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Originally posted by ashraf_salah:
Peace may be upon you all
I won't not forgot 6th February 2005. ( 30 pm when i lost my elder daufgter ( donia)
I really need ur support.Donia was only seven years and three months old.
I can't stand my life without her.
always think of her.
I am missing My Donia

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I don't know you in person but your message made me very sad. No one can imagine to lose the own child, no one can imagine to feel this kind of pain. No child should leave this world before the own parents.

i believe that nobody can imagine the pain that you feel. and nothing can help because nobody can bring your child back.

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Originally posted by ashraf_salah:
Peace may be upon you all
I won't not forgot 6th February 2005. ( 30 pm when i lost my elder daufgter ( donia)
I really need ur support.Donia was only seven years and three months old.
I can't stand my life without her.
always think of her.
I am missing My Donia

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Inn lilah wa inna elaihy raji'oun

Who knows ya ashraf, this little girl will take ur hand in the hereafter and ask God to have you with ehr in paradise insh'allah..she is safe in betetr place now

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Originally posted by ashraf_salah:

I will not reply to those who acused me that i am pretending but i will pray to allah that they someday will feel what i am felt when my daughter died..............Yarab all the people who don't beieve me let them sufer what i am suferring , let them learn that u can punish them, let them learn that they must respect other people feelings.
I never hurt any body in this forum and i don't know why some people her insists on doing that to me.

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You should be filled with grief instead you are full of HATE

The stages of grief http://hcd2.bupa.co.uk/fact_sheets/mosby_factsheets/Bereavement.html
There is no single way to grieve. Everyone is different and each person grieves in his or her own way. However, some stages of grief are commonly experienced by people when they are bereaved. There is no set timescale for these stages to be reached, but it can be helpful to be aware of the stages and to consider that intense emotions and swift changes in mood are normal.

Feeling emotionally numb is often the first reaction to a loss, and may last for a few hours, days or longer. In some ways, this numbness can help you get through the practical arrangements and family pressures that surround the funeral, but if this phase goes on for too long, it could be a problem.

The numbness may be replaced by a deep yearning for the person who has died. You may feel agitated or angry, and find it difficult to concentrate, relax or sleep. You may also feel guilty, dwelling on arguments you had with that person or on emotions and words you wished you had expressed.

This period of strong emotion usually gives way to bouts of intense sadness, silence and withdrawal from family and friends. During this time, you may be prone to sudden outbursts of tears, set off by reminders and memories of the dead person.

Over time, the pain, sadness and depression starts to lessen. You begin to see your life in a more positive light again, although it is important to acknowledge that you may not completely overcome the feeling of loss.

The final phase of grieving is to let go of the person who has died and move on with your life. This helps sadness to clear, and your sleeping patterns and energy levels to return to normal.

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Originally posted by saeeda:
dear ashraf
some things happen and we can't understand why. only god knows why. but i don't think that this is a sign for anyone. if god wanted to give you a sign, he would have many possibilities. he doesn't have to take the life of your angel daughter for that.
when my father died, for some time i was very angry at god. i didn't understand why he let that happen. my father was the best person in the world and my mom stayed alone with 5 small kids, who all needed their father. until today i don't understand why that had to happen. but i have learned that some things happen which we just can't understand. it is a big test for our faith, to accept that, to overcome our sorrow and anger and not loose our faith in god's love and care from that.
what helps the most in these situations is family support. you all share the same sorrow. be there for your kids and talk with them about what happened! i remember that in my case we didn't talk about it a lot. this made me, as a child of 5 years age, suffer more. strangely i was feeling sorry and worried for my mother most. i understood how hard it is for her and from this day on i did everything to make her life easier. but i forgot to take care about myself also. i forgot that i have sorrows also. i forgot that i am a child who needs her mother sometimes. i thought i have to take care of my mom and i have to be a perfect daughter for her because she already has such a hard life. this was not good. children need to know that they don't have to be perfect. and they need to know that they are not on this world to make the life of their parents easier. they need to know that it is ok if they suffer and cry and that showing their sorrow will not make it more hard for their parents. on the contrary, everybody feels the same pain. so it is just natural to share the sorrow within the family.
i wish you and your family all the best and a lot of common strength and faith in this hard period of your life.

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this is extremely nice,i couldnt say it better ,really!You are very nice human saeeda!God keep you and this poor father too!god give him strenght and soul piece

the best things are already sayed. Especially from Saeeda.
I don't have words.
I just feel your unimagenable pain.
My kids are 4,7 and 9...as a mother I can know what you feel.
'I am sooo sorry for you' isn't enough to say.
I cannot speak..just feel you.
Allah with you and peace be upon you and your family.

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Originally posted by ashraf_salah:
Hi all
This is the seventh day after the death of Donia.
I read all the replies to my posts. And found that there are some soul sick people here and also there are a lot of nice people.
I will not reply to those who acused me that i am pretending but i will pray to allah that they someday will feel what i am felt when my daughter died.
I know that i am not an angel or a prophet, we all do mistakes.
But i think we should learn from our mistake. I Know that Donia is in Paradise now , she is in a better world. May be her death is a message from Allah to me. To make me stop and think of my past life and try to correct my mistakes.
Some one asked me what had happened to her. Well last Sunday was our first day at school in the second term, Sge went with me to the school and attended her first two periods. Than she complained that she had a headache. I let her go home with one of my colleages. And after finishing my work, went home and found out that she is still suffering from the headache. I took her to her doctor who examined her asking for a scan on brain.
while we r donig the scan she left our world. That what happened.
Yarab all the people who don't beieve me let them sufer what i am suferring , let them learn that u can punish them, let them learn that they must respect other people feelings.
I never hurt any body in this forum and i don't know why some people her insists on doing that to me.
Finally thanks very much to who deleted these post and a lot of thanks to who sent their nice supporting.
I know that i will never recover from my daughter death, But i always ask Allah to give me the patience . Knowing that she is in paradise makes me very happy.
Thnks to you all

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