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[QUOTE]Originally posted by metinoot: [QB] [QUOTE]Originally posted by Mo Ning Min E: [qb] I don't think it's a 'Me Man, You Woman' thing as such, or maybe it is, I think it's a control issue. And we hate to feel 'controlled' don't we? I invited a friend and his family out for a meal, and made it clear beforehand, to him, that I would be paying, they don't have a lot of cash[although I did say I'd give him the money to hand over if that was an issue]and when I asked where they'd like to eat, I was pretty surprised when he said that as I was paying, I had to decide the restaurant. weird. A control thing, i think. They just don't see money in the same way that we do. If I go for a coffee alone, even in my usual hangout, the waiter invariably goes all mimsy when I ask for the bill, bleating on that 'oh no! It's on the house!' or whatever. One day I will just say 'Thanks' and eat it and beat it! I have never been so conscious of being female until I came to Egypt.Which can be exhilarating at times, until I remember what that status is percieved as.[Sorry bad grammar.] [/qb][/QUOTE]You assume whomever is paying is also making all the decisions. asumptions again. Its not a control issue is a matter of cultural mores. I know when my grandmother's first cousins from Norway came over on vacation to visit the family then take off on a road trip, they went ahead and booked a hotel room in the same town which 3 of my grandmother's sisters lived. They were hurt and shocked. Luckily the Norwegan cousins figured out after 2 of the 14 nights they paid for, that it as a major misstep. So the hotel refunded them 10 nights and the Norwegan cousins stayed at my grandmas home and a few more nights at my grandaunt's homes. The American cousins (grandma and her sisters) also took turns paying for outings, dinners and would not take money for gas. It was prohibited, and you don't argue with my grandma and her sisters. The Norweigan cousins paid for their road trip, but again met up with relatives on the road trip, which again the American relatives paid for dinner/outings. Its not like the American relatives chose the restuarant or outings, but since its our neck of the woods, our hometowns we gave suggestions. Its not a matter of control its a matter of hospitality. Now I am being encouraged to take a trip to Norway and I am told even if I do a road trip on a tour bus I am expected to leave several days to spend with relatives. I wouldn't doubt they'd pay. Oh my goodness you brits are so anal. [/QB][/QUOTE]
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