In ather words she will take off the Habag to avoid harm in western world because there are a lot of harrasment after Spt11
Whether they feel the relion allows or not?
the real point is that they should be able to if they chose without fear of discrimination. The Western world likes to boast of it's freedoms, the US constitution actually has this as a fundental part. The UK has racial laws that are there to allow people to practice their religion without fear.
As a Brit by origin I stand by any Muslim womans right to do what ever she feels is right for her.
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Now, when a women wear Hagab in the Weast, she invit people to her, therefore put herself and herfamily in hard way. Not only that, this situation will in sometime with some people shakes her confident
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Originally posted by Valerie:
I stand by akshar.....but this is what I have noticed....In the uk she will stand out in a crowd ...so to speak. I thought the idea of the Hagab was to not show off the female body. But in wearing it she will have many more people looking at her....in this country....uk this is just an observation.
Depends what part of the UK, in London for example nobody stands out wearing anything as there are so many differnet nationalities all wearing traditional dress. But I agree in the middle of a country village in Sommerset she would stand out.
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Originally posted by farooqsaid1:
The Quran says in meaning that the purpose of Hagab so that women cound not be identified, to avoid hard.Now, when a women wear Hagab in the Weast, she invit people to her, therefore put herself and herfamily in hard way. Not only that, this situation will in sometime with some people shakes her confident
Most Western countries these days are multicultural and claim religious tolerance, it would be more acurate to call this religious indifference because the fact is many do not even begin to undertand each others religions ..... and you have to understand to be able to tolerate.
Why is it that people who choose to settle in a country that is not their own always seem to demand the understanding of their ways and their religion.
Westerners think it is Ok to expect alcohol to be served in a Muslim country, and it is Ok for them to walk around inappropriately dressed showing way too much flesh. Likewise a Muslim will expect to continue with all thier religious practices in a western country and then be surprised they draw attention to themselves. Neither is really doing anything wrong, we all have to live according to our religion and culture...just don't expect if you choose to live in a society that is different to your own that it is that society that should adapt itself to your ways.
You have a choice.
Maybe this will help you, she says this to me:
Why would I worry what these Western people think of me more than what Allah (God) thinks?
She's right, I agree. Good for her. Hope that helps you ladies.
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Originally posted by 1mangang:
I am American. My sister converted to Islam and married an Egyptian man and lives in Egypt. When she comes back to visit she always wear her hijab, 100%.Maybe this will help you, she says this to me:
Why would I worry what these Western people think of me more than what Allah (God) thinks?
She's right, I agree. Good for her. Hope that helps you ladies.
1mangang, Your sister is doing the ideal thing. However, my point of view a family who came from middle east and settled in the west will go through very tough time exposing religious signs. At school meeting, in wal-mart, at the street at the sport event
at work place, generating tremendous stress make your life isolated and depressed. That is why I would imagine that you behave write, you dress untight and covered and do not block your self.
One other thing came to my mind, when you have kids growing, you will be putting them under huge pressure from their peers and may push them to the other side in the future
If a family relocated in the western society. The wife was not wearing Hagab in Egypt. She met with some muslim friends in US and somehow convinced her to wear Hagab. Her husband explained that good untight close will be enough. NO need for Hagab because at this time muslim people are targeted and that may cause some hardship for the family. Please consider not wearing Hagab. After she thought about it she said no I will wear it. At that time the husband said I need you NOT to wear it. She said NO I will wear it.
My friends, What is your openion?
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Originally posted by farooqsaid1:
For every one contibuted to this topic,If a family relocated in the western society. The wife was not wearing Hagab in Egypt. She met with some muslim friends in US and somehow convinced her to wear Hagab. Her husband explained that good untight close will be enough. NO need for Hagab because at this time muslim people are targeted and that may cause some hardship for the family. Please consider not wearing Hagab. After she thought about it she said no I will wear it. At that time the husband said I need you NOT to wear it. She said NO I will wear it.
My friends, What is your openion?
I think from your question you are more worried about who this lady is taking her advice from...her friends or her husband.... than whether she wears the hijab or not??
