This is topic will i everfind what i am looking for during this life time..?? in forum Share Your Egyptian Experiences/Love & Marriage chat at EgyptSearch Forums.
i am an 100% Egyptian .. yes...not ashamed to say it..
spite of all attack on Egyptian men here.. well..
i didn't live that much in Egypt though.. i was every where .. europe..far east .. now i am in Brazil..
few years...in two visits i tried marriage with an Egyptian woman.. the first was dumb..dirty..lazy..well my mistake any way..so .. terminated it..puff puff second visit...another Egyptian wife..pretty..clean...smart..active..and... SO AMBITIOUS i loved the bitch.. why bitch..?? coz all she was after was to leave to Europe where i lived...and enjoy the luxurious life..as she said once.. she was faking it all.. even sex...i was sure that it had no feelings.. one day i discovered that she is stealing my money.. and when i canceled the credit cards .. few months later i discovered that she is cheating.. a 64 year old man.. well.. i almost died.. now.. i am married for number 3..
a converted muslim i met once.. not an Egyptian this time..
i loved her immediately.. very pure soul.. very smart woman.. very honest.. very tender.. she loves me to death.. she has everything i wanted in a woman.. except one thing... she doesn't have any libido at all.. we rarely make love.. she doesn't know how to plçease me in bed.. and...i must ask for it everytime i want to make love.. i tried everything.. i love oral sex.. i love sex in general.. i tried everything that makes her move towards me.. but... she is always waiting for my signal.. but.. she never show any interest in sex.. i hate to approach her every time.. i need to feel her wanting me.. i talked to her about it.. she said she knows she doesn't satisfy me enough.. and she told me to find another woman.. but after divorcing her first.. because she cann't stand being a second wife..
i am afraid to suggest therapy.. that will hurt her feelings.. coz she is so sensitive.. she is already in pain.. and i cann't think of another woman behind her back.. that will kill her.. and i can never cheat on her.. i was cheated on b4... and i know how it feels.. can any one tell me.. am i cursed..?? is there a chance in this life time for me to become happy with any woman...???? omg...that was long...i am sorry..
Posted by mysticheart (Member # 6838) on :
Don't apologize for asking for help. You have already taken the first step in talking to her about it. Has she told you the reason for her not having a libido? What is her age cause also hormones can have a large effect on this. Is she a shy woman? Maybe she feels that it is wrong of her to approach you for sex, feels it is lustful and the place of the man? You have started talking to her about this so continue. Don't accept to let her off by her saying to divorce her and find another woman. You say she loves you and you love her so just talk it out. Therapy will probably do you no good as it is a very personal matter and she will not feel comfortable discussing this in front of an outsider. As i said, ask her what is the cause of the low libido and if she doesn't know, maybe she should be examined by a doctor to see if it is a medical cause. A full workup, blood tests and all.
Posted by Albino_Eskimo (Member # 11479) on :
quote:Originally posted by paulistano: i will try to be brief..hard task though..
i am an 100% Egyptian .. yes...not ashamed to say it..
spite of all attack on Egyptian men here.. well..
i didn't live that much in Egypt though.. i was every where .. europe..far east .. now i am in Brazil..
few years...in two visits i tried marriage with an Egyptian woman.. the first was dumb..dirty..lazy..well my mistake any way..so .. terminated it..puff puff second visit...another Egyptian wife..pretty..clean...smart..active..and... SO AMBITIOUS i loved the bitch.. why bitch..?? coz all she was after was to leave to Europe where i lived...and enjoy the luxurious life..as she said once.. she was faking it all.. even sex...i was sure that it had no feelings.. one day i discovered that she is stealing my money.. and when i canceled the credit cards .. few months later i discovered that she is cheating.. a 64 year old man.. well.. i almost died.. now.. i am married for number 3..
a converted muslim i met once.. not an Egyptian this time..
i loved her immediately.. very pure soul.. very smart woman.. very honest.. very tender.. she loves me to death.. she has everything i wanted in a woman.. except one thing... she doesn't have any libido at all.. we rarely make love.. she doesn't know how to plçease me in bed.. and...i must ask for it everytime i want to make love.. i tried everything.. i love oral sex.. i love sex in general.. i tried everything that makes her move towards me.. but... she is always waiting for my signal.. but.. she never show any interest in sex.. i hate to approach her every time.. i need to feel her wanting me.. i talked to her about it.. she said she knows she doesn't satisfy me enough.. and she told me to find another woman.. but after divorcing her first.. because she cann't stand being a second wife..
i am afraid to suggest therapy.. that will hurt her feelings.. coz she is so sensitive.. she is already in pain.. and i cann't think of another woman behind her back.. that will kill her.. and i can never cheat on her.. i was cheated on b4... and i know how it feels.. can any one tell me.. am i cursed..?? is there a chance in this life time for me to become happy with any woman...???? omg...that was long...i am sorry..
Just like Guest of Life:
If you behave like a pussy you won't get any.
This is becoming a very over used lesson... Why don't you Egy-males just grow up and learn?
Posted by mark2006 (Member # 11594) on :
i am sorry for your situation but doesnt the real love from the bottom of here heard can be enough , responding you even she dont want to make love with you cant be enough , looking to her eyes and you know she love you cant be enough , i think woman if she really love and ask her husband to see other one cause of any minus in her it mean the top of love , think again and try to find a solution , go to a doctor dont shy and love can make anything ,she is the third !!!
Posted by paulistano (Member # 11919) on :
quote:Originally posted by mysticheart: Don't apologize for asking for help. You have already taken the first step in talking to her about it. Has she told you the reason for her not having a libido? What is her age cause also hormones can have a large effect on this. Is she a shy woman? Maybe she feels that it is wrong of her to approach you for sex, feels it is lustful and the place of the man? You have started talking to her about this so continue. Don't accept to let her off by her saying to divorce her and find another woman. You say she loves you and you love her so just talk it out. Therapy will probably do you no good as it is a very personal matter and she will not feel comfortable discussing this in front of an outsider. As i said, ask her what is the cause of the low libido and if she doesn't know, maybe she should be examined by a doctor to see if it is a medical cause. A full workup, blood tests and all.
i don't know how to thank you enough..first for answering me. second for being so polite and reasonable... well..i am 36...she is 47..she really is in good health...and has no age features on her body ..i don't think is a factor here.. but yes...she is so shy..and she told me that she was grown up with this idea that it is not proper to approach a man... when i her met i had no idea that she was 11 years older than me.. actually she looks very younger than she is.. and her age never meant anything to me..and no one from ppl around us can guess or feel that age difference... well...thanks any way..you are so kind..
Posted by paulistano (Member # 11919) on :
quote:Originally posted by Albino_Eskimo:
quote:Originally posted by paulistano: i will try to be brief..hard task though..
Just like Guest of Life:
If you behave like a pussy you won't get any.
This is becoming a very over used lesson... Why don't you Egy-males just grow up and learn?
what can i say.. some ppl really need therapy... lady...you should get some help b4 you kill yrself one day and do the world a favour.. i will simply disregard your very wise respectful comment.. simply because i am not in the mood to argue and fuss with a mentally sick mind these days..
i have enough of problems already.. thanks for nothing any way..
