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[QUOTE]Originally posted by Exiiled: [QB] [QUOTE]Originally posted by Questionmarks: [qb] [QUOTE]Originally posted by Exiiled: [qb] I liked the way Shanta Q put it. Explanatory but definitely objective. She placed an emphasis on motivation, and also discipline that people who don't work must eventually adhere too. Unfortunately for one reason or another society as evinced by some members here are unable grasp lifestyles that differ from what they're accustomed to. It's as if a person has to conform to the way they perceive life. I had a conversation with a gentlemen once, a man of leisure very much like myself, and he said when people ask him what he does for a living, he just lies, and says he's an accountant or some other mundane job. He realized that people in general must be able to identify with the person in order to eventually accept that person. Their minds must accept a person, if not, they place a big question mark on it, this in turn leads to labels being created by their minds to identify that person. These labels are often not very nice. [/qb][/QUOTE]Yes, perhaps this makes sense. I thought about it, and it's strange because it has to do with feeling valued. It seems that feeling valued is connected with being succesfull in professional life. But why do people need to feel valued? Perhaps because they don't have enough selfesteem, and then somone couldintroduce himself as an accountant, while he isn't. I am managing the season finals at the moment, and yesterdaynight after the matches were played, all the tennis association members were chatting with each other and the subject was work. One man, guess he's around 60, quitted working because of a huge disagreement with his employer. Protected by law he received a large sum and decided to quit. He is at home while his wife is working fulltime. We tend to think about this kind of situations as a rather meaningless life. A man who is at home all day, cleaning the house, washin the laundry, cooking the food, that's not something to be jealous at for a man. It's okay for a woman, but not for a man. ;) Of course it's not the right way to think, but that's how people think, here. My husband was at home for a few years, but he didn't feel right about it. To be clear: This is not about same fingers on one hand, or about jealousy or shortsightenedness. It's about common opinions, attitudes, way of life. Exiiled's way of living is unusual to me, and to most of my fellow compatriots, even the queen is working as I said earlier. That doesn't mean it's the one and only right way to live, I just want to understand. Where do you feel proud about? Or your parents? Don't they have any problems with this way of life? I cannot imagine that, when a father has worked all his life as a businessman, agrees in having a son needing financial support all his life, because he doesn't have plans to work. I would worry about him! [/qb][/QUOTE]You completely missed the point. It's not about feeling valued at all. The man opts to tell people he's an accountant because apparently he meets people like you who fail to accept and understand lifestyles that don't include work. I guess he's annoyed by having to explain his life. There's also the issue of contempt that some people have for people who are set for life. I'm sure when he meets open minded people and people he feels comfortable with he divulges the truth. It's not easy saying something like “I don't need to work” to strangers, but I personally found the title “man of leisure” to be somewhat okay, it's smoother that's for sure. People such as myself as I have reiterated are just like everyone else minus work. We're not a secret society of some sort. Some have inherited money and live off it, some live off estates and trusts, some are born wealthy, some have property and live off the rent. One thing that I have observed however is that such people and I'm also speaking from experience, have matured a little slower than people who work. I believe this immaturity hails from lack of responsibility gained from work and career. I know a young lady who has to be dragged out of bed in order to do anything before 6pm, but come evening she's a riot. I also know a dude who does nothing but watch hindi movies all day. Now these two might be seen as lost cases but I think it's lack of motivation and also lack of discipline as was pointed out by Shanta. They also need to grow up. You say it's not about jealousy or “shortsightedness” but rather it's about “common opinions” and “way of life.” Such an attitude is one of intolerance, even if there is a consensus, because we are all different. Some people have been dealt a unique set of cards in life but each person is the star of his or her own life. Living to appease society is a mistake but you feel it's necessary as that's the normal way and apparently because the almighty Queen Beatrix does it too. You mention that I need financial support all my life, you are assuming that, and I understand because it's probably due to my vagueness. Try to understand that I have assets and I live off dividends from those assets, before two years ago yes it was direct support. But these assets are now mine and their value as well as the dividends appreciate. Should we have a child then I'll pass the assets to him/her. My mom is always busting my ass. She basically believes that idle hands lead to trouble, and wants me to work so I can stay out of trouble or so trouble doesn't find me. She stresses a lot, she watches the news and sees flooding on TV and calls me, even though it's like 1000 miles away. She's a mom she worries, like all moms do.. My dad gave up. :D He tried everything in the book including disowning me at one point. :D We're cool now. Love that man. [/QB][/QUOTE]
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