If the lady has tried both ways then she knows in her own mind what feels right for her and she should decide for herself whether she wears it or not. She deserves great respect and support for wanting to stay true to her religion.
In the case of children where they may experience peir pressure and want to 'fit in' you can only teach them about their religion and then let them decide for themselves. If you make the decision to let your children grow up in a western society then you have to accept they will learn the concept of..... 'the right to choose'.... if you can't accept this don't bring them here.
However if your religious beleifs are strong you just need faith in god that they will find the right way in the end.
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Originally posted by farooqsaid1:
For every one contibuted to this topic,If a family relocated in the western society. The wife was not wearing Hagab in Egypt. She met with some muslim friends in US and somehow convinced her to wear Hagab. Her husband explained that good untight close will be enough. NO need for Hagab because at this time muslim people are targeted and that may cause some hardship for the family. Please consider not wearing Hagab. After she thought about it she said no I will wear it. At that time the husband said I need you NOT to wear it. She said NO I will wear it.
My friends, What is your openion?
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I asked my sister about this and she said:
'the choice is ultimately the woman's, since she will have nobody to defend her on her day of Judgment. The husband should not tell her to wear it and he should not tell her not to wear it, nor should her friends. She knows right from wrong and knows what she should do, nobody defends themselves before Allah except THEMSELVES!'.
Hope that helps!
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If the lady has tried both ways then she knows in her own mind what feels right for her and she should decide for herself whether she wears it or not. She deserves great respect and support for wanting to stay true to her religion.
Dear Penny, There is different between what do we like vs what is right and that is applied for both man and women. When an issue crosses "muslim" family they should set down together and discuss it. Every one should put his point of view on the table. After all this discussion and concern it is the head of the family to take the decision for the family. After the decision is made, those who has otherwise openion should adapt and coop with the chosen direction and work their full to make it success.
This is the picture that islam called for. I have full respect for that, do you?
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Originally posted by farooqsaid1:
[QUOTE]Originally posted by Penny:
[B] I think from your question you are more worried about who this lady is taking her advice from...her friends or her husband.... than whether she wears the hijab or not??If the lady has tried both ways then she knows in her own mind what feels right for her and she should decide for herself whether she wears it or not. She deserves great respect and support for wanting to stay true to her religion.
Dear Penny, There is different between what do we like vs what is right and that is applied for both man and women. When an issue crosses "muslim" family they should set down together and discuss it. Every one should put his point of view on the table. After all this discussion and concern it is the head of the family to take the decision for the family. After the decision is made, those who has otherwise openion should adapt and coop with the chosen direction and work their full to make it success.
This is the picture that islam called for. I have full respect for that, do you?
Dear farooqsaid1
I would certainly agree that any family regardless of religion should sit down and discuss problems together to find a solution that works for everyone.......but no decision is ever set in stone and if this lady has tried to do what she and her husband thought was best for the western society they live in by not wearing the hijab, but then found it to be in conflict with her beleifs as a muslim woman ....nobody not even her husband should come between her and her god.
More importantly a husband who respects Islam and his wife's belief in god should not even create this situation in the first place over a matter which is fundamental to her as a muslim woman.
Yes, many issues should be decided mutually as a family but matters that are fundamental to the very core of a persons beliefs should be left to that person, and that person alone to decide what is right for her/him.
That was why I bought up the issue of children from other cultures growing up in western societies. In our culture children grow up learning about all the different religions and that they have the freedom to choose which one is right for them or even not to follow a religion at all. That is not to say that most will not follow the same religion as their parents but that decison is made by them and not their family. That is what I mean by the right of choice in the west, it is the freedom to choose for yourself what is your way of life, rather that automatically adopting the ways of the family you are born to.
Please understand I have full respect for both ways of life there are pluses and minuses with both. The problems just start when you try to integrate the two ways...it is not easy especially when there are children involved who will probably want to integrate into the new society far more than their parents who already have a set belief system.
farooqsaid1 if this situation is about you personally and your wife then is it not time for another family discussion, and on this issue. Can't you see it is one that your wife should decide for herself so you can show her YOU RESPECT HER as a muslim woman and value that she wants to live according to what gods asks of her.
