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Why should a woman insist in becoming a grandmother? Because she has nothing else usefull to do ! I cannot imagine that a woman with a usefull life is keeping herself busy with such an issue. She has other things on her mind! So, give the elderly women something usefull to keep themselves busy. They will get better and nicer MIL's...
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I find it bizarre that anyone would care about gossip, if people have so little in their own lives that they need to talk about mine then I will ignore them. It reminds me of the relentlessness 'they will talk' bs that some of my middle eastern friends worry about. If people will gossip or interfere then to hell with them, the decision is between the husband and wife and god.
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That's a cultural difference. For what I have seen about it, being the subject in gossip and rumours is what everybody fears for. They strive for positive recommendations. The bad thing is that when there is something negative that occured in someones life, it will be a negative reference for the whole family. It's like how we tend to judge the children of a thief or a whore out of the lower class neighbourhoods; we know that it isn't fair to give them e negative recommendation because of their parentage, but everyone is doing it. There are even jobs where the behaviour of the complete family is screened as a safety measure, so it's not completely bullshit, it's proved that the behaviour of family influences the rest of the family... that's why everybody does not like the black sheeps... But this hasn't much to do with having baby's or not. Being infertile is not a criminal act. However it is considered as negative by intervening family-members...
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its so ridiculous how when a couple has trouble conceiving, automatically its the womans fault. i know a woman who tried for years to have a baby with her husband, and with no luck, they gave up and adopted a son. well, her husband died and she moved onto another man. 3 months into their dating, she became PREGNANT and now they have 3 kids together.
turns out it was her late husband who was unable to conceive. there was nothing wrong with her fertility at all!
plus, who wants to get married and be tied down with kids right away? its good to take time out to enjoy your time together first...i mean, in egypt you cant even touch each other until marriage, so now is the time that its allowed and you can go everywhere and do everything together with no rules or interruptions. kids kinda spoil that lol....
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Yes I know Egyptians trying for a baby and the man will not go for tests for a long time. I think the pressure to have a baby is because the children are still expected to take care of the parents when they are old. The society mentality has not changed as fast as the new economics.
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