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[QUOTE]Originally posted by lovingmylife: [QB] We are both Muslims raised and born in highly islamic-traditional families. I was always attracted to his country, and he knows pretty well the history of mine. Because of same religion, we also share same values. Look, we both had interesting lives, he is very deep person, so am I. We are both self-made successful people who worked hard for our families. He is divorced and has grown children but he got married when he was very young and got his 1st child when he was 19. He and his ex wife got divorced after all these years of staying together. They built everything together and they could not hold it anylonger. I told him I am shocked to hear about divorce as many Muslims do not divorce so easily, but he said their marriage was not satisfying for both of them and they decided to each go seperate ways and fulfil their lives with someone else. They split everything they had. There is clearly no love between 2 of them, and he was the main provider taking care of everything, she is very pretty, also Muslim from his own place, I can tell you that, she could marry 3 more times. The divorce was mutual. I can completelly understand their divorce because these 2 people simply could not accept each other. I am not jealous on his ex, I can see how she could of have issues about his life style, however, she must not be perfect either, maybe she did not have all he needed to change his habits successfully and influence him. Maybe he did not provide her with 5th house she so much wanted. Maybe he could not be the husband she needed. Maybe they stayed together to divorce so they both can learn and change. He did all things that he should not, and divorce was only 1 event in the chain of many events that took place in his life one after another, so that he can become a better person and change. Life is short and they both have now the 2nd chance. Now his children are adults, but he is still very young looking. I am also mother, in my 30's, he is in his 40's I think, I don't know excatly... I have never asked him, but he is youngish looking man. Now about his drinking problem in the past. This man is very emotional man. He built his whole life around what he loves the most, and he got into drinking slowly but surely... he paid his price for that. When he gets drunk he ruins all happiness he created when he is sober and later on doesn't remember anything about it. Please take a notice he doesn't look like alcoholic although he may very well be addicted, he looks neat and cool, just like any other non drinking man. He is not bad person, he has hard time saying no to people, if you ask him for something, he will embrace you and help you even if you are a complete stranger. His heart is so wide open, he will do anything to help people in need, he is extremelly generous. He will do anything for you thus he always have lots of people around him. He has everything in his life, except - no real passion and love. He carries himself with authority and pride, he appears very strong from outside, would never admit his weaknesses to just anybody. He could pretty much have many women as money and material possessions are attractive to many, but he doesn't like that, he wants someone who has it all and doesn't need him for his money. He wants someone whom he will fell in love with for real and to be happy with her and share his life with her. I would do anything I can do in my power, and I am pretty powerful when it comes to something I want to lead him further towards the good things in life. I in return ask for his willingness to listen to me, you see I like him obviously because I am willing to take this challange. He is very protective and smart in business, we wold be great combination. [b]I do agree with you that his drinking problem must be resolved, and I forgot to ask him about it when I saw him, maybe he is not drinking any more, he gained some weight and appeared to look healthier than before. But when I go and see him next week ( if I go ) I would watch him and observe his behavior and I would ask him, could he stop if he already did not. [/b] I am not an angel, I did so many things in my life I should not have done, so other people too. The only thing is we are eager to judge others but we can't look at our own bad choices and lessons we had to learn. I was smoking for years, 2 years ago I said, no more - I quit and haven't smoked since than, after 9 non successful times of quiting prior to that. It was struggle. I was drinking wine on birthdays and in restaurants, and one day after going out with my girlfriends I felt some burnings in my lungs, I said - no more, now I don't drink at all. I used to wear short skirts, dressing provocative and silly in my teen years, I believed I looked good in that clothes, and up to maybe a few years ago, but I realized I made bad choice, it took me awhile, there were consequences I have paid for them already, and now I am not like that anylonger. So I changed. I used to do so many things that I don't do anymore. So he too, must change, we all have to change. And what if he IS interested? I would seriously be shocked that after 2 years our paths crossed with "possibility"! 1s of all I have never thought not even in my dreams that he will be divorced ever. The way his life developed is amazingly making him ready for someone else, and that person could be me. This is something that never crossed my mind. [b]To me married man was always forbiden, thus I have never thought of him as my potential significant other. But now he is divorced for 2 years already. If he is interested, I would feel happy, I would take all love he wants to give me, and I would be greatful for it.[/b] [/QB][/QUOTE]
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