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Originally posted by Penny:
Dear farooqsaid1I would certainly agree that any family regardless of religion should sit down and discuss problems together to find a solution that works for everyone.......but no decision is ever set in stone and if this lady has tried to do what she and her husband thought was best for the western society they live in by not wearing the hijab, but then found it to be in conflict with her beleifs as a muslim woman ....nobody not even her husband should come between her and her god.
More importantly a husband who respects Islam and his wife's belief in god should not even create this situation in the first place over a matter which is fundamental to her as a muslim woman.
Yes, many issues should be decided mutually as a family but matters that are fundamental to the very core of a persons beliefs should be left to that person, and that person alone to decide what is right for her/him.
That was why I bought up the issue of children from other cultures growing up in western societies. In our culture children grow up learning about all the different religions and that they have the freedom to choose which one is right for them or even not to follow a religion at all. That is not to say that most will not follow the same religion as their parents but that decison is made by them and not their family. That is what I mean by the right of choice in the west, it is the freedom to choose for yourself what is your way of life, rather that automatically adopting the ways of the family you are born to.
Please understand I have full respect for both ways of life there are pluses and minuses with both. The problems just start when you try to integrate the two ways...it is not easy especially when there are children involved who will probably want to integrate into the new society far more than their parents who already have a set belief system.
farooqsaid1 if this situation is about you personally and your wife then is it not time for another family discussion, and on this issue. Can't you see it is one that your wife should decide for herself so you can show her YOU RESPECT HER as a muslim woman and value that she wants to live according to what gods asks of her.
It is not personal, it is a common problem not only in Western world, it is pread all over. It is the poson which is slowely spreading in the muslim families destroying the bond between the member reducing them to weak individuals prey for evil.
Do you work, where, say you are engineer. You came up with solution for a certain project. You took it to you both. He said it is good idea, however, I would recommend to do this way (not your way) You miled and said sure no problem. Penny why did you do and say that?
Pophet Mohamed said meaning, "Muslim nation will be divided to over seveny direction, all will be in hell except one. He was asked, who is the saved one, he said those who follow my footsteps.
I will give you a general calibration to know whether you are right or wrong, usualy what you LIKE is wrong and this the chalenge of life and that is why there is a big reward for that
And there in your answer lies the problem of a western society not understanding Islamic society and vice versa and probably why we should not live in each others societies.
Yes I work...and have to make very hard decisions sometimes that require a high level of professional skill so am I going to listen to a husband who tells something I know in my heart is fundamentally wrong....you know the answer
But forget the differences between our societies as that is not really the issue here.............. You are more intersted in this issue of being the captain of your ship than letting your wife be true to her faith....and that does not make sense to me.
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Originally posted by Penny:
Dear farooqsaid1:But forget the differences between our societies as that is not really the issue here.............. You are more intersted in this issue of being the captain of your ship than letting your wife be true to her faith....and that does not make sense to me.
Here you go, the poison that the free! world contaminated the women with. No dear Penny, it is not about being a captain, it is about having a sound, stable, respectful, and unshaky environment to the kids to grow in.
Penny I think you got off the point more than once with angry falvor. (correct me if I am wrong"!
Who in this forum can provide me with an example of a wife who "understand and believe" in the fact that sound family textile mandates the wife to bend to her husband openion at the time of crises or conflict.
Western family life is just different to yours . Each partner has an equal role. Both parents may work or have done so at some time giving both a great depth of experience to offer their children. We come at things as a team and make joint decisions. This is not 'a poisonous' way of life it is simply different to your belief system. I can assure you all the children have grown up in my family with great respect for people from all walks of life and respect for men and women as equals.
You can't change western society anymore than we can change yours, you don't even have to go as far as respecting it...but to live here you will have to learn to accept it.
BUT back to your wife..............please can you answer my question why you come between her and her belief in god and the teachings of your prophet.
