture that has arranged marriages then your expectations are different. Inshahallah love will come but if it doesn't and both of you continue to behave as a good wife/husband with respect to each other, fulfilling the roles, being good parents etc I would say that is a successful marriage too.
posted
Love is the most important thing if you want to marry. If you don't love the other person don't even think about marriage. Imagine you have to live with that person for the rest of your life. Can you imagine that? If the anwer is positive - then good luck to the both of you! Posts: 30135 | From: The owner of this website killed ES....... | Registered: Feb 2004
| IP: Logged |
posted
i dont think that without love i can be happy,the respect point is not enough if u want to live as u deserve!But its only my own view....without love...no marriage! But as akshar said if ure in that situation that the family arrange the weding,which i never liked and accepted....maybe the love can come in future,and maybe we mistake the love with respect and liking maybe,some sympathy,but till u feel the real crazy love,making ur heart melt,maybe u`ll never be happy as u can wih the man u love! Maybe it could seems as a successful marriage,but will u be happy really on this way,its u who will decide this!Its your life,and u only can decide! Anyway,im happy that i had the right to choose alone,and whatever i decide to do,its from my head,lol!!!!!! Good or bad,i make all by myself and to myself,so noone to blame after years,like:"Its all your fault that im not happy now,or that u stoped my happiness!",only myself,and this makes me happy,im happy now from my choise,but even if someday i am not,i`ll know that i tried,and i make my best,but it was all my desigion! Wish u luck both,even if u dont love him yet,i pray u will someday,unless i dont think u can be really happy!!!!!!! I even know some cases when they really love their hubby`s later on,but not the same as the big love! IN other cases,they marry,have even kids and then they found their great amazing love,and then sorry so bad for that choise,but.......too late,the kids always make the position too different! Anyway,good luck to u both!Hope will be for good!
Posts: 1134 | From: NoNe oF uR BuSiNeS | Registered: Jul 2004
| IP: Logged |
UBBFriend: Email this page to someone!
Printer-friendly view of this topic