Posted by paulistano (Member # 11919) on :
quote:Originally posted by mark2006: i am sorry for your situation but doesnt the real love from the bottom of here heard can be enough , responding you even she dont want to make love with you cant be enough , looking to her eyes and you know she love you cant be enough , i think woman if she really love and ask her husband to see other one cause of any minus in her it mean the top of love , think again and try to find a solution , go to a doctor dont shy and love can make anything ,she is the third !!!
thanks mark.. actually human needs is important.. i am here talking about instincts.. lack of sex id diffinately not healthy.. she is responding to me when i approach her.. but she can stay in my arms few hours everyday..hugging and kissing.. and when it comes to the next step.. she simply pulls back.. unless i close the door on her withdrawing.. she told me that she is shy..i know that also about her.. what is important for her is being loved emotionally not physically.. and i need both.. we spend long hours together...going out places..travelling..doing sports together.. we don't have a boring routine sort of life.. actually our life so far is full of adventures.. i somtimes think that maybe she is a lesbian.. but..after some tests...i am possitive that she is not.. some ppl told me that she is feeling so much secure with me ..maybe i should try to make her move her libido by making her jealous... but..i love her too much ..i cann't put her to that pain.. and belive me.. i know that she is the third..and i know that she as a person is all i dreamt of of a woman..
well thanks any way mark...
Posted by mysticheart (Member # 6838) on :
oh please do not absolutely do not try to make her jealous. But as i see you already know that is a horrible thing to do so thank god for that. Ok so you know already that this is coming from her being shy and that she was raised to think it wrong to approach a man. So you have quite a job ahead of you, its up to you to teach her that it is only wrong for her to approach a man that is not her husband but that it is an honor for you to have her approach her. She needs only time and kind words from you to encourage her. I can relate to her in this area, while i am quite younger than her (32) I am also very shy in this because of my first marriage in which i was cheated on and rejected alot when i approached him. As a result i very rarely will approach the man i am with, hardly ever for fear of rejection. Also i have come to feel that if a man does not approach me first that he simply doesnt want me. So, give her time, encourage her every chance you get, but dont push it. Tell her how much you love her and would like for her to do this. It sounds that she actually does want you in the intimate way but is unsure of expressing that, so be sure to tell her that you want her to be happy and that you want to fulfil all her desires any time she wants for it so for her not to be afraid to approach you, or not to hesitate to let you know that she wants you. As i said it will take time, it took her time to learn not to approach, and it will take time to learn that it is right for her to approach you as her husband.
And ignore albino, if you tried the approach she is suggesting it would surely turn your wife away from sex altogether. Some people do not like to be forced and pressured. I know for some people that is a major turn on but i dont think that would be the case in your wifes situation.
Posted by mysticheart (Member # 6838) on :
what is important for her is being loved emotionally not physically.. and i need both..
I know also that feeling too. Far too long i have been wanted or "loved" for the sexual or physical side of things only. Being loved for just being me is very very important. But being desired is also important. It really seems that she has had something bad in her past that is causing her reluctance. Keep talking with her, patiently
Posted by QueenBee (Member # 9378) on :
try to figure out why she isnt hot for you. Is it the cologne? Or lack thereof? Are you fat? In a bad way? Do you have other issues in the home that may cause her to resent you? Some people take the day to bed, if you know what I mean. If you are pising her off during the day, she may not be excited in the night. I recommend counseling. You should tell her that you want the relationship to work, and that you are committed to doing what it takes to make it work. But that you have a difficult time with her lack of sex drive. And you want to work to achieve a solution in this. If counseling is not an option, try to look at her emotional situation. Whatever you can do to support her being happy and leading a fulfilling life will help in the sack. Excersize is great for this, as are other invigorating activities, both physical and mental. If she is depressed, that can really hurt the libido. You still there? Oh yeah, and ask Allah for help always.
Posted by LaZeeZ (Member # 10655) on :
I bet she needs therapy but I doubt it's shyness, at 47 I think low libido is normal.
I don't understand why people ignore age and its effect on our biology and even psychology like that.
Posted by DawnBev (Member # 11276) on :
at 47 low libido is not necessarily normal - its very much an individual thing.
Posted by LaZeeZ (Member # 10655) on :
What I know is that women lose like half of their estrogen and testosterone when they become menopausal and testosterone has a direct effect on libido and I heard they even suggest testosterone patchs to those who are menopausal.
Maybe I was informed wrong but I'm curious to see how age doesn't affect libido!
Posted by DawnBev (Member # 11276) on :
Sorry, I'd forgotten about the hormones and their effects! I can only comment from experience and friends' experiences. Some of my friends have low libido in their late 40s because they are tired - women (generally)put more into a relationship than men, we have to do everything and then the man expects us to be skipping around the bedroom at 10pm in sexy lingerie when he's had his feet up all evening watching TV! Women are the ones that bear children and do all the hard work. Of course, we get tired. But my main point was that if you still really really fancy someone, the libido/desire should still be there - if its hormonal, medication can change that. From my own personal experience: when I was married in my 30s, after having Sam I totally went off sex. Looking back now, I can see I stopped fancying him, and he me, and we were totally unsuited to each other, not a lot in common, married too soon. After I had an hysterectomy when I was 43 or 44 (cant remember exactly), my libido increased, and I have had the best sex ever in my life. I had to wait a long time.
Posted by DawnBev (Member # 11276) on :
Then again, I had been celibate for about 4 or 5 years, so no wonder it was good!
ignore me - I talk a load of crap sometimes!!
Posted by LaZeeZ (Member # 10655) on :
quote:Originally posted by DawnBev: After I had an hysterectomy when I was 43 or 44 (cant remember exactly), my libido increased, and I have had the best sex ever in my life. I had to wait a long time.
I have to believe you since you talk from experince but I believe most women who do that will have a drop in their testosteron level which should work against sex drive.
I agree with you that stress and being tired is a major factor but this factors are more effective with age. Perhaps if they try medical help or even pick very right times it will work, like early in morning when there is no stress and they are not tired, tried this Pauli?
Posted by Demiana (Member # 2710) on :
I guess most people differ in their sexdrive, you have to meet each other halfway and be generous and better the circumstances. But when some time in a relationship one does get bored. Does not have to be a problem. Playing the piano can be nice too!:-)
Posted by bbqrobhaz (Member # 2581) on :
So demiana... are you a pianist?
Posted by Demiana (Member # 2710) on :
Just for fun familyparties or the church, non-competive, we have all sorts of instruments in the home and I love to play, especially with kids/others or accompanying them!:-) Might be more intimate and relaxing then sex!:-) We have an arabic guitar but unfortunately my dh does not come from a family where music was part of childrens upbringing. But son learns how to play the guitar and will learn the arabic guitar one day too. Son and I play James Blunt on the guitar! Of course next to house of the Rising Sun. Gets me going... Dh is taking part in taking them to their lessons and making them do their homework and takes whatever they need to performances and makes pictures and film.
Posted by bbqrobhaz (Member # 2581) on :
Demiana... really interesting!@ You're chatting to a musician by the way - jazz and classical piano. What talent in your family. Sounds amazing! Your surname isn't "Von Trapp" is it, by any chance?!
Posted by Demiana (Member # 2710) on :
quote:Originally posted by bbqrobhaz: Demiana... really interesting!@ You're chatting to a musician by the way - jazz and classical piano. What talent in your family. Sounds amazing! Your surname isn't "Von Trapp" is it, by any chance?!