I understand your family values and agree whatever our sytem is we should work towards a stable family life, but I simply cannot understand your coming between your wife and her god.
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Originally posted by Penny:
I promise you there is no anger on my partWestern family life is just different to yours . Each partner has an equal role. Both parents may work or have done so at some time giving both a great depth of experience to offer their children. We come at things as a team and make joint decisions. This is not 'a poisonous' way of life it is simply different to your belief system. I can assure you all the children have grown up in my family with great respect for people from all walks of life and respect for men and women as equals.
You can't change western society anymore than we can change yours, you don't even have to go as far as respecting it...but to live here you will have to learn to accept it.
BUT back to your wife..............please can you answer my question why you come between her and her belief in god and the teachings of your prophet.
I understand your family values and agree whatever our sytem is we should work towards a stable family life, but I simply cannot understand your coming between your wife and her god.
I would rather using the term western or muslim societies without "yours or mine".
You're trying to look at the good part of what "your" society has to offer. However, you disregarded the fact that about 60% of "your" marriage ends in devorce and about 90% cheeting rate is a moderate percentage. May be you are from the lucky 10%, but in here we do not talk about you and I we're talking in general what system is closer from a hight successful percentage. The one designed by GOD or the one design by Mr Sam.
I see deep contradition in your testemony, one time you said I have to use professional skills! in the work place " compromise" because you are not willing to give up your work, on the other hand at home you claim we are equal. What I am saying that the equality is a destructive measure in most cases.
I understand how much the muslim men minipulate their roll as a learder of their families and committed lots of opression and that is why middleeast is 3rd world, but that does not mean the God system is wrong.
Penny every one is entitled to choose whatever way to go by, however, the fact will stay, we all eventualy will report to the same very god, and guss what he has only one standard. Based on that the question of "where you are what lanquage you speak,.." is absolutly irrelevent.
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Originally posted by Penny:
BUT back to your wife..............please can you answer my question why you come between her and her belief in god and the teachings of your prophet.
I understand your family values and agree whatever our sytem is we should work towards a stable family life, but I simply cannot understand your coming between your wife and her god.
Please answer the question why do you keep avoiding it?
And what was this:-
I see deep contradition in your testemony, one time you said I have to use professional skills! in the work place " compromise" because you are not willing to give up your work, on the other hand at home you claim we are equal. What I am saying that the equality is a destructive measure in most cases.
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Equality should never be viewed as destructive it is the exact opposite...and the right of every man and women on this earth....it was the right given to them by god. Man is the destructive element when he seeks to treat a women as anything other than his equal.
With regard to work of course it is possible for a women to work at a professional level and fulfil her duties to her children and family. It takes planning and organisation but is perfectly possible.
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Originally posted by Alana:
To answer your last question "Are there any women who would bend to her husband's wishes,I would say "Stand up tall ladies and hold your head up high" you have a brain, god gave it to you "use it"! The "hijab" is not really the issue here.[/B]
Alana, It is very risky to get exited, caz sometimes you will find to keep the momentum you have to lie, manipulate, and fusge, consequently loosing your point as well as people respect.
You claimed that I have said:
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" Are there any women who would bend to her husband's wishes"
while my sentence was:
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"Who in this forum can provide me with an example of a wife who "understand and believe" in the fact that sound family textile mandates the wife to bend to her husband openion at the time of crises or conflict."
I invite all the people in this forum to compare what Alana claimed that I said versus what I truly said!
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Originally posted by Penny:
Please answer the question why do you keep avoiding it?And what was this:-
I see deep contradition in your testemony, one time you said I have to use professional skills! in the work place " compromise" because you are not willing to give up your work, on the other hand at home you claim we are equal. What I am saying that the equality is a destructive measure in most cases.
I sorry that ia I am not clear in my point. My point of view is establish comparison between two similar situations:
Situation #1
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A women in the work place working. She has a project. She spent alot of time to provide conceptual solution for a project. She finalized her concept. She met with her manager and explained her concept. The manager said "you have very good idea BUT I think it is better to do otherwise..
