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[QUOTE]Originally posted by nevermind: [QB] For not so few men (or what) MORE! is always better :p . How many are those in the world who are married to one but also keep a lover by the side? The notion of having "family" with one but love with another is not so strange at all, not even outside of Egypt. Nothing wrong for a man to live with two wives, and even officially! Also, he may be genuine, indeed, but as much as I have noticed, only very "simple" people nowadays have several wives. The two I know are one a truck driver my husband sometimes uses, and a horse driver in Zamalek I once talked to (not living in Zamalek - working there! :) The horse driver had family (kids, troubles etc) with an Egyptian, but he had also married a Sudanese beauty, for other simple pleasures. So - it is simple minds, with little education, who find it acceptable nowadays. Is the girl from outside also so simple? The most likely life style I see is that she stays at home while he goes out to work, then comes in, eats and collapses in front of TV for the rest of the evening. Does she really want that for the rest of her life? Or is he "upwardly mobile" :) then at least they might achieve the life style of nouveaux riche in Egypt, with perhaps a babysitter or some home help. What about trying to find a soul mate instead, who shares your dreams??? and can also make them true, realistically. At least with Muslim you can have a divorce, so technically, she might try it, if she is financially free enough to be without job and move between countries, if things do not work out. But by no means should they have any kids before they know they are indeed satisfied with each other, because kids complicate it a lot in every way. Being a second wife also means the girl from outside will have to live in the man's house, with or near his family, and that all income the man gets, will be shared between them. meaning that there will be 3 mouths from the beginning, and more when the 1st wife no doubt will have kids (ASAP!). Also the attention and support of all extended family will be on the wife wqith kids, the "real" wifw, who will also be the happier one, because for her the living standard, will be much more acceptable. She will not miss much. So she will be the happy and respected wife, Mother, whom everyone loves and helps, while the 2nd wife even if she did not choose to do housework and only lived with the man for pleasure, will live much below what she is used to, materially but especially culturally, and also pretty much in social isolation. Well to put it bluntly, what the "village" would think is that one is his wife and the other one is his wh..e. Depending of from where the man comes from, where they would live. These are just some possibilities of course, and who finds fault in this thinking please feel free to tell so :) . [/QB][/QUOTE]
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