LOL!:-)
bbqrobhaz, do you practice and work in music in Egypt? Oh, I would always love to go somewhere in Egypt to listen and enjoy but the family of my dh is not interested, only familykids like to sing along some songs with the guitar. I am glad in our coptic church they do sing (or try to!:-) and use all sorts of instruments.
Posted by Demiana (Member # 2710) on :
When we were married we had a familyceremony/party, I have a large family, with friends from dh and colleagues. Dh would get us all do the Egyptian 'stickdance' and I would accompany the songs we sang in my weddingdress on the piano!
Posted by Demiana (Member # 2710) on :
Paulistano, I am sorry that there is always something in life that can put one really down. Sex, no sex, is just not my issue, but I can imagine that it can get an obsessive pain.
Posted by Albino_Eskimo (Member # 11479) on :
quote:Originally posted by LaZeeZ: What I know is that women lose like half of their estrogen and testosterone when they become menopausal and testosterone has a direct effect on libido and I heard they even suggest testosterone patchs to those who are menopausal.
Maybe I was informed wrong but I'm curious to see how age doesn't affect libido!
And how are men any different?
The reason why so many men get prostate cancer is lower levels of testerone. Men lose far more hormones than women because its so sudden.
What women lose more of than testerone (depending on the woman) is progesterone.
Posted by paulistano (Member # 11919) on :
i owe to every one here gave me a productive reasonable logical advice a big thanks... specially mysticheart..queenbee..DawnBev..demiana.. and..by the way.. my wife isn't a house wife who has house work daily breaking her appetite for sex..or love making as i like to call it..she is a retired judge and writing her second book..she has a very organized daily life.. and she has 3 people working in the house to surve her comfort.. i am the cook at home..and i don't allow no body to cook our food..she loves my cooking.. i read everything she writes...we share ideas..we agree all along on various opinions..political..religious..social.. she enjoys my sence of humor...enjoys my tenderness.. i feel the same with her.. we go out places..we dine out..we travel..we do sports daily.. she has never been happier in her life..according to her..being with me.. that is why i cann't understand why sexual desire isn't as strong as me.. it doesn't make any sence.. and...by the way..i don't stink..i am not fat.. and as i said..we keep hugging and kissing like teenagers but..in most cases..she would prefer to sleep in my arms rather than going further.. she was married twice b4..and she didn't tell me much about her ex marriages..and i never pushed myself reading the pages of her past if she doesn't want me to read them.. maybe something happened then..??? could be.. pppffffffff and i really cann't believe that her age is the problem here...well maybe it is...but i cann't just swollow the idea.. coz if it is...what will i do then in the following years..???
well..i guess it is my luck.. looks like i found the answer to my question at the top of the topic..
i tried everything you fellas mentioned here...and still nothing changed.. thank god i am a patient man..may god give me more strength to stand this as long as it might take her to change.. i really appreciate your sincere help..i never talked to any one publicly about my problem...which seems to some of you obviously simple and can be solved by playing an instrument... but.. it is really making me nuts.. any way ...after recieving your comments here...i really feel better..at least that someone listened to me..is a real comfort... i cann't thank you guys enough.. but still...big thanks to you..
Posted by LaZeeZ (Member # 10655) on :
If your going nuts now, what will happen after her 50s? Pauli be realistic! Sharing isn't that bad.
Hope those around here who keep saying age doesn't matter take a lesson. Life isn't all about cuddling.
Posted by kaye (Member # 11525) on :
paulistano try a more spiritual approach something you might both enjoy http://www.tantra.com/mission/lacroix.html if you truly love your wife and you want your relationship to last ...discuss this option with her Posted by mysticheart (Member # 6838) on :
It's never easy having a different appetite for this than your partner. I know this also, the man i am with now is the only man i have ever been with that is not constantly all over me. In fact he wishes it no more than every 4 days to once a week. Me on the other hand>>>> lol well what can i say. But it goes by his saying not mine. He is 37 and says that not only is sex not the most important thing in life but that he is older and his body just doesnt work that way. But it is frustrating, when someone doesnt approach you it leaves you feeling undesired and unattractive. Although he does approach me in his time , i however will not approach him due to the fact he has said only every 4 days so i dont want to be rejected. Its confusing and hurtful at times. Be patient that is all i can really tell you and that is a difficult thing when you feel such frustration.
Posted by bbqrobhaz (Member # 2581) on :
Hey Demiana! Yup, I teach music in Egypt... am English guy but worked over here for 4 years. Truely fantastic country and have loved every minute. Music teaching here is great!
Posted by Demiana (Member # 2710) on :
quote:Originally posted by bbqrobhaz: Hey Demiana! Yup, I teach music in Egypt... am English guy but worked over here for 4 years. Truely fantastic country and have loved every minute. Music teaching here is great!
Sounds like an interesting life bbgrobhaz!
Posted by Charm el Feikh? (Member # 10243) on :
quote:Originally posted by bbqrobhaz: Hey Demiana! Yup, I teach music in Egypt... am English guy but worked over here for 4 years. Truely fantastic country and have loved every minute. Music teaching here is great!
you sound like a nice guy.. welcome to ES
Posted by Demiana (Member # 2710) on :
quote:Originally posted by kaye: paulistano try a more spiritual approach something you might both enjoy http://www.tantra.com/mission/lacroix.html if you truly love your wife and you want your relationship to last ...discuss this option with her
Lazeez, noone is denying that sexdrive may fall down after menopause, even if there are women that on the contrary have an increas of sexdrive after this. It is not in age, it is in maintaining yourself and your partner. How difficult is it for a woman to please her man. Only when traumatized, medical problems or personality traits, personal style and a wide gap between your and his desire, or with other 'problems' not 'age' you will have difficulties in this area. Thinking 'age' will not get you anywhere. You might leave and find a young girl and since you focused on age you missed the point and you will get there again. If this is your highest desire in a relation you should focus on 'sexdrive' and find out with the women you will meet.
Posted by Demiana (Member # 2710) on :
Picked the wrong message to reply sorry. Can't edit it anymore.
"I don't understand why people ignore age and its effect on our biology and even psychology like that.
Posted by karemo7 (Member # 386) on :
hmm try to accept your wife as she is , your wife has many advantages you cann't find all of them in one woman. be wise and look to your futuer . hope you have a good life.
Posted by paulistano (Member # 11919) on :
quote:Originally posted by karemo7: hmm try to accept your wife as she is , your wife has many advantages you cann't find all of them in one woman. be wise and look to your futuer . hope you have a good life.
yes karemo7..she is one in a milion.. but can any man or even a woman.. live without sexual satisfaction..?? if yes...then for how long..?? in my case i really cann't... i must find a way.. i don't want to live chattered between my love to her .. and my desire wish should be fulfilled with th eperson i love.. thanks for the advice... but it won't work in my case.. and thanks for the best wishes... i really need it..
Posted by With a name like Smuckers (Member # 10289) on :
you should try to accept her how she is. everyone has problems or issues, just different problems, cut your losses and stay married to her,she's a good person and to expect to find 100% to your liking is crazy,especially since she is a convert, cherish her,respect her and give her more romance,try differnet things.Otherwise, be satisified with what you have Posted by Albino_Eskimo (Member # 11479) on :
quote:Originally posted by paulistano:
quote:Originally posted by Albino_Eskimo:
quote:Originally posted by paulistano: i will try to be brief..hard task though..