What you think typically she will do, I will tell you, she will smile and will say sure sir I will change MY conceprt and start working on the other idea....
Situation #2
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Husband told the wife, the dress that you bought for our daughter graduation ceremony has a wide top opening exposing part of her breast. Please either change it with something more conservative or have her to dress something underneath. She was outraged and got angry making the daughter feels that her dad is not a modern guy. Then after the graduation the teacher said now we will go for a dance party. I said we do not dance, we are muslim people. My wife was very angry make my daughter really think that she is unfortunate having a dad like me.
Comparing the two situations from the real life indicating that there is a deep misunderstanding of the muslim wife role in the muslim family.
Penny, the core of the problem is is not a man or a husband openion vesus the women or wife openion, it what god ordered us to do versus what we {a man or a women} like to see.
One think very clear in the muslim religeon, if there is an issue and two openion in a muslim family, the ultimate decision has to be taken by the husband and it is compulsory to the rest of the family to content with the dad decision.
Ladies, please do not think that is nasty. Believe me that is wonderful for all the member of the family.
Alana, this is the trouble that a lier always face, once he or she lies once, it has to be followed by series of lies. If I would have changed it, you got to see a massage saying this massage modified by.. in time...
Good By
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Originally posted by farooqsaid1:
...Penny, the core of the problem is is not a man or a husband openion vesus the women or wife openion, it what god ordered us to do versus what we {a man or a women} like to see.
One think very clear in the muslim religeon, if there is an issue and two openion in a muslim family, the ultimate decision has to be taken by the husband and it is compulsory to the rest of the family to content with the dad decision.Ladies, please do not think that is nasty. Believe me that is wonderful for all the member of the family.
Farooq, I have a question, Does Islam allow Muslim woman to disobey God when her Husband ask her to?
May sound l ike a naive question but from what I read here you seem to applying the rule about God or people's opinion when it's in your favor but how about when your wife choose God's ruling about wearing Hijab over your request about taking it of?
I wouldn't have respect for woman who obey her husband over God, would you?
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Originally posted by Troubles101:
Farooq, I have a question, Does Islam allow Muslim woman to disobey God when her Husband ask her to?
May sound l ike a naive question but from what I read here you seem to applying the rule about God or people's opinion when it's in your favor but how about when your wife choose God's ruling about wearing Hijab over your request about taking it of?I wouldn't have respect for woman who obey her husband over God, would you?
Dear Troubles101, The direct general answer is no God's command before anyone else wish including parents, kids or wifes.
Hawever, the point here is not this way at all, it is about the lack of harmony to acheive cetain goal, the goal of raising a strong new generation. Lots of obsacles will come across the family with mutiple choises with different openions.
Now the issue is, what is the system of discussing the availabe options between the family members and final dicision will be taken. The hagab thing was just an example but there are hunderds others, for example
- Which school the daughter should go to
- Should we pay money in this house or that
- Should we recieve this extended family member this summer or not
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- Etc
Thousand of situations, Now if there is conflict of point of view, eventually the final decision should be the husband call based on the islamic system.
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Originally posted by Penny:
Equality should never be viewed as destructive it is the exact opposite...and the right of every man and women on this earth....it was the right given to them by god.
How and where? How do you know it given to them by God? How did God relate this fact to us?
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Originally posted by Alana:
Farooqsaid,
You really have no common sense, I printed the page immediately after you wrote that ridiculous paragragh. You did not edit anything at that point, because, you were waiting for responses back. When you realized how silly you sounded, you retracted your words,after receiving many responses back not agreeing with you. Give me your e-mail, I would be happy to forward your original words to you. I just returned from vacation, and it shows after 10 days, you couldn't respond back, to the initial post. Because you make no sense, and you really do not know what you are talking about.Educate yourself before passing judgement on others.
Alana, you could've her if you have it, Alana, there are people like you, sky is the limits of their agressivness, I would like to avoid those people because no good comes out of them. Please go away
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Originally posted by Alana:
farooqsaid,
Finally you said something that made sense, when you could not prove your point. You are the "Dictator" and aggressor, "God Bless Your Wife". When you post a topic you unfortunately can't snap your fingers like "Bewitched", people will respond, don't post a topic then. This is a public forum.
