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What are your next year resolutions? and have you achieved your current year resolutions?
Makbeta Member # 14401
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I always have plenty of New Year resolutions in my head but keeping them is another story! Next year, 2008, will be important to me for a few reasons and I only hope to be resolute and determined enough to carry some of my plans through. One thing is definitely to travel more! (No, no - I don't smoke or drink, so it's neither of them! )
Angel Heart Member # 13767
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My next year resolutions are marry and having baby!
habeeby Member # 14429
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My 2008 resolutions are too:
- work less hours - spend less money - work out more - be more focused on the important things in life - take time to stop and smell the flowers - be grateful for what i have instead of longing for what i don't have
Angel Heart Member # 13767
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quote:Originally posted by habeeby: My 2008 resolutions are too:
...- be grateful for what i have instead of longing for what i don't have
I like this sentence.
habeeby Member # 14429
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Thank you Angelheart
????? Member # 12336
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2008: Will finish my study in March, and start a new job directly after it. It needs a lot of awareness, being able to see big lines, long term consequences, a lot of communucation and empathy, so I hope I will be able to manage it all.It's a difficult but beautiful job, two ppl already tried ( one got fired, one gave up)and it's a big challenge for me. It also means that I have to stay in Europe more.
Angel Heart Member # 13767
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quote:Originally posted by Makbeta: ... One thing is definitely to travel more! (No, no - I don't smoke or drink, so it's neither of them! )
Have a nice travelling around the world
Angel Heart Member # 13767
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quote:Originally posted by ?????: 2008: Will finish my study in March, and start a new job directly after it. ...
Good luck for your study and carrier in 2008.
Tigerlily Member # 3567
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quote:Originally posted by Angel Heart:
quote:Originally posted by habeeby: My 2008 resolutions are too:
...- be grateful for what i have instead of longing for what i don't have
I like this sentence.
Me too.
????? Member # 12336
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quote:Originally posted by Angel Heart:
quote:Originally posted by ?????: 2008: Will finish my study in March, and start a new job directly after it. ...
Good luck for your study and carrier in 2008.
Thank you, Angel Heart! BTW, one of the people who are advising me in this job, is an old Indonesian man! I am contacting him regularry because he is a kind of walking dictionary concerning rules and the interpretation of them. The classical wise old man!
what time Member # 14547
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My new years resolution will be to forget about 2007 cause it has been the worst year of my life, and spend more time with the people that really matter family and friends
young at heart Member # 10365
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I don't make any, then I can't break them
Gail Member # 6886
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New Year's resolutions are great! I plan on bringing home less work and focusing more on my personal life. I've already started!
of_gold Member # 13418
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quote:Originally posted by ?????: 2008: Will finish my study in March, and start a new job directly after it. It needs a lot of awareness, being able to see big lines, long term consequences, a lot of communucation and empathy, so I hope I will be able to manage it all.It's a difficult but beautiful job, two ppl already tried ( one got fired, one gave up)and it's a big challenge for me. It also means that I have to stay in Europe more.
what is the job?
????? Member # 12336
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Technical director. I am not training myself, I have to make decisions about the methods, the trainers, making contracts, and make sure that development is as high as possible for the ones who are in training. Needs a lot personal contact, right now I'm just trying to inform myself about how likely it is that I will be able to imply my view on it. I have worked for 10 years on parts that are related to that field, so I have my own opinion about it. The trainers know me, and how I think about it, and thats not completely the same as their opinion and thoughts. They are even not on the same line for themselves. So, first we have to decide which direction we will take, and try to get all the noses in that same direction. I want to work to a certain goal together, instead as placing myself above them and tell them what I want. They have to be convinced that my goal is their goal. For the rest it's financial and economical responsebility. I am the one who is fully responsable, and one of the members of the board. ( and that means meetings, which I hate) It's the only part that is profitable, so I am honoured that the board decided that I am good enough to keep this going...
lovingmylife Member # 13695
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quote:Originally posted by Angel Heart: What are your next year resolutions?
- To become more devoted, more submissive to Allah on the soul level, to feel more, to give in more. - To make my connection/bond with Creator stronger and deeper. - To offer kindness & love more to those who suffer, to touch more - To be authentic to my true-self more - To guard my essence more and to pray more - To train patience and wisdom more. - To fight for loved ones and bring them back to their true selves and 'connection' more. - To forgive more to those who need my forgiveness, to listen more, to understand more. - To love myself more, to keep confidence high - To sing more, at least 3 times a day, and surround myself with music and art more - To use my life more - To educate myself more, more and more. - To stop and think to self-reflect more. - To be focused more, to be greatful more - To learn silence more - To improve communication in all levels more - To be disciplined more
Financial: - to think BIG, and surround myself with succesful people - to use every free day at east 1 hour a day, to bring an idea into a reality - to be smarter financially
Career: - To do what I love & pursue only things I love - to publish - to write more - to create more
Health & Happiness: - to spend more money on things that make me healtier - to master my body - to involve myself into sport - to keep having positive nurturing friends - to celebrate love and life more
lovingmylife Member # 13695
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quote:Originally posted by Angel Heart: and have you achieved your current year resolutions?
