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Originally posted by LM12366:
Hi: I recently started dating a wonderful man. He is Egyptian and I am Latina, we both live in NYC. He has been in the US for three years. I'd like some advice/feedback from men and women who have dated or are dating crossculturally. Also, I don't know too much about modern Egyptian culture. Are there any internet sites out there that are helpful in order to broaden my knowledge and learn about my boyfriend's culture?
Thanks.

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you say he's been in the us for 3 years, how did he get here? surely he is not a citizen yet? does he want to be, if so, does he need a wife to make that dream reality? also do you know if he is already married?
Last thing, is he religous? What is his religion? Is he practicing?

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Originally posted by nooralhaq:
you say he's been in the us for 3 years, how did he get here? surely he is not a citizen yet? does he want to be, if so, does he need a wife to make that dream reality? also do you know if he is already married?
Last thing, is he religous? What is his religion? Is he practicing?

[This message has been edited by nooralhaq (edited 09 June 2005).]

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You must apply for permenant residency first which is not a reality for most international students with student visas.

If he marries an American the guidelines are for 3 years minimum, but it can take up to 7 or 8 years. Depends on when they file the forms and if the paperwork is filled out correctly and in the right order.

Now the minimum for a non-refugee is 5 years, which doesn't include blunders on both the INS and the resident alien, in addition to filling the forms on time.

Then if you move, that delays it so much. Even worse if you move districts.

Right now the NYC district office is the fastest, next the Vermont district office, dead last is the Nebraska district office which has three times the amount of case load of any other district office with the least employees.

Noor I think you district would be the Kansas district.

Could you correct me?

Spanish people and Egyptians people both have veyr strong families. They are both family oriented, they both have quite different cultures. From the food to the music.

Spanish people do things that muslims do not do. Are you willing to convert to Islam? Spanish people drink alcohol, and eat pork. Muslim people do not do that.

Spanish people are affectionate and kiss each other and hold hands. Muslims are not affectionate like that unless it is their wife/husband/family.

Egyptians are very strict with their childrens. Even at the age of 18 i am very innocent as oppose to any other spanish child. Because of my Egyptian roots.I know spanish kids who have boyfriends/girlfriends, many have babies.

You may be in love with this Egyptian man. But i guarantee you wont pick up the culture.
My mother never did. She is still a strong cuban. i have never been able to combine both of my culture.

When i speak to my mum I speak in spanish. listen to spanish music. eat spanish food. When I am with my father I speak arabic. Listen to arabic music. Eat arabic food.

I am assuming you are also thinking of having children with this egyptian man. Well allow me to tell you how confused your child would be.

On top of me speaking, Spanish and Arabic. I had to learn French, Italian, and English. I hope to God your child will recieve intelligence because that is what is needed to be able to speak in both languages fluentely and well.

There was a time in my childhood where I didnt know what language to speak to which family member. mny egyptian famiyl didnt understand spanish and my spanish family didnt understand arabic.

When I go to egypt. I fit right in. I have a great life there. i am actually more happy living in the arab culture then when i am in the spanish culture.

I have a question. Will you convert to Islam. If the families has to religions the child will be veryyyyy confused. And each of the spouses' families will argue about the faith.