How did you ever guess "the sky is the limit"?
How boring life would be if people were all "yes" people? Variety is the spice of life.May your wife find that different variety. Your flavor is going to poison and kill her. You are really a piece of work! LOL
Please go away
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Originally posted by Alana:
farooqsaid,
Finally you said something that made sense, when you could not prove your point. You are the "Dictator" and aggressor, "God Bless Your Wife". When you post a topic you unfortunately can't snap your fingers like "Bewitched", people will respond, don't post a topic then. This is a public forum.
How did you ever guess "the sky is the limit"?
How boring life would be if people were all "yes" people? Variety is the spice of life.May your wife find that different variety. Your flavor is going to poison and kill her. You are really a piece of work! LOL
alana shut the f**k up.
you have delusions that you are smart.
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Originally posted by Alana:
Are you forming a "male chauvanist club", you would make a great president.??
Your name suits you well and says it all [/B]
Alana, Although I have had no plan to talk to you but in your response I found what appear to be the real issue.
Male Chauvanist appear to be a psycholgical complexity issue in you mind may be you need to reevaluate. God help all of us
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Originally posted by Alana:
farooqsaid,
You did make me laugh, I have to admit.
After two responses ordering me "GO Away"
You responded to me. Hmmmmm.......and I have the psychological problems. Why are you talking? If you are such a true "moslem", are you accepting that nasty language from 1mangangs mouth?? You are looking for women only to sympathize with you, and agree with you.I have to give you credit , when you first came on here everyone was feeling so sorry for you, when in fact it was your "poor wife" who has endured so much pain from you. Penny was right when she said "you want to be the captain of the ship". If a woman has an opinion, we are all mentally ill like you had us believe your wife was. You are the "sick man" with issues, who wants to dictate and control.Poor Hind you tried to flirt and pick her up on here, like a dating game. Wow, Mr. faithful Married Moslem Man!! Following Islam,( Incorrectly). Go study at Al-Azher, maybe you will be blessed.
Alana, you are one of those women, men shouldn't mess with
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Originally posted by farooqsaid1:
Dear Troubles101, The direct general answer is no God's command before anyone else wish including parents, kids or wifes.Hawever, the point here is not this way at all, it is about the lack of harmony to acheive cetain goal, the goal of raising a strong new generation. Lots of obsacles will come across the family with mutiple choises with different openions.
Now the issue is, what is the system of discussing the availabe options between the family members and final dicision will be taken. The hagab thing was just an example but there are hunderds others, for example
- Which school the daughter should go to
- Should we pay money in this house or that
- Should we recieve this extended family member this summer or not
-
- EtcThousand of situations, Now if there is conflict of point of view, eventually the final decision should be the husband call based on the islamic system.
Hi ya Farooq, im sorry for the delay as it wasn't my choice.
im not sure whether you still give a damn about the discussion here after your clash with alana, hence i will sum my opinion by saying that harmony is the right word when we speak about which school or where to spend summer vacation but tolerance is the right word when we speak about religious stuff like hijab, Wife can't obey husband by disobeying God and this is an islamic rule and if you think that hijab is not required by God in certain circumstances that is still you personal ijtihad.
anyway i hope the best for u and ur family
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Originally posted by Troubles101:
Hi ya Farooq, im sorry for the delay as it wasn't my choice.im not sure whether you still give a damn about the discussion here after your clash with alana, hence i will sum my opinion by saying that harmony is the right word when we speak about which school or where to spend summer vacation but tolerance is the right word when we speak about religious stuff like hijab, Wife can't obey husband by disobeying God and this is an islamic rule and if you think that hijab is not required by God in certain circumstances that is still you personal ijtihad.
anyway i hope the best for u and ur family
Troubles, i went back up and re-read your previous comments and i felt very happy that there are people who know haw to express a different point of view.
My dear Troubles, I felt such a warm feeling just reading your words. I immagined someone in front of me expressing his or her openion nicely and kindly. Such person i would do lots of things to make him or her happy.
