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[QUOTE]Originally posted by Samarra_Anissa: [QB] [QUOTE]Originally posted by LaZeeZ: [qb] [QUOTE]Originally posted by Tream Lefty: [qb] My point is I think most people have *issues,* but it doesn't mean they aren't looking for real love. [/qb][/QUOTE]I have seen relationships which started based on 'Visa or money' for 'looks' and evolved to be very happy love marriages. The thing which brought them together was not a genuine 'look' for love but an obsession or a need which turned to love eventually but most of the time it doesn't turn that way when either of the partners can't seem to find the other one suitable for them or they find a more qualified partner in this area and at this point they dump them. Real love, to me, isn't any sort of feelings developed for someone else. You can develop feelings on any ground but as long as you don't know exactly 'who' you're loving, to me, it's not REAL. Call it a fling, lust or desperation or even love but not REAL love. Are most of the relationships between tourists and Egyptians based on two invidiuals coming together, admiring each other and developing love by knowing each other? I don't think so. Relationships here between TOURISTS -remember again they are tourists- and Egyptians are usualy based on grounds such as lust and benefits. Because the guy's needs, in this relationships, are obviously materialistic, it's easier to spot him as the liar irresponsible who doesn't care, and no one notice that the gurl too developed those feelings because she was desperate to have 'something' she liked. I call it 'something' because the person side of 'him', she didn't get to know. so, in away they both developed feelings for 'something' . When a woman come here and cry for loseing a guy she didn't know, it brings to me the question, what did she lose which makes her cry? obviously not the person. You can't lose something you didn't acknowledge. what was it then? [/qb][/QUOTE][b]I have seen relationships which started based on 'Visa or money' for 'looks' and evolved to be very happy love marriages. The thing which brought them together was not a genuine 'look' for love but an obsession or a need which turned to love eventually but most of the time it doesn't turn that way when either of the partners can't seem to find the other one suitable for them or they find a more qualified partner in this area and at this point they dump them. [/b] In otherwords they settled for less, marriages of convenience can be rather comfortable with you've lost all hope of finding a loving worthwhile relationship. I find that when a person accepts extra-marital relationships as natural and necessary they often have a subscribed view that marriage is for social purposes and duty; while affairs are meant for love (meaning sexual love). In that case I pry more deeply and ask if either relationship is based on love, emotional romantic love and naturally they claim that both are romantic or definately the extra-marital relationship is based on love. Also I find when a person believes that marriages that start out as marriages of convenience without high level of infatuation to go with it, find that love develops through sharing a life or building a family. These people like the example above cannot dislocate building of a family or the actual reason of the convenient marriage from how the couple later developed a seperate bond. A married couple needs a foundation of the relationship seperate from the demands of building a family or the demands which lead to a marriage of convenience in order for the marriage to be a viable strong relationship in its own right. Its like a house of cards otherwise. When you grow up in a culture that a large percentage of marriages are based on convenience or to build a family you can't understand how a married romantic relationship can be a seperate entity. [/QB][/QUOTE]
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