JIBLA, Yemen - JIBLA, Yemen - One morning last month, Arwa Abdu Muhammad Ali walked out of her husband's house here and ran to a local hospital, where she complained that he had been beating and sexually abusing her for eight months.
That alone would be surprising in Yemen, a deeply conservative Arab society where family disputes tend to be solved privately. What made it even more unusual was that Arwa was 9 years old.
Within days, Arwa had become a celebrity in Yemen, where child marriage is common but has rarely been exposed in public. She was the second child bride to come forward in less than a month; in April, a 10-year-old named Nujood Ali had gone by herself to a courthouse to demand a divorce, generating a landmark legal case.
Together, the two girls' stories have helped spur a movement to put an end to child marriage, which is increasingly seen as a crucial aspect of the cycle of poverty in Yemen and other developing countries. Pulled out of school and forced to have children before their bodies are ready, many rural Yemeni women end up illiterate and with serious health problems. Their babies are often stunted, too.
'This Is The First Shout'
The average age of marriage in Yemen's rural areas is 12 to 13, a recent study by Sana University researchers found. The country, at the southern corner of the Arabian Peninsula, has one of the highest maternal mortality rates in the world.
"This is the first shout," said Shada Nasser, a human rights lawyer who met Nujood, the 10-year-old, after she arrived at the courthouse to demand a divorce. Nasser decided instantly to take her case. "All other early marriage cases have been dealt with by tribal sheiks, and the girl never had any choice."
Despite a rising tide of outrage, however, the fight against the practice is not easy. Hard-line Islamic conservatives, whose influence has grown enormously in the past two decades, defend it, pointing to the Prophet Muhammad's marriage to a 9-year-old. Child marriage is deeply rooted in local custom here and even enshrined in an old tribal expression: "Give me a girl of 8, and I can give you a guarantee" for a good marriage.
"Voices are rising in society against this phenomenon and its catastrophes," said Shawki al-Qadhi, an imam and opposition member in parliament who has tried unsuccessfully to muster support for a legal ban on child marriage in Yemen in the past. "But despite rejections of it by many people and some religious scholars, it continues."
'I Was Very Frightened'
The issue first arose because of Nujood, a bright-eyed girl barely 4 feet tall. Her ordeal began in February, when her father took her from Sana, the Yemeni capital, to his home village for the wedding. She was given almost no warning.
"I was very frightened and worried," Nujood recalled. "I wanted to go home."
The trouble started on the first night, when her 30-year-old husband, Faez Ali Thamer, took off her clothes as soon as the light was out. She ran crying from the room, but he caught her, brought her back and forced himself on her. Later, he beat her as well.
"I hated life with him," she said. The wedding came so quickly that no one bothered to tell her how women become pregnant or what a wife's role is, she added.
Her father, Ali Muhammad al-Ahdal, said he had agreed to the marriage because two of Nujood's older sisters had been kidnapped and forcibly married, with one of them ending up in jail. Al-Ahdal said he had feared the same thing would happen to Nujood, and early marriage had seemed a better alternative.
A gaunt, broken-looking man, al-Ahdal once worked as a street sweeper. Now he and his family beg for a living. He has 16 children by two women.
Poverty is one reason so many Yemeni families marry their children off early. Another is the fear of girls being carried off and married by force. But most important are cultural tradition and the belief that a young virginal bride can best be shaped into a dutiful wife, according to comprehensive study of early marriage published by Sana University in 2006.
Nujood complained repeatedly to her husband's relatives and later to her parents after the couple moved back to their house in Sana. But they said they could do nothing. To break a marriage would expose the family to shame. Finally, her uncle told her to go to court. On April 2, she said, she walked out of the house by herself and hailed a taxi.
It was the first time she had traveled anywhere alone, Nujood recalled, and she was frightened. On arriving at the courthouse, she was told the judge was busy, so she sat on a bench and waited. Suddenly he was standing over her, imposing in his dark robes. "You're married?" he said, with shock in his voice.
Right away, he invited her to spend the night at his family's house, she said, since court sessions were already over for the day.
When Nujood's case was called on the next Sunday, the courtroom was crowded with reporters and photographers. Her father and husband were also there.
"Do you want a separation or a permanent divorce?" al-Qadhi asked the girl after hearing her testimony and that of her father and her husband.