I achieved all but I need to master it more.
This year 2008 is crucial for me in all levels because it will bring the fruits of my hard work in the past ( I hope ).
2007 for me was a year of total transformation. This is I think 4th or 5th time where after awhile I chose to transform everything ( all aspects ) totally and bring them to higher level.
In order for me to achieve my potential I need death of old and rebirth of new things, or in other words to appreciate what I already have, get rid of things you don't like, keep things you do like, and most importantly invite new things.
Which had many risks ( leaving old & familiar, and facing new and unknown ) so it was not so easy for me as I was pretty established in my previous stage, but that is how I make-over my life ( by trasnforming every single aspect in 12 month period, and then deal with it at once one after another one ). I always get tremendous and extraordinary life changes, (thank God for the strength and endurance).
2007 was harder for me then usually because more time passed between 2 transformations. This time I got to do total transformation sooner.
lovingmylife Member # 13695
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quote:Originally posted by ?????: 2008: Will finish my study in March, and start a new job directly after it. It needs a lot of awareness, being able to see big lines, long term consequences, a lot of communucation and empathy, so I hope I will be able to manage it all. It's a difficult but beautiful job, two ppl already tried ( one got fired, one gave up)and it's a big challenge for me. It also means that I have to stay in Europe more.
Without risks there is no success. Nothing worthy comes easily.
MICKY A Member # 11209
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quote:Originally posted by ?????: 2008: Will finish my study in March, and start a new job directly after it. It needs a lot of awareness, being able to see big lines, long term consequences, a lot of communucation and empathy, so I hope I will be able to manage it all.It's a difficult but beautiful job, two ppl already tried ( one got fired, one gave up)and it's a big challenge for me. It also means that I have to stay in Europe more.
best of luck to you.i know you'll be a success
soozi Member # 11108
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quote:Originally posted by lovingmylife:
quote:Originally posted by ?????: 2008: Will finish my study in March, and start a new job directly after it. It needs a lot of awareness, being able to see big lines, long term consequences, a lot of communucation and empathy, so I hope I will be able to manage it all. It's a difficult but beautiful job, two ppl already tried ( one got fired, one gave up)and it's a big challenge for me. It also means that I have to stay in Europe more.
Without risks there is no success. Nothing worthy comes easily.
LML, that sentiment is so true, and something I have been battling with this year. I can now see clearly what I must do next year, even though it involves one of the biggest risks I've ever taken alone!
lovingmylife Member # 13695
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If you don't risk you may move eventually there but it may take you forever, and you may be lost in the process. If you risk it and lose it then you would lose it anyway.
lovingmylife Member # 13695
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So what's that you must do that involves the biggest risks you have taken alone next year soozi?
( let me guess: move to another country alone and leave behind everyone you know ?)
soozi Member # 11108
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No, nothing to do with moving to another country, but a major career change, moving across the UK to a town I've never been to and don't know anyone. Leaving family and friends - you got that bit right - selling my house and giving my cats away!
And there is quite a high risk of failure in the new career. But hey - life is for living!
lovingmylife Member # 13695
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I did that at least hold on, let me think, like 6 - 7 times or so... including different cultures, languages, people, expectations, social norms, way of life. It was worth it.
The 1st time I risked it and made it, I learned the timing when to take a risk in the future. I think timing is crucial. There has been always something unexpected that took place in all my risk takings, but since I have skills whatever took place I used to my advantage, not allowing it to take me off. I think this is the key.
I had cats and dog and birds, and all kinds of pets too. You can re-create everything again soozi. Any life you want.
soozi Member # 11108
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Yeah now that I've sold the house, and told my current employer my plans - the worry and panic has left me, and I know for sure to go ahead and do it!
If I fail, then I fail - I would prefer that than the regret of what could have been!
lovingmylife Member # 13695
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Exactly. By risking you are simply speeding up something, you are inviting a change ( usually huge one ) So the time is shorter to get there ( assume you are ready but circumstances don't allow you ). You must risk it, and go against circumstances and rely on your skills, confidence, knowledge, you must believe in yourself that you can do it.
