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[QUOTE]Originally posted by amrssnowangel: [QB] Wow. Im sorry for all the good advice put in such a negative light. Let me see if I can explain what I think in a proper way. 1. You are attracted to this man, this is obvious. Doesn't matter WHY you went to that restaurant. Maybe you hoped to run into him. Who knows..who cares. What matters is you DID and he wants to see you again. You should go and see where this leads. You need to see if he has made those changes. You need to pray and seek Allahs will. It will become clear and what Allah has planned for you will come. 2. He IS an Addict. I agree...once an addict ALWAYS an addict. BUT that doesn't mean he can't control it. Just means you have to decide if its right for YOU to bring this into your life. Are you strong enough to walk away if you need to? If not...don't get involved. Seek your guidance from Allah. IF this man is doing ANYTHING against ALLAHS commands, stay away. Simply running into each other may not mean its Allahs will to get involved deeply. Onlly you can understand where Allah is leading you. But as a Muslimah myself, I'd want a man that can LEAD our family. Remember in Islam its HIS responsibility to lead you, guide you and teach you. HOw can he do that when he can't control his own addiction. Time will tell on this issue. You just need to decide if you are strong enough to walk away if you need to. And seek Allahs ways in choosing a partner. That means...you should view this man as a possible partner in life...IS he walking in Allahs ways NOW? If not..run. If he is and intends to do so...find out more. Just be careful. Allah works His own way and you will be in my prayers for guidance. 3. We ALL not only make mistakes, but many of us have lived wrong ways and changed them. I know of someone...sweet girl...turned Stripper, who cheated on her husband twice. She hung in there, changed her life completely, stayed with her husband who forgave her. They now have 2 wonderful sons and they both lead spiritually enriched lives. I to lived in a way I should not have...and with Allahs guidance am changed. HOWEVER I still battle those old demons and ways. Its a day to day giving to Allah of those things. But HE has to be DOING that NOW. 4. Don't get involved hoping to change him or thinking he would love you enough to change for you. Doesn't work. I know. Married an abusive man..who said he had changed. And for a while all was wonderful. Till his son came to live with us and he abused his son, controlled me and became more selfish then I ever thought possible and cheated on me with his ex wife. I was shocked. I was soo convinced he loved me enough that he'd never ever do any of those things. Be careful is all Im saying. Really think before you get involved. Set aside your FEELINGS. And THINK. Good Luck and may Allah lead and guide you as you find HIS ways in your life. Salam Alaikum [/QB][/QUOTE]
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