[This message has been edited by KeepinItReal (edited 21 June 2005).]
What are you studying in university? What will be your future job? What is your boyfriend's social status? Did he go to college? Was he working in the tourist industry while he was in Sharm?
I saw a lot of girls falling in love with men in Egypt that they would have never even given a look at in their home country (don't know if it makes sense, sorry for my bad English).That's the first thing I wanted to tell you.
You did right by not getting married when he asked you to. No need to rush.
I don't know if making him come is such a good idea. I mean, yes, it's great in a sense, because you will get to know him better, see how he adjusts to life there (although he will stay only a short time). It's less great if you have some doubt about him. Are you sure he will come back to Egypt after, getting a visa is something difficult, so he may want to stay in UK. It happened to one of my friends, that's why I'm telling you about this. I don't really like the money thing either, but anyway, it's done.
I heard a lot of bad things about these guys working in tourist areas. And after all, you only met him twice, once in Sharm, and then in Cairo. Would you trust an English man, or whoever else, after only seeing him twice in your life?
Keep focusing on your studies, and time will tell you if you can trust him or not. And always remember that a lot of foreign women on this forum are happily married to Egyptian men! But it takes time to know someone, so take your time!
All the best.
Raniame, I am a student nurse doing the diploma.
He was working as a DJ in Sharm, and i think that if he was still there i would not be with him now but because he has moved back to Cairo i feel like i can trust him more. He is working in his dads business which i dont think is brillant pay but he is saving to come over.
He never went to university or college and left school with no qualifications.
That is what I realised and i decided to trust my fella, it worked for me.It might for you. It is the same as any relationship there are no guarantees.
personally I think it is easier for a Western to adapt to their life than they to ours. this is on the basis of a 12 year marriage to a Syrian in the UK before he died and a nearly 3 year marriage to an Egyptian in Egpyt.
Prepare yourself for the fact that he is very unlikely to be granted a VISA to visit you and therefore if you want to continue with the relationship you will have to continue to visit him in Egypt. Is that the sort of relationship you want and are you able to afford to do that as a student with quite sometime left at University.
I also don't think you should be offering him £200 to pay his costs, It is not the norm for women to be giving money to men in Egypt.