I just remember that " Aldeen Almoamla"
I wont say it was always easy, because I lost work for my beliefs. But I will say that American-born women wearing hijab are treated differently from foreign women who wear hijab (and who live in the US). American culture will respect my choice in faith because I am a fellow American. It is unfortunate that women with ethnic dress or attributes are not treated equally.
I have no problem wearing hijab anywhere, but I have friends who are afraid to be seen in public with hijab. I also make certain friends uncomfortable when I wear hijab publically (for instance, when we go to Walmart). It bothers them more than me that people stare.
I guess the best choice is to do what pleases yourself. I really wore hijab since I was a child, and I often find that wearing one brings people to me with questions about Islam. I welcome their questions.
Sometimes funny things happen as a direct result of me wearing hijab. I had a 5 year old girl ask me in Frye's if I was the Virgin Mary...I was fueling my car with petrol in Alabama and after I paid when I returned to my car, I realized someone left me a whole box of Jehovah's Witness reading materials on the top of my car. In the past I had Fundamental Baptists stop me in the hallway at the hospital, in the hope of converting me on the spot. I remain polite but firm in my convictions.
My husband's family asked him, why does Shadya never show her hair (they really wondered if I had any). He told them the plain truth. He said: Shadya has friends who knew her for years and they never saw her hair. He understands that my hair and how it looks, is for his pleasure only. Modesty is a wonderful attribute on women.
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Originally posted by Shadya:
I work as a Director for the Harris County Hospital District, which is the fourth largest Medical City in the United States. I wear hijab to work daily.I wont say it was always easy, because I lost work for my beliefs. But I will say that American-born women wearing hijab are treated differently from foreign women who wear hijab (and who live in the US). American culture will respect my choice in faith because I am a fellow American. It is unfortunate that women with ethnic dress or attributes are not treated equally.
I have no problem wearing hijab anywhere, but I have friends who are afraid to be seen in public with hijab. I also make certain friends uncomfortable when I wear hijab publically (for instance, when we go to Walmart). It bothers them more than me that people stare.
I guess the best choice is to do what pleases yourself. I really wore hijab since I was a child, and I often find that wearing one brings people to me with questions about Islam. I welcome their questions.
Sometimes funny things happen as a direct result of me wearing hijab. I had a 5 year old girl ask me in Frye's if I was the Virgin Mary...I was fueling my car with petrol in Alabama and after I paid when I returned to my car, I realized someone left me a whole box of Jehovah's Witness reading materials on the top of my car. In the past I had Fundamental Baptists stop me in the hallway at the hospital, in the hope of converting me on the spot. I remain polite but firm in my convictions.
My husband's family asked him, why does Shadya never show her hair (they really wondered if I had any). He told them the plain truth. He said: Shadya has friends who knew her for years and they never saw her hair. He understands that my hair and how it looks, is for his pleasure only. Modesty is a wonderful attribute on women.
Shadya, I could not agree with you more and my full repect to you. As I has wriiten in the previous post that the main issue is actually not the issue itself! as much as the WAY that one approch it, express it.
When I picked up my husband from the airport last week, I had 3 or 4 people (muslimahs who work at the airport) comment on the hijab I was wearing.
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Originally posted by salama:
Salam Shadya,
This was a wonderful post I have read for months.
Thanks
So why don't you were hijjap urself
you hypocrite so so slezyyyyyyyyy an fake
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Originally posted by 1mangang:
alana shut the f**k up.
you have delusions that you are smart.
Yes plzzzzzzzzzzz **** of u drunking old man'
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Originally posted by 1mangang:
I asked my sister about this and she said:'the choice is ultimately the woman's, since she will have nobody to defend her on her day of Judgment. The husband should not tell her to wear it and he should not tell her not to wear it, nor should her friends. She knows right from wrong and knows what she should do, nobody defends themselves before Allah except THEMSELVES!'.
Hope that helps!
Oh hear the drunk talk abaut allah LOL
SHUT UP AN GO TO BED