Just like Guest of Life:
If you behave like a pussy you won't get any.
This is becoming a very over used lesson... Why don't you Egy-males just grow up and learn?
what can i say.. some ppl really need therapy... lady...you should get some help b4 you kill yrself one day and do the world a favour.. i will simply disregard your very wise respectful comment.. simply because i am not in the mood to argue and fuss with a mentally sick mind these days..
i have enough of problems already.. thanks for nothing any way..
Paul whatever your ideas are, I am not really buying it here.
She's a retired judge with two books on her CV, and she has hired help.
There is a 11 year age gap.
I am thinking here you are not much more than a boy toy. You have gained considerably in this situation and now you are going to rob her of the one security she has with you "fidelity".
Go ahead screw around on her. This is how these situations (agreements) always end.
What the hell was she expecting anyways? She knows you will eventually screw around on her, so go out and do it.
Everyone who contributed to this thread by avoiding the obvious and dancing around on their tippy toes to save your feelings have given you the permission you need to do what you are born to do.
Gees.... Posted by cocoapuffs (Member # 9452) on :
oh shut up albino...how evil of you to plant the idea in his head that his wife is using him...few of us actually thought this so dont act like its self-evident.
You dont know the woman, so quit sowing suspicion in her husband for her.
Shameless people.....shameless......
Posted by paulistano (Member # 11919) on :
she is using me..???? for what albino..?? true she has this good job b4.. true that she is a writer.. but i am also with my very successful career.. i am the captain of a salvage and research vessel.. what this got to do with any thing any way..??? i cann't go cheating around Albino..for so many reasons.. i am a muslim..i respect my religion..i fear God..i try all the time to avoid doing the sin.. i tried to be cheated on b4..i know how it hurts.. and i will never do that to her... so clean up your mind... not all men are dirty like you say.. not all people have twisted sick minds like you.. so many people in this world are still honest and sincere.. i know your kind of women... you are really in need of some help.. you make me ...disgusted..
know what..??? that is enough said here..about this topic.. i really regret already talking about my personnel affairs in public like this... i ask who ever in charge to close thos topic and end the discussion .. coz with ppl like this Albino...it will get really nasty.. and that wasn't my intention..
Posted by garfield (Member # 10258) on :
I believe she is a very lucky woman to have such a caring husband....and she seems like a very kind and caring wife...except for the one issue...keep trying...keep caring...please do not change and hopefully in time things will become better for you both. I wish you both the best.
Posted by bbqrobhaz (Member # 2581) on :
Dear Charm - thanks for the complement. I like to think I'm a nice guy!!!
Posted by Albino_Eskimo (Member # 11479) on :
quote:Originally posted by cocoapuffs: oh shut up albino...how evil of you to plant the idea in his head that his wife is using him...few of us actually thought this so dont act like its self-evident.
You dont know the woman, so quit sowing suspicion in her husband for her.
Shameless people.....shameless......
Where in the hell did I say his wife was using him?
Actually I find it the other way around...
Derailing a thread just to make attacks is not unique, loads of born again usernames do what you do.
I don't think a so called "CEO" on his profile who actually just owns some salvage ship operations is a good match for a retired judge with two books in publication. Especially the age difference.
Actually I am suspicious of his motivations. And that is exactly why you are attacking me.
You really need this "Perfect Pharoah" idea intact while you wait for your hubbies arrival. If that story is even truthful.
Posted by paulistano (Member # 11919) on :
quote:
I don't think a so called "CEO" on his profile who actually just owns some salvage ship operations is a good match for a retired judge with two books in publication. [/QB]
you cann't be anything except of an american.. ignorent as most of them.. well.. ignorence is best answered by silence..
Posted by Tigerlily (Member # 3567) on :
Paulistano, you need to find a way to communicate to your wife that you totally miss physical contacts between the both of you and that is affecting your marriage negatively.
I also recommend counceling for the both of you. Medical evaluation of her should also follow.
Sex is important in a relationship. And I don't mean here you have to perform it daily but a marriage totally without sex is frustrating and devastating.
Now what about having a family? Don't you miss out on having own children? What was your opinion on that when you both got married to each other? How long are you married anyway?
Posted by Albino_Eskimo (Member # 11479) on :
quote:Originally posted by paulistano:
quote:
I don't think a so called "CEO" on his profile who actually just owns some salvage ship operations is a good match for a retired judge with two books in publication.
you cann't be anything except of an american.. ignorent as most of them.. well.. ignorence is best answered by silence.. [/QB]
And yet I don't answer by silence.
And Americans are more than just their nationality.
and I am so far from ignorant its not even funny.
Just because I won't support your decision to screw around on your wife doesn't mean you have the right to call me ignorant and then blast me solely for my nationality.
Posted by Micia (Member # 2907) on :
I have a good solution for u pal: just pray alot and ask Allah for help...would u do that more often in Ramadan during the 3rd part of the night?
Rabena ma3ak, amen!
Posted by paulistano (Member # 11919) on :
quote:Originally posted by Micia: I have a good solution for u pal: just pray alot and ask Allah for help...would u do that more often in Ramadan during the 3rd part of the night?
Rabena ma3ak, amen!
Thank you for the wonderful Advice .. Ramadan is surely getting me in a better mood... i am doing that alright... the last 10 days are the days of accepting supplication..i will do as much as i can..
and inshaAllah we'll do omrah as soon as possible..if not even hajj.. jazaka Allahu khayran..
Posted by paulistano (Member # 11919) on :
quote:Originally posted by Tigerlily: Paulistano, you need to find a way to communicate to your wife that you totally miss physical contacts between the both of you and that is affecting your marriage negatively.
I also recommend counceling for the both of you. Medical evaluation of her should also follow.
Sex is important in a relationship. And I don't mean here you have to perform it daily but a marriage totally without sex is frustrating and devastating.
Now what about having a family? Don't you miss out on having own children? What was your opinion on that when you both got married to each other? How long are you married anyway?
i already have a son from a previous marriage..and this matter doesn't seem to bother her at all..actually she is used to a peaceful life as she said..and cann't think of children at this age for sure..when we got married we discussed that and she made it clear that her age doesn't allow her to have kids.. now we are married for 3 years... may Allah accepts my supplication in the holy month.. i feel better just being in Ramadan... fasting and reading a part of Quran every day.. i wish the whole year Ramadan... thanks .. tigerlily
Posted by loborules (Member # 5457) on :
Paulie paulie paulie women are such delicate creatures ..how about when she is typing on her computer go into the room, get on your knees and give her a licking ... and not on her ears ....ya know where ...
take your time with her talk to her not AT her, listen to what she has to say ... maybe plan a weekend getaway? no work no nothing ..
and what women isn't interested in Sex? did anything happen to her growing up? maybe she thinks sex is dirty? its only dirty if you do it in a corn field ... ha ha ha
maybe go walking with her for 30 minutes a day?
and her being shy... maybe get her drunk? Does she freeze if you touch her? if so maybe there is something more going on?
