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[QUOTE]Originally posted by Nefertiti: [QB] [QUOTE]Originally posted by schatze: [b] ok, if this is the situation and he has lied to me from the start, what do egyptian women think of the way their men behave? are they ok with their husbands shagging other women and even marrying them? what do the mothers of these men think about having their houses full of these foreign women (on a rotation system hopefully, rather than all at once); are they accepting of what their sons do and if so why if it is so against their religion? - i don't know what is going to happen to my situation, my OH does not seem (yet!) to want anything from me other than for me to move to live in egypt - but one of the many things i find difficult to reconcile myself with in our cultural differences is precisely the fact that muslims are allowed to have up to 4 wifes so if i were to end up marrying him for real and moving to live with him in egypt i fear that he would be allowed by his own culture to marry other women and there would be nothing i could do to stop that - in my culture marriages are a monogamus set up and it is not acceptable to have extra-marital relationships (although it happens nonetheless i know)- i certainly could not cope with a situation like that but by then i would have given up my job, my home and my financial security to be with him. i have heard from him by text every day since (allegedly) he has been back home - of all the excuses he could have come up with, he would have had to be pretty stupid to make up this one, just in case it may happen for real! or is tempting faith something muslims do not believe in?? - thanx for helping me get some clarity <IMG SRC="http://www.egyptsearch.com/forums/smile.gif"> [This message has been edited by schatze (edited 05 August 2003).][/b][/QUOTE] I wouldn't be able to give you an opinion on what Egyptian women think of their husbands doing this.... most of the men in the tourist areas are not married to Egyptian women. They may have up to 4 foreign orfi wives, which is quite easy to do because rarely are they all in Egypt at the same time. This means he can space them out over the year.... he may also have some girlfriends that visit in between. The wives will stay in his flat and the girlfriends will stay in hotels!! If for some reason he needs a space to marry another woman... he will choose one of his wives to "divorce" - possibly by making up a lie to her about why things are not working so. I could go on and on about the strategies they use etc but i won't and believe me i'm not saying this from speculation. I have a few playboy friends and they keep me informed of the way things work!! <IMG SRC="http://www.egyptsearch.com/forums/biggrin.gif"> I would rather be a friend than a victim!! There is a saying that goes "keep your friends close and keep your enemies closer!!" Regarding what their mothers think.... many of the romeos in Hurghada are originally from other parts of Egypt so they don't live with their families. Therefore Mother will probably think they are good little boys working hard to send money home!! <IMG SRC="http://www.egyptsearch.com/forums/biggrin.gif"> Also they would have too much respect for their mothers to sleep with these women in the family home. They will usually just be introduced as a tourist who wants to see how Egyptians live..... nothing wrong with that in the families eyes! Egyptians are kind people. On the other hand as Debbie explained it will be in some of the families interest to just turn a blind eye to it. Regarding him having upto 4 wives - yes he is allowed. If you stay married to him in the Orfi way then you will have NO control over this. He can do what he likes because it isn't recognised by the Government etc. If you married him properly then you could insist that it is put into the contract he can not marry anymore without your permission etc. There is much much more to it also, but would take to long to write. My advice to you would be... if you are gonna be involved with a man that has a different religion to you then research his religion. That's if you want it to be serious - if it's just a fling then don't worry. There is a chance that if you don't get facts on his religion he may play on your ignorance and tell you things that are untrue (or twist the facts) and call it religion. At the end of the day as far as he is concerned you will never know!! Regarding saying things that are not true and tempting fate..... some people just live for today and don't care for the future! This is regardless of religion, culture, race etc. If he wants to lie he will lie!! [/QB][/QUOTE]
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