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Originally posted by ViVaLaDiVa:
Hello everybody!
I would like to know ur opinion about living together with the in-laws in egypt.I dont mean exactly the living inside of the SAME flat.but i know its very common here for a family to build their own building and everyone gets his/her separate floor.i have a close friend,whos gonna have this situation soon and she is VERY worried about her privacy with her husband,as she doesnt want her mother-in law or her sis-in law to ^bother^ her,which could b quite easy as they are in the same building.What r ur experiences,or advices about this topic guys?

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Well, usually I find it not a good idea but this is because I was brought up in the city and our home was not in same building of family, I was susprised when I went with some relative before about how the family members go from an apartment to another and all doors are opned almost all time, women get together in one place and do cooking while chatting and men in another place, it's very annoying if you'r not used to it as everyone knows almost everything about the other. plus, you actions will be seen and counted by all family members , so if some of them are picky then it wont be good.

My father in law is making a house, for all family...But nobady is intrested move in..together..
I dont mind,if our vacation home is there..but i think i get crazy if i must live all the time in same building with my family in law.
Anyway, i think they also know me so well,and i sure make clear,when i like to be alone..
There is some good things,if u live near from each other..u dont must be alone,if ur husband travel, and help is near..and short way visit to each other..and u can eat together,not must cook alone every day

Privacy isn't a problem because its so spacious and everyone has their own kitchen and bathroom along with all the other room.

The only thing that detracts from privacy is the little girls running from floor to floor demanding things. They have their own racket going on.

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Originally posted by ViVaLaDiVa:
Thank you guys for ur answers
Yea puppy i have the same opinion about moving all together..actually i wouldnt even live with my mother together inside of the same flat and she would never live with me as she always says that the different generations r not healthy living together.Sure its right coz everyone has other needs(i mean the generations).
LOL Sonomod thats wht my friend told me also tht her sis-in law has 2 children who for sure will b running up and down all the time kicking doors and so on things.Its cute ,but ofcourse it has a limit like everything else do.
Sonomod may i ask where u live in egypt?
Bubye

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I don't live in Egypt right now. I live in a huge metropolitan area in the midwest. My in laws live in Shebin El Kaum. Which is the capital city of the El Menoufia governate. Prices of real estate close to the Military headquarters and Justice buildings are high and houses are built right next to each other. No yards, only houses stuck together side to side back to back with wide alleys. Not what I am used to in the Midwest. My parent's home growing up had a full acre of green yard so that is what scares me the most, not being so close to the in laws but the neighbors.

as she always says that the different generations r not healthy living together.Sure its right coz everyone has other needs(i mean the generations).

This is the far extreme opposite of what my in laws think. Yup everyone manages to 'get intimate' on a regular basis but that might be why the grandparents take the grandkids on so many outings.

No one is allowed to move out of Mother's house. Yet this hasn't stopped the sons from building these huge houses outside of the city in the family's village. With the value of the Egyptian currency right now its better to put your money in real estate than the bank. Hence, why we have two apartments in Alex, the house in Shebin and a collection of houses in the village.

My fourth level apartment will be finished when I get there. In the meantime I am trying to talk my sister in law into arranging a 'moon' garden in flower pots, urns and hanging plants on the patio roof of her family's new house. The grandparents 200 year old house was demolished 3 years ago and they are now rebuilding. They might put a garden terrace in back and I can't wait to help with that.

Shebin might be like New Cairo, Nasr city, New Maadi, Sixth of October and other satellite cities; lots of government offices are being moved to Shebin and the governate university is being expanded massively. This might explain why my in laws are doing so much building.

I've excessively talked it over with my husband and father in law. I will probably work and live in Alex most of the time, and spend a few days a week in Shebin. Planning a lockdown room in my apartment which will be climately stable for computer equipment and books, a sleeping deck above the bathroom, a small kitchen and the rest will be a roof top terrace.