Posted by OneLoveOnePeople (Member # 9667) on :
Hi Pauli, sorry to hear about ur situation, i really hope it gets better, and u find a solution soon. Its not a bad thing to vent and to ask for advice sometimes in our lives, we all need it. I am not a pyschologist or a therapist so i dnt know the ins and outs of teh human psyche but it seems she may have had a bad experience in her past that cause this reaction from her. Just do ur best to talk it out with her, and be patient. I have afriend that is 47 and her libido is very low these days, and she hates it because she finally met a sweet heart man and doesnt feel any arousal for him. Im sure there is some kind of medical treatment for this. Anyway, Good luck and God bless ya..oh, and by the way I am American but I really dont think i am ignorant..... Posted by paulistano (Member # 11919) on :
quote:Originally posted by loborules: Paulie paulie paulie women are such delicate creatures ..how about when she is typing on her computer go into the room, get on your knees and give her a licking ... and not on her ears ....ya know where ...
take your time with her talk to her not AT her, listen to what she has to say ... maybe plan a weekend getaway? no work no nothing ..
and what women isn't interested in Sex? did anything happen to her growing up? maybe she thinks sex is dirty? its only dirty if you do it in a corn field ... ha ha ha
maybe go walking with her for 30 minutes a day?
and her being shy... maybe get her drunk? Does she freeze if you touch her? if so maybe there is something more going on?
Ohhh god...lotta maybes here... you see the point is humans are just hurting others if they are so mysterious...coz there will be no way to know what they are trying to hide...intentially or otherwise...they are just a closed door and the key is lost... i am now in Egypt with her...trying something new...as usual... and believe me... i am so patient.. may Allah help me and give me strength
Posted by Demiana (Member # 2710) on :
Pauli, don't forget to take her to the library in Alex and walk her down the corniche at sundown (or have a horsecab)
Posted by Demiana (Member # 2710) on :
Movenpick's Royal Lotus
Did you consider a cruise? It is both romantic and has been described in literature (Agatha Cristy wrote about Egypt several times in her books and her autobiography)
Posted by paulistano (Member # 11919) on :
quote:Originally posted by OneLoveOnePeople: Hi Pauli, sorry to hear about ur situation, i really hope it gets better, and u find a solution soon. Its not a bad thing to vent and to ask for advice sometimes in our lives, we all need it. I am not a pyschologist or a therapist so i dnt know the ins and outs of teh human psyche but it seems she may have had a bad experience in her past that cause this reaction from her. Just do ur best to talk it out with her, and be patient. I have afriend that is 47 and her libido is very low these days, and she hates it because she finally met a sweet heart man and doesnt feel any arousal for him. Im sure there is some kind of medical treatment for this. Anyway, Good luck and God bless ya..oh, and by the way I am American but I really dont think i am ignorant.....
Thank god that you are not... well after all i said that most and not all are ignorants... and i know that you are smart enough to understand the reason why i said that... those who think that i am here to try getting a permition to betray my wife are just ignorants aren`t they..??? those who think that a ship owner and a ceo of a successful shipping company isn`t a good match to a retired judge...well...those who lack any knowledge about careers like mine ... those who have twisted ideas and suffering from advanced impossible to cure paranoia caused parrently by an Egyptian man...( well done whoever you are wherever you are )
point is dear ... ignorance is a common curse now adays... lucky you are not among those... who are cursed this way.... Posted by paulistano (Member # 11919) on :
quote:Originally posted by Demiana: Pauli, don't forget to take her to the library in Alex and walk her down the corniche at sundown (or have a horsecab)
demiana... we are still tired from the long trip from sao paulo.. we had a rough time in Madrid..and plane landed in Brcelona for security reasons.. police rushed into the plane.. searching every corner... then police accompanied an african criminal onboard.. covered his seat with curtins...and we took off to Cairo with him and 2 Agents from there... holy guaqamoly....it was a terror movie... fellas... never fly Iberia from Brazil to Egypt again... 34 hours flight... this is a record.. we are still in Cairo...we`ll have Nile Cruise Iftaar tonight inshaAllah ... next week we are off to Alex... my home town... we did visit the bibliotique b4... but all sounds wonderful.... thanks for the ideas dear.. we are just fasting and we avoid day time outdoors in this crazy heat here... thanks again...
Posted by Demiana (Member # 2710) on :
Enjoy your trip Pauli!
Posted by paulistano (Member # 11919) on :
quote:Originally posted by Demiana: Enjoy your trip Pauli!
thanks... but..Holland...!!!!!!!!!!!!!! are you dutch..??????????????
Posted by Demiana (Member # 2710) on :
Basically yes, Dutch
Posted by paulistano (Member # 11919) on :
quote:Originally posted by Demiana: Basically yes, Dutch
owwwwww....dat is vreemd.. waroom jij hier dan in de site..?? ben jouw getrowed met egyptenaar of zo..??? ik dicht dat alle mensen hier van uit england of egypte... maar nederlanders...dat is betje vreemd voor mij.. ben jij vroeger in egypte ..???
sorry voor de slecht nederlaands..ik ken de taal maar blijft echt slecht... ik denk.. Posted by Demiana (Member # 2710) on :
Grappig dat je het Nederlands ook beheerst Pauli, dan heb je vast ook Nederlandse ervaringen? Ik ben getrouwd met een Koptische Egyptenaar die ik hier heb leren kennen.
We gaan vaak op vakantie/familiebezoek in Egypte.
Overigens zijn hier ook Duitsers, Oost-Europeanen, soms Italianen of Zuid-Afrikanen, om maar eens een paar te noemen, hoewel de Engelsen en Amerikanen (ook Canadezen) in de meerderheid lijken, naast Egyptenaren.
Posted by yorkshire rose (Member # 12072) on :
mj nederlands is ook slecht, en moelijke taal hey pauli, maar ik probeer altijd te praat nederlands, maar ik denk dat je bent wel goed met nederlands, mijn scrijven is wel slecht tot ziens
Posted by paulistano (Member # 11919) on :
wat is slecht is de taal .. yucky yuck.. i hope i never have to use it again...
Posted by Chinderella angel (Member # 11953) on :
quote:Originally posted by paulistano: wat is slecht is de taal .. yucky yuck.. i hope i never have to use it again...
I know that slecht means bad Posted by paulistano (Member # 11919) on :
quote:Originally posted by Chinderella angel:
quote:Originally posted by paulistano: wat is slecht is de taal .. yucky yuck.. i hope i never have to use it again...
I know that slecht means bad
looooooooool you know too much already.... that is worrying.. Posted by Chinderella angel (Member # 11953) on :
quote:Originally posted by paulistano:
quote:Originally posted by Chinderella angel:
quote:Originally posted by paulistano: wat is slecht is de taal .. yucky yuck.. i hope i never have to use it again...
I know that slecht means bad
looooooooool you know too much already.... that is worrying..
