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hitman Member # 13360	posted hi every one ....hi Es friends ..It's been a very long time since I last shared a topic ,,,, I broke up with my finace ,,,, I am so hurted , after all the suffering , after all what I have done for her , I just rialised that she didn't love me , and I didn't make any diffrance for her ,,,, she was just happy with the engagment and was just playing with my heart ,she & her family,,,, I really feel down these days ,,,,, every thing is over ,, just so depressed ,,,,,imagin after 2 years of building the house of marrage ur fiance comes to tell u : ( hey , I don't see any thing getting done ,, I don't wanna be engaged for the rest of my life ...... and when I said : how come babe !!! I already bought a cash appartment and I finalized it and decorated it ,thats a big step , she says : I don't care about this appartment , its your appartment, even after our marrage its yours , its not my properity , so when I said : if u think like that then u can't live with me in one house , I was building it for our happy marrage , she just said fine,,, let it be ,, and we broke up on the phone , I didn't even see her ,,,, imagine !!!!! didn't even try to fix it ,,,, and she was acting for 2 years that she loves me more than her soul ... how fool I was ,,,,
Makbeta Member # 14401	posted quote: Originally posted by hitman: and we broke up on the phone , I didn't even see her ,,,, imagine !!!!! didn't even try to fix it ,,,, and she was acting for 2 years that she loves me more than her soul ... how fool I was ,,,, Hi, Hitman. Sorry to hear your story. It's sad you both (or rather she ?) broke up on the phone (!?) - some people just don't have the courage to face their partner and say, "Hey, I don't think we are made for each other". Plus, do you think she was after anything materialistic only? But I believe that even if you are deeply disappointed and hurt (after two years of trying to make it work), it's perhaps better that it happened now than after you've exchanged your wedding vows. Just my opinion. All the best.
hitman Member # 13360	posted thanx sweet Makbeta
desertgirl Member # 12450	posted Maybe it was just not meant to be... Makbeta already said it; better breaking up now than after getting married. You'll be fine, it'll just take some time.
Sashyra8 Member # 14488	posted quote: Originally posted by hitman: hi every one ....hi Es friends ..It's been a very long time since I last shared a topic ,,,, I broke up with my finace ,,,, I am so hurted , after all the suffering , after all what I have done for her , I just rialised that she didn't love me , and I didn't make any diffrance for her ,,,, she was just happy with the engagment and was just playing with my heart ,she & her family,,,, I really feel down these days ,,,,, every thing is over ,, just so depressed ,,,,,imagin after 2 years of building the house of marrage ur fiance comes to tell u : ( hey , I don't see any thing getting done ,, I don't wanna be engaged for the rest of my life ...... and when I said : how come babe !!! I already bought a cash appartment and I finalized it and decorated it ,thats a big step , she says : I don't care about this appartment , its your appartment, even after our marrage its yours , its not my properity , so when I said : if u think like that then u can't live with me in one house , I was building it for our happy marrage , she just said fine,,, let it be ,, and we broke up on the phone , I didn't even see her ,,,, imagine !!!!! didn't even try to fix it ,,,, and she was acting for 2 years that she loves me more than her soul ... how fool I was ,,,, Really sad,Hitman,but as you can see,for the vast majority of Egy girls-women it all boils down to saying they are finally married,and all the material things they can achieve thru it,that YOU must provide all,for sure.Love rarely ever comes into play.Is a take it or leave it situation with most men that marry Egy women. I dont judge them since this is something culturally ingrained in them.It´s the way they were brought to be.For them is the correct and proper way to be.But she shouldnt have make you believe she loved you. I even heard it once direct from an Egy girl.She said that they dont marry for love.As simple as that.
*Tinker* Member # 16147	posted Well, Hitman, sorry for your hurt, but be grateful that you didnt have kids otherwise she might have left you then and you would be without your children AND apartment! Also, maybe she wasn't acting, maybe she thought that she did love you, but it wasn't very strong? Thats why its good that you didn't rush into it. Don't worry, you havn't lost anything, its a learning experience.
LatinaLover Member # 16594	posted sorry for ur loss man.most women like this god help u
Tigerlily Member # 3567	posted Oh hitman I am so sorry for your heartache. But remember people told you before she ain't worth it with all these high demands she and her family had. Listen sell something and go out and buy yourself a new motorbike . Get your happiness back!! And when the time is right you gonna meet HER, the girl who was meant to be yours (perhaps on a motorbike too? ). All the best and hang in there..... TL
happybunny Member # 14224	posted Chin up hitman maybe just maybe you had a lucky escape and in years in come meet the woman of your dreams and realise how lucky you where. God moves in mysterious ways!