Barry's Sandra Member # 13539
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quote:Originally posted by lovingmylife: Exactly. By risking you are simply speeding up something, you are inviting a change ( usually huge one ) So the time is shorter to get there ( assume you are ready but circumstances don't allow you ). You must risk it, and go against circumstances and rely on your skills, confidence, knowledge, you must believe in yourself that you can do it.
Wow! these are words of wisdom. Definitely what I need. I am about to take a risk and you are exactly saying what I believe in. Thanks LML, you are boosting my self-esteem
????? Member # 12336
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Changes are difficult because people are having problems with the uncertainty in it. Taking risks is inherent to changes. In my opinion taking risks, or just decisions, isn't because of self-esteem, and rely on skills, having trust, confidence, knowledge etc. They are all important, but THE most important thing is self-knowledge. Self-knowledge is a whole lot more realistic as confidence, self-esteem, or just guts. If you really have the realistic and honest view on yourself, you KNOW what you are able to do, and what isn't. And when you're goal is also a realistic one, and you know exactly what capacities you have, then it isn't necesarry to take risks, or act out of the guts you are having. Succes IMO is not taking risks, but knowing yourself...
Oldbag Member # 9889
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2007 resolutions: -----------------
quit job TICK
move to Egypt TICK
start training for new career TICK
lose 30lb - Abject failure
2008 resolutions: -----------------
get new career going
lose 30lb
Korvin's Member # 14099
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Well, this year resoluton is get healed of many sicknesses and get married I hope, I hope, I hope, insh'Allah, Amen !!!
Mother War Member # 8386
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My resolutions...quit smoking and lose 20 lbs.
Our resolutions as a couple...pay off credit cards within the first six months and try to add an addition to the household.
With a name like Smuckers Member # 10289
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I have no idea~
lovingmylife Member # 13695
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quote:Originally posted by ?????: If you really have the realistic and honest view on yourself, you KNOW what you are able to do, and what isn't. And when you're goal is also a realistic one, and you know exactly what capacities you have, then it isn't necesarry to take risks, or act out of the guts you are having. Succes IMO is not taking risks, but knowing yourself...
Interesting view but I have never thought of it that way.
- One doesn't discover new lands without consenting to lose sight of the shore for a very long time. (a.g) - The important thing is this: To be able at any moment to sacrifice what we are for what we could become. (c.d)
lovingmylife Member # 13695
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quote:Originally posted by Barry's Sandra:
quote:Originally posted by lovingmylife: Exactly. By risking you are simply speeding up something, you are inviting a change ( usually huge one ) So the time is shorter to get there ( assume you are ready but circumstances don't allow you ). You must risk it, and go against circumstances and rely on your skills, confidence, knowledge, you must believe in yourself that you can do it.
Wow! these are words of wisdom. Definitely what I need. I am about to take a risk and you are exactly saying what I believe in. Thanks LML, you are boosting my self-esteem
Thanks. So what is your risk taking about?
lovingmylife Member # 13695
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quote:Originally posted by Oldbag: 2007 resolutions: ----------------- quit job TICK move to Egypt TICK start training for new career TICK lose 30lb - Abject failure
2008 resolutions: -----------------
get new career going lose 30lb
Once you get your Career going you will lose the weight as well.
????? Member # 12336
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quote:Originally posted by lovingmylife:
quote:Originally posted by ?????: If you really have the realistic and honest view on yourself, you KNOW what you are able to do, and what isn't. And when you're goal is also a realistic one, and you know exactly what capacities you have, then it isn't necesarry to take risks, or act out of the guts you are having. Succes IMO is not taking risks, but knowing yourself...
Interesting view but I have never thought of it that way.
- One doesn't discover new lands without consenting to lose sight of the shore for a very long time. (a.g) - The important thing is this: To be able at any moment to sacrifice what we are for what we could become. (c.d)
Sacrifice??? I don't see it this way. It's more like building; a stone on a stone, and that makes the wall grow higher. You don't have to throw it all down and build a new, bigger one, as long as there is enough stability in what has been build untill now. I'm not the taking risks type, the most important thing before I start something new is that I am rather sure how to do it, and that it is possible the do it! So, I am building on something that is already existing and whats strong enough to carry the wheight.
lovingmylife Member # 13695
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In my culture for instance, people are encouraged to 'sacrifice' as that is "viewed" as one (of many) forms of love.
For example, I have only $1 Dollar, I need it, but you really need it more. So I will sacrifize and give it to you because you need it more. If I don't, and chances are high for you to experience pain, I feel bad so to show you love/care, and help you ( make it easier on you ) I will sacrifize for you.