Scary.... Isnt it? Posted by paulistano (Member # 11919) on :
[/qb][/QUOTE]Scary.... Isnt it? [/QB][/QUOTE] naaaaaahhhhhh i don`t get scared of other peoples`s knowledge.. i just worry that i might know less... Posted by ana uhibbuk (Member # 11817) on :
Hi Everyone, I haven't been on for a while, due to my busy schedule... Tonight I came back on, and decided to write "MY" thoughts... Again, as you see I emphasized on the word "MY"... I am an American Woman living here in the States and I am married to an Egyptian Man.... And before any of you decide to say, he married me for his citizenship, let me tell you, that is not the case....So save the drama!!!!! I just wanted to say that before me and my husband decided to get married, we were the best of friends for 5 years. When we first met, he was dating someone and so was I.. Throughout our five year friendship, we realized that we belonged together, and that is when we got married... I have to say, that my husband (and still my best friend) and I are soooooo happy now... We both regret that we did not get together years ago... I am a Christian Woman, He is Muslim..He is from Egypt... We respect each other's religion and celebrate all the Muslim and Christian Holidays. He is the best man I have ever met.. I see so many postings here that put down Egyptian men... Postings say that Egyptian men are controlling and "sometimes" abusive towards their wife.. I am speaking from experience... My husband is none of the above. My husband as I said, is the best man I ever met. I work a full-time job outside of the home, as does he... He insists on paying all the bills, etc. He tells me that my paycheck is for me to keep. As much as I tell him, I don't feel right having him work so hard, he refuses to take any money from me. And don't think I say he is "the best Man I ever had" because he pays for everything... Because none of that matters to me.. We have an excellent relationship... He has introduced me to the Muslim religion, but never forces me to convert. He respects my religion, and I respect his... What makes him such a wonderful husband is the fact that he respects me and my opinions, and never tried to change me, and I respect his. I look forward to a lifetime with my husband.
Posted by Nourhan (Member # 10876) on :
good for you ana u.. it is wonderful to hear you speak from your heart. You and your husband deserve a lifetime of bliss and happiness. It is not often that you find a partner like you did, in fact like you both did. Cheerish every moment you have together.
Posted by gentle_giant (Member # 10863) on :
I just read the thread due to a link I followed.
First off Pauli, you should stay by your wife, and rather than cheat with another woman, just help yourself out every now and then. Definately discuss how you feel in a non pressured environment though. She'll eventually want it again, but she has to feel safe and happy.
Secondly, I actually think what Sono said was justified, but definately could have been toned down a bit. If you love a woman the way Pauli says he does, you don't cheat on them, even if they say you can.
Posted by The Dude (Member # 12020) on :
quote:Originally posted by Albino_Eskimo: [QUOTE]And how are men any different?
The reason why so many men get prostate cancer is lower levels of testerone. Men lose far more hormones than women because its so sudden.
What women lose more of than testerone (depending on the woman) is progesterone.
Actually A_E, you got it backwards. Females have a catastrophic halt of hormone production due to menopause.
With men, it's a gradual reduction in testosterone as one ages.
And to Paulistano, from one man to another..
Whip that pussy! Don't let it whip you!
Meaning, if you want your wife to desire you, you should find ways of making her do so.
Usually the best way is to lead a healthy lifestyle which includes exercise and good nutrition.
Exercising regularly, especially lifting weights, will increase your testosterone production and you'll see that not only will you look better, but feel better aswell.
Having high testosterone means greater confidence and confidence is the ultimate aphrodesiac.
Oh yeah, never let a woman advise you about your love life.
It's better to ask another man's opinion.
~Alistair
Posted by Chinderella angel (Member # 11953) on :
quote:Originally posted by gentle_giant: I just read the thread due to a link I followed.
First off Pauli, you should stay by your wife, and rather than cheat with another woman, just help yourself out every now and then. Definately discuss how you feel in a non pressured environment though. She'll eventually want it again, but she has to feel safe and happy.
Secondly, I actually think what Sono said was justified, but definately could have been toned down a bit. If you love a woman the way Pauli says he does, you don't cheat on them, even if they say you can.
Gentle Giant.... I dont think Paulie wants to cheat on his wife.... he is having a problem that is stressing him out & he is only venting here to get advice & support.
There is nothing in his posts that indicates that he's considering cheating
Albino's analysis are totally irrational & out of line.... as usual Posted by Everyone's_a_Pascha (Member # 12077) on :
quote:Originally posted by The Dude:
quote:Originally posted by Albino_Eskimo: [QUOTE]And how are men any different?
The reason why so many men get prostate cancer is lower levels of testerone. Men lose far more hormones than women because its so sudden.
What women lose more of than testerone (depending on the woman) is progesterone.
Actually A_E, you got it backwards. Females have a catastrophic halt of hormone production due to menopause.
With men, it's a gradual reduction in testosterone as one ages.
And to Paulistano, from one man to another..
Whip that pussy! Don't let it whip you!
~Alistair
Actually Alistair that isn't what I said at all.
When men have prostate cancer, and if they have anything done about it, its normally the surgical removal of their testicles. Which wipes out their hormonal balance altogether. And estrogen is then administered either through injection or pills for the rest of their life in order to stave off future cancer from spreading from that region. Testestrone gives fuel to the cancer so estrogen blocks the spread of cancer.
And menoupause isn't over night unless she has a total hysterestomy. Most doctors nowdays aren't willing to take everything out, but will take out the womb and leave in the ovaries for hormone regulation.
Normal menoupause takes a decade or two, and even when the periods stop completely, the ovaries and petuitary glands still produce estrogen, but not progesterone.
So basically Alistar you were refering to what might happen (not all cases, the petuitary gland still will release hormone regulating pulses with no ovaries around) when a total hysterectomy is done. Not normal menoupause, I was refering to normal menoupause.
"The Male Change" is actually over a few short months and then diminishes slowly over a few years, but since there isn't a period to mark the event most men don't want to admit to it.
No what I was refering to is the removal of prostates due to cancer. You are the one who completely got my post backwards.
My grandfather had prostate cancer for years and didn't tell anyone. Finally when the advanced adverse effects started to bother him and he was remarried he decided to do something about the can cer. So he had his balls removed and was put on estrogen. He complained he "felt like a woman" and actually made jokes about it. Somehow estrogen took such an evil and malious man and made him enjoyable for short spans. But since he had let the cancer go for so long he developed bone cancer. And this bone cancer went to his spine first, then his brain. So in the end he died of brain cancer. Which was fine with him, as long as he didn't spend the last decade of his life feeling like a woman.
So please Alistair, unless you are in menoupause, don't bother to twist my posts again. You need to be very disturbed and jealous of hormonally rich people in order to thrust the maximum of your brain power to that use.
Posted by 'aqila (Member # 10850) on :
Posted by The Dude (Member # 12020) on :
quote:Originally posted by Everyone's_a_Pascha:
quote:Originally posted by The Dude:
quote:Originally posted by Albino_Eskimo: [QUOTE]And how are men any different?
The reason why so many men get prostate cancer is lower levels of testerone. Men lose far more hormones than women because its so sudden.
What women lose more of than testerone (depending on the woman) is progesterone.
Actually A_E, you got it backwards. Females have a catastrophic halt of hormone production due to menopause.
With men, it's a gradual reduction in testosterone as one ages.
And to Paulistano, from one man to another..
Whip that pussy! Don't let it whip you!
~Alistair
Actually Alistair that isn't what I said at all.
When men have prostate cancer, and if they have anything done about it, its normally the surgical removal of their testicles. Which wipes out their hormonal balance altogether. And estrogen is then administered either through injection or pills for the rest of their life in order to stave off future cancer from spreading from that region. Testestrone gives fuel to the cancer so estrogen blocks the spread of cancer.
And menoupause isn't over night unless she has a total hysterestomy. Most doctors nowdays aren't willing to take everything out, but will take out the womb and leave in the ovaries for hormone regulation.