LatinaLover Member # 16594	posted hitman see Women more attracted to men in expensive cars Men who drive expensive cars really are more attractive to women, according to a study by university researchers. 10:21AM GMT 26 Mar 2009 Psychologists proved what car-dealers have boasted for generations the car one drives is key when it comes to turning a woman's head. The university team showed women pictures of the same man sitting in two cars - a £70,000 silver Bentley Continental and a battered Ford Fiesta. The women, who were aged between 21 to 40, picked the man sitting in the Bentley ahead of the same man in the Ford. Dr Michael Dunn, of the University of Wales Institute in Cardiff, said it shows women rate a man higher if he is behind the wheels of a "fancy motor rather than in an old banger". His research, in the latest edition of the British Journal of Psychology, also shows that men are more interested in a women's looks not her motor. The researchers say the men tested in the same way are not impressed by whatever car a woman drives because they judge purely on her face and figure. Dr Dunn said his findings confirmed that women judge a man by his wealth and status whereas men are primarily concerned with what a woman looks like. He said he was spurred by his own interest in evolutionary psychology along with the increasing number of women buying so-called "high end" motors. He said: "There's a wide variety of evidence that does suggest that females are more influenced by wealth and status. "It's not a recent phenomenon. It is very ingrained and the evidence is not just anecdotal. "Females focus on questions of wealth and status because if the male possesses those, that male would be in a better condition to rear healthy offspring." Dr Dunn believes this basic human trait will not change in the future - even as women become more independent and wealthy in their own rights. He said: "It appears that the stereotype of women being positively influenced by a man's status is true and, evolutionarily speaking, this makes sense. "However, even with the growing number of women in high-paid careers and the fact that they can be highly successful has no effect on how attractive they are to men. "What you find is that these new, wealthy women still show a preferment for high-status males." Now his researchers plan to carry out further studies - to guide men buying expensive cars in their mid-life crisis. Dr Dunn, who admits to driving an old Ford Ka, will examine if high-status items like expensive cars can help make up for "the attractiveness-diminishing effects of age." In other words, do middle-aged men in expensive cars seem more attractive to women despite their grey hair and expanding waistline. Dr Dunn admitted that his research could also be interpreted as evidence that women are shallower than men. He said: "Let's face it - there's evidence to support it." web page
*Dalia* Member # 13012	posted quote: Originally posted by LatinaLover: most women like this Let me guess, Mr_Expert_on_women -- you never set foot out of Egypt, right?
murray-mint77 Member # 13080	posted Sad story x Sorry for yr heartache Hitman x But as the saying goes..what u lose, u gain 3 times better!! Hang on in there and when u find the one for u, you will be so pleased she dropped u. u may even thank her personally! Believe what i say i know what i'm talking about here! Anyways who wants to be with someone who only cares about what u can give them materially?? These people are shallow and not worth a light! let them be, to rot in their own misfortune x
young at heart Member # 10365	posted Sorry things didn't work out for you. Better to find out now than after you married. there's a girl out there that deserves you, she'll come along when you least expect it.
hitman Member # 13360	posted thanx my friends ....I am really happy that u care about my feelings ,,,,and what happened to me ,,,, I really need to get out the down mood I am living now ,,,, u r all right in what u said ,,,,, I need to get my happiness back ..... I really need that .....
of_gold Member # 13418	posted Hi hitman. I think we all go through these things at some point in our life. I hope the heart ache passes quickly for you and that you find your true love soon.
Rudegirl Member # 16636	posted plenty more fish in the sea , get out there and catch the right one x
Slewth Member # 16166	posted Hi Hitman, I wanted to say that I'm so sorry for your loss. I will say that I agree with the others in saying that it's much better to find out now than to have married her because of her family, had kids with her and then be miserable for many years, then suddenly stumble upon "the one" and have to make a choice between the one you're married to and the one you truly love. I know this because I am dealing with it now.( I'm the one he loves.) God bless, and you will persevere.
dolphin redsea Member # 11209	posted i am also sorry hitman, your a good guy and deserve better.give it some time and you'll be good as new. she is there just be paticent, she will find you xxoo
tina kamal Member # 13845	posted we cant really be sorry for a loss if there was no loss. him leaving her wasnt a loss it was for respect and for him to move on.i am glad u left a woman like that and not took that abuse. noone deserves to be number 2 in noones life..
HandsUpHandsDown Member # 15410	posted Realize that somethings are blessings in disguise! The only thing worse than staying in a bad relationship for two years is staying in a bad relationship for two years and one day.
Culture Club Member # 13767	posted She has someone new, and just make a reason to leave you, that is very easy...
Questionmarks Member # 12336	posted Or her family putted pressure on her, because it all took too much time. They indeed might have other reasons as the one mentioned.
SherryBlueBerry Member # 13867	posted I too am sorry about the break-up hon. You will have to grieve and be upset for a while but then you will wake up one day and think..I AM FREE LOL...Free from all those demands of buy this, buy that, upgrade this, I need this...even before you are married. You don't need a money hungry, greedy woman. Go buy that motorbike and be happy!
desertgirl Member # 12450	posted Do you all have shares in motorbike companies?? Hitman, you'll be ok.