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[QUOTE]Originally posted by ?????: [QB] [QUOTE]Originally posted by Rumicrazieluv: [qb] [QUOTE]Originally posted by Miss Sharm: [qb] [QUOTE]Originally posted by ?????: [qb] Bringing in money makes you head of the family, don`t have to be the eldest son for that. You talked about getting him to England, and that`s what he wants. He can make a living in England, and not in a serious relationship with you. You are temporary usefull, nothing more. Serious relationships are treatened in another way... [/qb][/QUOTE]Can you explain how serious relationships are treated in another way.....? The only reason that we have discussed him coming to England is because of my 2 children, my financial committments I have here, my employment (was on benefits but from Monday now back in work). He talked to me very early on about wanting me to live in Sharm with him, so I am sorry but i do believe him when he says that he does not want to come to the UK. I am sure he could make a living in England, but why would he not be in a serious relationship with me if we were married? I thought that marriage was a way of committing yourself to the other. If he was going to use me temporarily, then why didn't he marry me when I was there in August to start the visa process? I think that he does love me and want to be with me but I think he feels torn between me and his family. Miss sharm, Plz stop. I have also read all of your posts in different topics. You keep posting to get any answer that is what you want to hear so you can hang on to this relationship. You posted why didnt he marry me when i was there, but yet in another post you said he had you sign papers so you can share an apartment together and he said this means your his "wife" and that all his friends think of you as his wife. In another post you said the same thing, that his family wouldnt accept you, this was prior to this. Are you going to keep going until you get the answers you want to hear? How can you give advice to other woman on here when you are just grasping at straws. You should stop blinding yourself to these signs and warning bells and beat feet as fast as you can. You said in another post that you are a kind hearted person,you probably are, and this is what the problem is.Many, many people mistake kindness for weakness and stupidity and they like to rip people like this to shreds. This is the quality that evil men and rotten con artists pray on. Plz step yourself out of this before we have to console you on here when your heart is ripped out. There are many wonderful men in this world who will not just tell you words of love but show you love. "Words are just words, they come out of a mans mouth and are gone on the wind, but actions will forever imprint themselves on your heart". :) [/qb][/QUOTE]Again: In serious relationships he wants you to meet his family as a start, so that he will know if you will be accepted or not. After that he or his family will not accept any financial support, because it is the honor of the man that he takes care of his family. If you bring presents for the family they will give you something in return, even it`s their last money. If you go out with him it will always be with an 3rd person to occur temptation. The men pay for everything, even if they have less money then you have. You become a member of the family. You are being protected against other men, and this includes your freedom will reduce. Your safeness and your wellness is the responsibility from the family now. The most easy way to do this is to keep you in the safety of their houses. If he really cares for you and loves you, he and another male will take you out regularry. It will become your obligation to take care for the family in housekeeping. In fact you have to do housework for his mother, and she will make the Egyptian way of living familiar to you. from one side it feels warm and protected, from the other side, as an European woman, you have to hand in much from yourself. You`re not an individual anymore, you`re part of a family. With a head of the family, who takes decisions. This is very difficult for somebody who is born and raised as an indivudual independant person. Sometimes young men are frustrated by all that family-rules. By every problem the family is involved and you never can make decisions of your own.Grandmothers are making decisions for their adult sons! The only way to escape from this is to make a lot of money so that will make the family quiet, and accepting everything you do.In fact money makes you independant, just like it`s used in Europe... [/QB][/QUOTE]
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