Normal menoupause takes a decade or two, and even when the periods stop completely, the ovaries and petuitary glands still produce estrogen, but not progesterone.
So basically Alistar you were refering to what might happen (not all cases, the petuitary gland still will release hormone regulating pulses with no ovaries around) when a total hysterectomy is done. Not normal menoupause, I was refering to normal menoupause.
"The Male Change" is actually over a few short months and then diminishes slowly over a few years, but since there isn't a period to mark the event most men don't want to admit to it.
No what I was refering to is the removal of prostates due to cancer. You are the one who completely got my post backwards.
My grandfather had prostate cancer for years and didn't tell anyone. Finally when the advanced adverse effects started to bother him and he was remarried he decided to do something about the can cer. So he had his balls removed and was put on estrogen. He complained he "felt like a woman" and actually made jokes about it. Somehow estrogen took such an evil and malious man and made him enjoyable for short spans. But since he had let the cancer go for so long he developed bone cancer. And this bone cancer went to his spine first, then his brain. So in the end he died of brain cancer. Which was fine with him, as long as he didn't spend the last decade of his life feeling like a woman.
So please Alistair, unless you are in menoupause, don't bother to twist my posts again. You need to be very disturbed and jealous of hormonally rich people in order to thrust the maximum of your brain power to that use.
Damn you're bitchy as hell aren't you?
OK, I don't think I mistook your comments at all.. The words I quoted stated:
quote:And how are men any different?
The reason why so many men get prostate cancer is lower levels of testerone. Men lose far more hormones than women because its so sudden
This statement was made in reply to:
quote:What I know is that women lose like half of their estrogen and testosterone when they become menopausal and testosterone has a direct effect on libido and I heard they even suggest testosterone patchs to those who are menopausal.
Maybe I was informed wrong but I'm curious to see how age doesn't affect libido!
So in effect, it seemed that you were making a correlation between hormonal production in older men and women.
I don't know how you got prostate cancer out of this..
Prostate cancer can be caused by numerous factors, mainly lifestyle and diet, and isn't really directly related to testosterone.
Now DHT, which is a derivative of testosterone has been linkted to prostate cancer, but it's not a direct cause as far as I know.
~Alistair
Posted by Chinderella angel (Member # 11953) on :
quote:Originally posted by Everyone's_a_Pascha: So please Alistair, unless you are in menoupause, don't bother to twist my posts again. You need to be very disturbed and jealous of hormonally rich people in order to thrust the maximum of your brain power to that use. [/QB]
LOL..... he didnt twist your post
Look who's talking
Arent you the one who always twists other people's posts just to make any point you want?
Arguing for the sake of arguing.... as usual Sono Posted by Everyone's_a_Pascha (Member # 12077) on :
Alastair I will respond to you later, got errands. I promise to respond.
I think you got a few things mixed up here. I was responding to how hormones leave the system at different rates according to gender. And you were responding to the general theme of the thread which is more of how hormones affect libido. Which wasn't even something I was considering when I posted these posts. I wouldn't touch libido and hormones on ES with a ten foot pole.
But I know since you are a poltical conservative its your impression that since most hormone and cancer based research funded by the feds was done in the 1980s (Reagan era) which had a tendancy to study the male system and apply the scientific findings to the female system (very misgonist type science) and so many pharmatcutical researchers now days are there just to push a drug to market, not to actually find how cancer and hormones functionally according to gender, many of these drug companies go on the assumptions developed during the Reagan era.
Remember how it says in the Bible Eve was made from the rib of Adam? Well that was the excuse the senate subcommitte on cancer research has been using for the last 2 decades. And the actual reference has been made several times on the senate floor by some of your most shinning cronies I am sure you had voted for or wish you could vote for if you lived in that senators state.
So that is where our critical thinking is different on this subject.
You are thinking Male versus female and I am thinking of the two as entirely seperate species completely.
Posted by Sapna (Member # 10626) on :
quote:Originally posted by Everyone's_a_Pascha:
I am thinking of the two as entirely seperate species completely. [/QB]
hahahaha!!! Posted by Chinderella angel (Member # 11953) on :
quote:Originally posted by Sapna:
quote:Originally posted by Everyone's_a_Pascha:
I am thinking of the two as entirely seperate species completely.
hahahaha!!! [/QB]
Well, what can I say.... have to admit
Albino sometimes comes up with these intelligent funny comments........ I ROFLMAO
Posted by paulistano (Member # 11919) on :
quote:Originally posted by gentle_giant: I just read the thread due to a link I followed.
First off Pauli, you should stay by your wife, and rather than cheat with another woman, just help yourself out every now and then. Definately discuss how you feel in a non pressured environment though. She'll eventually want it again, but she has to feel safe and happy.
Secondly, I actually think what Sono said was justified, but definately could have been toned down a bit. If you love a woman the way Pauli says he does, you don't cheat on them, even if they say you can.
are you guys retarded or what...???did you understand what i was saying here..??? or you follow the steps of the wierdo .. and say crap..??? who said that i want to cheat or even thought of doing it..???? and no one is justified to speak this way to me...or hint something i never said... specially that paranoid ignorant woman.. she knows herself... even if she has 1000 ids here... Posted by paulistano (Member # 11919) on :
quote:Originally posted by Chinderella angel:
quote:
Gentle Giant.... I dont think Paulie wants to cheat on his wife.... he is having a problem that is stressing him out & he is only venting here to get advice & support.
There is nothing in his posts that indicates that he's considering cheating
Albino's analysis are totally irrational & out of line.... as usual [/QB]
finally someone with brains... finally someone understood my point... finally i know that there are some normal people in here... few though... but you didn`t fail me.. thanks chindrella Angel... for being a normal human being..
Posted by paulistano (Member # 11919) on :
quote:Originally posted by The Dude:
quote:Originally posted by Albino_Eskimo: [QUOTE]And how are men any different?
The reason why so many men get prostate cancer is lower levels of testerone. Men lose far more hormones than women because its so sudden.
What women lose more of than testerone (depending on the woman) is progesterone.
Actually A_E, you got it backwards. Females have a catastrophic halt of hormone production due to menopause.
With men, it's a gradual reduction in testosterone as one ages.
And to Paulistano, from one man to another..
Whip that pussy! Don't let it whip you!
Meaning, if you want your wife to desire you, you should find ways of making her do so.
Usually the best way is to lead a healthy lifestyle which includes exercise and good nutrition.
Exercising regularly, especially lifting weights, will increase your testosterone production and you'll see that not only will you look better, but feel better aswell.
Having high testosterone means greater confidence and confidence is the ultimate aphrodesiac.
Oh yeah, never let a woman advise you about your love life.
It's better to ask another man's opinion.
~Alistair
THE DUDE.. if you read the whole posts... you will know that i am doing that already.. and it is paying off... but thanks..for the advice any way.. and from a man to another man.. women are different... i tried a whole bunch of them... married a couple of them before this time.. and each one has her own approach... so i got some fair amount of experience.. i wouldn`t ask for advice if that case was easy to handle.. any way...things are getting better in this problem...since we arrived to Egypt..Al;hamdulillah...i wish for more improvement.. but thanks Allah for what i have so far..
Posted by Chinderella angel (Member # 11953) on :
quote:Originally posted by paulistano:
quote:Originally posted by Chinderella angel:
quote:
Gentle Giant.... I dont think Paulie wants to cheat on his wife.... he is having a problem that is stressing him out & he is only venting here to get advice & support.
