Blau_Frau, you know and I know we will not get the right answers we want to get here on this forum ............
I was reading what you've been through and I do feel sympathy for you. But I believe your suddenly controversial topics you produces here on ES are just insensitive.
We all know what kind of problems Egypt has, we all experience bad things.
From me to you - please - kick the past with this Egyptian guy to the curb, relax and enjoy the good sides of Egypt.
Good sides? Well, the weather is beautiful, great history, the living expenses for foreigners are cheap, it is safe and all above the native people are mostly friendly, honest and giving.
Don't let your doomed relationship to one fellow ruin your feeling for Egypt.
Chill out and take good care of yourself!