You talk about an age difference, but you don't tell us what ages you are. Why not think of convincing your mom or dad (who ever is of Egyptian origin) to take a vacation to Egypt with you and meet this boy. The holiday can be more for looking up family and all of that (which I think parents would be more willing to accept) but the possibility of meeting this boy in real life should be your focus and to introduce him to your parents.

Use that as your tactic....tell them all the boys in America are such pigs and all of that, and that you really want a "nice Egyptian boy" as a husband, and see if that doesn't make them feel better. And, hey, what about making a trip to Egypt? Have you ever been here? Don't they have relatives you all should be visiting? I think you can swing this your way, if you play your cards right. Egyptian parents will always be Egyptian parents, and I just can't believe that your father thinks that the boys you have access to there in the states are better for you than one in Egypt. LOL

That's what these boards are for - people looking for advice, giving advice or just wanting to get things down in text as a way of thinking out loud to themselves or just to get something off their chest.

Healthy relationships can not develop between persons who have never met in real life.

2) There are hundreds of thousands of perons in US of Egyptian origin who share closer circumstances to you. Why aren't you pursuing that route?

best wishes.

they managed to get their family visa's somehow, and although I have NO idea how they did that

Debbie,
1) Most Egyptians (same as other nationalities) who reside in the US had arrived to study (F visa) or work (H visa). Within 5-10 years they get a permenant residence status (green card). 5 years later they get citizenship.
That means it is very normal for anyone who has resided in US for 10-15 years to be a US citizen. It is clear from the message that liza-m27 family have been residing in the US for more than 15 years and they are US citizens.

2) liza-m27 said she is of Egyptian origin. That means she has spent all her adulthood and at least most of her life in the US. Why do you assume then that she would be automatically compatable with a person who lived all his life in another country and they have never met and their only communication is the internet?
She probably has better chance of compatability among the hundreds of thousands of persons in the US of Egyptian origin who share closer circumstances to her.

3) Her family's fear of his motive is no different from any of the other fears expressed in this board from relatives of women involved in an internet relationship with Egyptians living in Egypt who might be using her and have their motive getting a very quick and easy way to immigration to US/Europe. As I said before, the normal sincere way takes at least 10-15 years.

thanks

Ayman

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Originally posted by ayman2:

Debbie,

Why do you assume then that she would be automatically compatable with a person who lived all his life in another country and they have never met and their only communication is the internet?

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Originally posted by Debbie:
and I am still surprised that her mother and father are so adamantly against her meeting a boy from Egypt, whether they met on the Internet or not.

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Ofcourse I do not condone their position either.
however, I am not surprised. I have known at least one case of a well educated well to do person who tried marrying an Egyptian-American only to be interrogated by her father about his "real motive of aquiring citizenship thru marrying her".

Some persons who have made the american dream "citizenship, a large suburbian house, two family cars, family income in five digits ...." are very suspicous of anyone living all his life in egypt even though they used to be in his same economical/social level before they immigrated to the US. I am suspecting that this is the case in liza-m27 parents and thus an Egyptian-american husband would be much easier route.

If she wants the more difficult route, then she has to go to Egypt and meet that person face to face inspite of her parents objections.