This is one version.
Another version I learned in other cultures is - don't sacrifice, or at least don't say that you do. Because 'sacrifice' means you don't have enough, and when you give when you don't have enough, you also face resentment ( if the person you sarifized for dissapoints you ever after ).
So I would interpret sarifice "of what you are" FOR "what we could become" as love for yourself, or love for life, some positive change, not kiling your self, but basically rebuilding yourself, rebuilding your life, and making the life of your own dreams.
We often have no choice. If we stayed the way we are ( and we like ourselves that way ) we would not be able to be who we are now ( and now we are way more than we have been in the past ).
It's when you have to build yourself ( often against your own wishes, but out of necessity ) in such a way that you could deal with things, things you maybe could not deal with before.
I think we always change and build ourselves, the only thing is some people have to do it totally. I call this rebirth. ( I had 1 at age of 21 )
lovingmylife Member # 13695
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In regards of risks, risk is a concept of facing things you haven't faced before ( which is uncertainty ) & probability of failure. Higher uncertainty higher perceived risk, however "risking" to me is ability, it's verb in action.
So if I have self-knowledge but I don't act, then I don't risk. Without facing uncertainty ( risking ) I don't cause changes, and I don't invite new things in my life.
As the consequence, I would not feel successful. I want big things, big changes... thus without risking who knows would it ever happen. I think not, or it would take forever. That's how I see it.
crisálida Member # 13923
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My New Years resolution is to make a good life for me and my son.
To believe in myself.
To Believe in my own judgement and follow what I think is right.
To be free to be who I want to be.
To encourage my son to be self confident.
To Enjoy being who I am.
Might sound crazy to some of you, but sometimes we lose these things and they are what make the air worth breathing
????? Member # 12336
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A few years ago I had an appointment with a bankmanager with the same familyname as an old boyfriend had. It was not a common name, so I assumed he should be a member from his family. He came to my office, and I saw and old man, and I made the (wrong) conclusion that it must have been an uncle or his father.After some talking it seemed that he had nothing else in mind as waiting for his retirement what should follow in a few years. I asked him about his relative and he told me he was his brother and only a few years older then I (and he) was. I was surprised that he looked that old, grey and boring, having no challenge at all as his retirement. I think he was a bit of surprised about two people, more or less, from the same age, could have such a different attitude and goals in life. I think it is an art of living to see goals and challenges. I think when you don't have them anymore, you are like you described above, safety first, and let's not do anything that brings changes! Maybe they feel comfortable with it, I'm not. And that's why there are all kinds of people. As long as they feel fine in what they do, who am I to say they're wrong?
crisálida Member # 13923
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quote:Originally posted by ?????:
quote:Originally posted by lovingmylife:
quote:Originally posted by ?????: If you really have the realistic and honest view on yourself, you KNOW what you are able to do, and what isn't. And when you're goal is also a realistic one, and you know exactly what capacities you have, then it isn't necesarry to take risks, or act out of the guts you are having. Succes IMO is not taking risks, but knowing yourself...
Interesting view but I have never thought of it that way.
- One doesn't discover new lands without consenting to lose sight of the shore for a very long time. (a.g) - The important thing is this: To be able at any moment to sacrifice what we are for what we could become. (c.d)
Sacrifice??? I don't see it this way. It's more like building; a stone on a stone, and that makes the wall grow higher. You don't have to throw it all down and build a new, bigger one, as long as there is enough stability in what has been build untill now. I'm not the taking risks type, the most important thing before I start something new is that I am rather sure how to do it, and that it is possible the do it! So, I am building on something that is already existing and whats strong enough to carry the wheight.
I agree with ?????, I am like this also, I like to have a plan or a goal, but I have to set the foundations first, small steps at a time, because then if the wall falls it will not fall all the way back down to the ground, maybe only half way, and will be easier to rebuild.
Also if you have people that depend on you i.e children, you have to make sure that you are not risking their security also, children need security, so you cant up sticks and go off to pursue your dreams at the risk of it all crumbling and being left with nothing, that is irresponsible IMO, better to have some security in place first.
For example, I would love to work abroad, I have wanted to for years, so i have looked at jobs, I would make sure I had the qualifications, a job offer and a place to live, and spoke some of the language before i even set foot on foreign turf - Then my adventure would begin, because there are enough struggles in life without making it harder on yourself and i have learnt you can only truely rely on yourself
MICKY A Member # 11209
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try to be a better person. try to love my fellow man even if they are not loving .try to be a better at my job and just live one day at a time because you never know when your last day will be.
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