There is nothing in his posts that indicates that he's considering cheating
Albino's analysis are totally irrational & out of line.... as usual
finally someone with brains... finally someone understood my point... finally i know that there are some normal people in here... few though... but you didn`t fail me.. thanks chindrella Angel... for being a normal human being..
[/QB]
You're welcome Paulie
I totally symapthize with you
Wish I could offer a good advice but I'm afraid many people did already.... and still the suggestions/ advice is not helping because you've tried/ exhausted all these options already
Frankly speaking you're problem is not easy to solve ..... rabena ma3ak .... but that doesnt mean you give up trying or that you give up waiting for support from this forum.
There are supporters Posted by paulistano (Member # 11919) on :
quote:Originally posted by Chinderella angel:
quote:Originally posted by paulistano:
quote:Originally posted by Chinderella angel:
quote:
Gentle Giant.... I dont think Paulie wants to cheat on his wife.... he is having a problem that is stressing him out & he is only venting here to get advice & support.
There is nothing in his posts that indicates that he's considering cheating
Albino's analysis are totally irrational & out of line.... as usual
finally someone with brains... finally someone understood my point... finally i know that there are some normal people in here... few though... but you didn`t fail me.. thanks chindrella Angel... for being a normal human being..
You're welcome Paulie
I totally symapthize with you
Wish I could offer a good advice but I'm afraid many people did already.... and still the suggestions/ advice is not helping because you've tried/ exhausted all these options already
Frankly speaking you're problem is not easy to solve ..... rabena ma3ak .... but that doesnt mean you give up trying or that you give up waiting for support from this forum.
There are supporters [/QB]
i really appreciate it.. Allah is also giving me so much strength... and he is my only hope.. inshaAllah in jannah...i won`t have this kind of a problem.. actually no one will get any problems... so i`ll just do my best to go there... and i thank Allah that those retarded ones won`t be there.. Posted by Chinderella angel (Member # 11953) on :
Posted by Everyone's_a_Pascha (Member # 12077) on :
Is it possible to drop the derogatory term of "retarded"?
And someone walk up to Shinderella and paulistano, ask them to breathe in your face. Someone with experience in smelling @ss breath, I don't know what arse would smell like.
Posted by Chinderella angel (Member # 11953) on :
quote:Originally posted by Everyone's_a_Pascha: Is it possible to drop the derogatory term of "retarded"?
And someone walk up to Shinderella and paulistano, ask them to breathe in your face. Someone with experience in smelling @ss breath, I don't know what arse would smell like.
Shut up air head
You smell like fart Posted by Everyone's_a_Pascha (Member # 12077) on :
quote:Originally posted by Chinderella angel:
quote:Originally posted by Everyone's_a_Pascha: Is it possible to drop the derogatory term of "retarded"?
And someone walk up to Shinderella and paulistano, ask them to breathe in your face. Someone with experience in smelling @ss breath, I don't know what arse would smell like.
You said you smoke like a chimney, are those candy cigerrattes you are smoking?
Posted by Sapna (Member # 10626) on :
quote:Originally posted by Everyone's_a_Pascha:
quote:Originally posted by Chinderella angel:
quote:Originally posted by Everyone's_a_Pascha: Is it possible to drop the derogatory term of "retarded"?
And someone walk up to Shinderella and paulistano, ask them to breathe in your face. Someone with experience in smelling @ss breath, I don't know what arse would smell like.
Shut up air head
You smell like fart
You said you smoke like a chimney, are those candy cigerrattes you are smoking?
The best kind there is... Posted by kaye (Member # 11525) on :
Hi paulistano, It's been a month since you posted has anyones advice helped you at all?? I just wanted to see how things were going with you! Take care and God Bless You and your family Posted by doodlebut (Member # 11649) on :
I am almost embarassed to ask this ... I don't need an answer back but something that has not been mentioned thus far is.....are you sure you're taking her "all the way home"? In other words..........are you making sure that she is 100% completely satisfied before you're all set?
I know for me, if I weren't, I wouldn't be rushing to do more than snuggling. Just a thought.
Posted by paulistano (Member # 11919) on :
quote:Originally posted by kaye: Hi paulistano, It's been a month since you posted has anyones advice helped you at all?? I just wanted to see how things were going with you! Take care and God Bless You and your family
yes Kaye...thanx.. one help did really work... it is much better situation now... i wouldn`t say perfect... but certainly better than b4..
we bought a new house couple of days ago..it will be done in a year .. and we`ll leave back to Brazil in febreuary... to make it ready to move all the way to Egypt...in a year and a half i think we`ll be ready for the big move.. it will be tough.. but Egypt has a great effect on her mood really.. she just told me 2 weeks ago...that she doesn`t wanna live in Brazil any more.. she even wants to stay in Egypt till the house is ready...and maybe have a job here.. and i go to Brazil to make things ready for the move all on my own... we are debating this situation these days.. so...because i need jhelp there... true i moved so many times from one country to another.. but...this time is a real BIG move...and i am not as young as i was b4..
since i agreed to come and stay in Egypt.. things are better.. but.. Ramadan actually isn`t the right time of the year to be sexually active.. you know..not so many hours after Iftaar...and she drops asleep most of them.. well..sometimes i do the same.. let`s say that we are enjoying the spirit of Ramadan both of us... she was offered some jobs in Egypt.. and we are seeking other jobs... so she can be feeling even more better.. sports and excersise are also helping i am sure... so in General... i must say.. thank you all... i am ok now..
Posted by paulistano (Member # 11919) on :
quote:Originally posted by doodlebut: I am almost embarassed to ask this ... I don't need an answer back but something that has not been mentioned thus far is.....are you sure you're taking her "all the way home"? In other words..........are you making sure that she is 100% completely satisfied before you're all set?
I know for me, if I weren't, I wouldn't be rushing to do more than snuggling. Just a thought.
almost embarassed..??? ok... yes i am sure that she goes all the way.. i was here talking quantity..more than quality.. true they are always related..but in some cases they are not.. she was always satisfied every time we do it....counting the stars that shows in her eyes...catching her breath...sometimes losing her voice from ..you know what..!!!
which is not in most cases happening with me... coz in so many times i am left behind unsatisfied..wanting to go on and reach my satisfaction...but she is all done...tired and sleepy..so i am left alone lacking an active partner.. in this case i cann`t be selfish and force the situation on her.. some women even fake they are interested..and they fake the action... but i hate that.. what is the difference between that situation and having a hooker with me then..???
i am sure that when we reach to solve the quantity problem.. everything will be just great.. but again...we are doing better in Egypt.. and will better after Ramadan for sure.. thanx..
Posted by kaye (Member # 11525) on :
quote:Originally posted by doodlebut: I am almost embarassed to ask this ... I don't need an answer back but something that has not been mentioned thus far is.....are you sure you're taking her "all the way home"? In other words..........are you making sure that she is 100% completely satisfied before you're all set?
I know for me, if I weren't, I wouldn't be rushing to do more than snuggling. Just a thought.
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Posted by Demiana (Member # 2710) on :
Still a lot of men that don't know where this little instrument in the dark of the female organ is for. There are still some men (and women) that believe that a women should 'come' by getting penetrated only. Some women possibly might, I personally don't know any of em.
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