"I want a permanent divorce," she replied without hesitation. The judge granted it.
Girl Forgave Father
Afterward, Nasser, the lawyer, took Nujood to a celebratory party where she was showered with dolls and other toys. Nujood lived with her uncle for a time after the ruling but then insisted on returning to her father's house. "I have forgiven him," she said. She swears she will never marry again, and she wants to become a human rights lawyer, like Nasser, or perhaps a journalist.
Despite the victory, Nasser and other advocates say they are worried about the lack of legal means to fight early marriage. Nujood's case only reached the court because she took such a wildly unusual step and happened on a sympathetic judge.
"We were lucky with this judge," Nasser said. "Another judge might not have accepted her in court and would have asked her father or brother to come instead," and Nujood would probably still be married today.
A 1992 Yemeni law set the minimum legal age of marriage at 15. But in 1998, parliament revised the law, allowing girls to be married earlier as long as they did not move in with their husbands until they reached sexual maturity.
That change reflected the triumph of northern Yemen's more conservative Islamic culture over the secular and Marxist south after North and South Yemen united in 1990. In South Yemen, the government had passed a law in 1979 setting the age of marriage at 16 for women and 18 for men. An extensive public awareness campaign, including songs and television spots with titles such as "The Victimized Daughter of the Tribe" and "Traditions and Rituals" helped educate people about the dangers posed by early marriage and pregnancy.
But in Yemen, the fight against communism ended with the triumph of a hard-line form of Islam.
An 8-Year-Old Bride
After Nujood's case became public, Nasser said she received angry letters from conservative women denouncing her for her role. But she has also begun receiving calls about girls, some younger than Nujood, trying to escape their marriages.
One of them was Arwa, who was married last year at the age of 8 in the ancient town of Jibla. As with Nujood's case, Arwa's situation aroused a legal and social outrage.
Standing outside a relative's house here, Arwa described how surprised she was when her father arranged her marriage to a 35-year-old man eight months ago. Like Nujood, she did not know the facts of life, she said. The man raped and beat her.
After months of misery, she ran to a hospital. Employees there took her to a police station, she said.
Arwa is living with relatives while her case awaits a resolution. Her relatives rarely let her out of the house, however, fearing that her husband, who has refused the judge's demands that he appear in court, may take her again.
Asked what made her flee her husband after so many months, Arwa gazed up, an intense, defiant expression in her eyes.
"I thought about it," she said in a very quiet but firm voice. "I thought about it."Posts: 461 | From: Kilimanjaro | Registered: Jan 2008
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You have psychological problems man, you see Jews everywhere...not surprising since you are Arab...get a life!
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Yes, ako's made it all klear 2 me now. It's eggsactly "rasolowitz" has posted the very same already in this thread.
lol.
Paranoid guy.
quote:Originally posted by akoben08: ^ you are anti-Semitic! Hateful! A bigot for posting this! No one cares about your obsession with the Arabs! LMAO!
Sorry, I am just following rasolowitz's line of reasoning...
quote:Originally posted by Habari: You have psychological problems man, you see Jews everywhere...not surprising since you are Arab...get a life!
Yeh I am Arab... But you are a f**kin hypocrite; you have been at it on the Arabs and Islam for some time now, for whatever reason I don't care since I think we should criticise them both, yet no one calls you anti-Semitic, hateful etc. Obviously it is you and your kind who are projecting your psychological problems on me. And as usual the forum a**kisser jack in the box is doing what has become expected of him. LMAO!
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First off I think this thread best belongs in the politics section. I don't know why folks always post political or social issues in here that have NOTHING to do with Ancient Egypt.
And second of all, regarding the article itself yes this is indeed a sad and disgusting affair in Yemen. This is nothing but institutionalized pedophilia!! At least in India where child brides were practiced, they would wait until the girls reach puberty before they consumate the marriage! Here where 30 to 40 year old men rape prepubescent girls is nothing short of disgusting and heinous! I hope something is done about this soon. The UN or someone (UN doesn't do much sh*t anyway).
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quote:Originally posted by Djehuti: ^ Ignoring psycho-ako...
Nothing lost judeophile. But I wish you wouldnt ignore Mike's posts. Come on don't be like your buddy rasolowitz: runs whenever his BS is exposed. LOL
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