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If you knew that an Egyptian guy has not told the truth about having a fiancee and about his young age to a Western woman he met as a tour guide? And if you knew for a fact that he is corresponding with other female tourists he had some sweet time during their visits? And if you knew for a fact that she plans to come to visit him and spend a week living with him?
At the momement, I hold the position that it is really none of my business what they do, they are both over 18, actually, one of them like two times over
It only bothers me, that they somehow met through me and at the end of the day, I do not want to see her hurt.
Any advise?
Posts: 77 | From: egypt | Registered: Aug 2007
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I wouldn't say it just like that to her. Maybe she doesn't like/ want to hear what you would say. I would tell her a few stories about touristguys all over the world and lots of female friends, a kid here and there... or; you can make her read a few stories on ES or another forum.
You can give a few hints. If she is a clever girl, she will be careful and won't believe every sweet word or phrase (the stars, the moon, etc ) from this guy. Posts: 2932 | From: Just now and then | Registered: Nov 2006
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I would care and definitely try to warn her about this man - if she'll listen to you is another thing. Good luck in trying to prevent another relationship disaster.
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I have this affliction called 'can't mind my own business' So i would tell her, i would have to say i hope we remain friends and whatever you decide to do about this is your choice and i will respect that but i think you should know these things so that you can make an informed decision. I have to say though that as you are probably aware not all people will thank you for being honest so make your decision with that in mind, Good luck Posts: 1797 | From: By my husband's side | Registered: Nov 2007
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say "Dude your getting fu**ED over" truth hurts get over it
Posts: 3945 | From: ' Res Contr ' Amor non es guirens, lai on sos poders s'atura | Registered: Dec 2007
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Well, I told her about this page and I hope she will be curious enough to go and look at it. If she finds this thread it will be kind of a way of telling her - she just would not know it is her and him in the story, that is the problem
I have tried all the indirect warnings and it seems she does not care.
By the way, I am not sure if she is really taken by him or just wants to spice up her life with this adventure. If it is the latter, than it she is not in any danger to ger hurt, is she?
Posts: 77 | From: egypt | Registered: Aug 2007
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Tell her, **once only**, clearly and without hints so any further actions she takes are done in full and conscious knowledge - whether she is in it for 'a bit of spice' or really in love.
At the moment, you know something she doesn't. If you tell her, she knows it too and can either choose to step away or 'go for it' anyway.
Then you have done your duty as a friend and the rest is entirely her own choice.
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One more thing that complicates my position on this is that she is more a friend of a friend and she came to Egypt with her and my husband helped to organize the trip. The guy is some third line cousin from Luxor.
If she were a friend I would be more determined that I need to act, like this I am not sure it is right for me to get involved. Posts: 77 | From: egypt | Registered: Aug 2007
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it is a hard situation. right now my BFF of 20 years, her man is digging on me, texting me, asking me to go with him and i dont know how to tell my friend what he is doing. i dont want her to be hurt.
drop hints and stuff. but when it all boils down to it, would u rather see her hurt over this guy cheating, or get hurt over you telling her the truth?
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I have told few women that they are being used by their Egyptian men. Do not think they will thank you for warning them. You'll end up being the villain there. Both sides will be angry with you interfering.
Even if they know everything what happens in Egypt, most of them keep telling their man is different. Some think, because they are not rich or old women, they are not being used. I think best thing to do is really what you already did; give them ES forum address Posts: 7 | From: Egypt | Registered: Feb 2001
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Well really, the woman has got to be awfully stupid and desperate to think that someone of her age has the ability to snag a hot young arab man for any other reason than papers and/or money. She most likely wont listen to you, and will only see you as trying to stop her from getting at last, a piece of arse lol
Some people just need to figure it out on their own.
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Well, my husband called the guy and I hope he scared him enough to stop all this nonsense and leave her alone - so I hope this will solve the problem. Posts: 77 | From: egypt | Registered: Aug 2007
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quote:Originally posted by naya: Well, my husband called the guy and I hope he scared him enough to stop all this nonsense and leave her alone - so I hope this will solve the problem.
God bless you husband for dealing with it man to man. Wish a few more men would act in this way.
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So i would tell her, i would have to say i hope we remain friends and whatever you decide to do about this is your choice and i will respect that but i think you should know these things so that you can make an informed decision. I have to say though that as you are probably aware not all people will thank you for being honest so make your decision with that in mind, ![[Mad]](mad.gif)
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