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Originally posted by Cherrysfi:
Hello!

To make a long story short: I have met nice man from Egypt. We met in Egypt, where I was on holiday, and after I came back to my home, we have been writing messages and talking phone and now he would like to come to visit me for 1 week.
I know it must difficult process for egyptian to travel to Europe, but he has been talking about a lot and seems like he also has been finding out what kind of process it is. He also has make it perfectly clear that after that 1 week he goes back to his country. But what bothers me, is that I don´t know if he is really serious about this or is he just playing some games with me?
I would like to hear some advise. I mean I don´t like to doubt anybody, but men in Europe are mostly hard to figure out , so I wonder how it is whit men from Egypt.

Should I believe what he is saying, or....

Cherrysfi

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Asalaam alaikum

Reading all these things about Egyptian men has made me a bit paranoid I must admit. I am planning a trip in December to visit my love. I want to be absolutely sure about him before we go further in our relationship. I will tell a bit about the relationship so you guys can be the judge. We have been together for about a year now. We talk on the phone twice weekly. I also talk with his family, sisters mostly. He has never asked to marry me to come to the US, I have tried to talk about it with him and he refuses to "marry to travel". When I go in December I will be staying with him and his family (parents and sisters). There has been NO talk of "temporary marriage" as he doesn't believe in it. He ultimately wants me to visit him there so that I can see his country, meet his family, see if I would be able to adjust to life in Egypt as he wants to live there after we marry, inshallah. We will not marry when I visit. Please, tell me what you think. Thank you, shukran.
Salaam

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Hello there. Well, it's very difficult to actually *see* into another person's relationship. Where did you guys meet?

In any event there are good and bad men everywhere. There are definitely additional challenges when it's a long-distance inter-continental relationship, and don't forget those, either. But that doesn't mean it's doomed.

All I can say is that my fiance has always paid for everything, and has treated me very respectfully, especially in front of his family. My impression of Egypt, his family, and him of course, is that people are very warm, welcoming, honest, and kind. You deserve the same. But take it slowwwwwwly. :-) Good luck, and enjoy Egypt. It's wonderful!!!

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Originally posted by Snoozin:
Hello there. Well, it's very difficult to actually *see* into another person's relationship. Where did you guys meet?

In any event there are good and bad men everywhere. There are definitely additional challenges when it's a long-distance inter-continental relationship, and don't forget those, either. But that doesn't mean it's doomed.

All I can say is that my fiance has always paid for everything, and has treated me very respectfully, especially in front of his family. My impression of Egypt, his family, and him of course, is that people are very warm, welcoming, honest, and kind. You deserve the same. But take it slowwwwwwly. :-) Good luck, and enjoy Egypt. It's wonderful!!!

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Thank you for replying! I hate to admit this but, we met online. Yes I know what you're probably thinking and believe me I think the same way. How can I really know/trust him if we've never actually met in person? I feel I know him and his family. I know it may sound silly. I remember the first time I called him and his sister answered and I almost hung up because I was nervous. I asked for him and she immediatly knew who I was although we had never spoken before. She spent the next five minutes telling me how much he talks about me and how happy she was to speak to me. Before getting him on the line, the phone was passed around to his other sisters who were all equally excited and friendly. The reason why I posted is that I want to be certain about all this before I travel half way around the world. Thanks again for your response and well wishes!

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Originally posted by kaldoais:
Thank you for replying! I hate to admit this but, we met online. Yes I know what you're probably thinking and believe me I think the same way. How can I really know/trust him if we've never actually met in person? I feel I know him and his family. I know it may sound silly. I remember the first time I called him and his sister answered and I almost hung up because I was nervous. I asked for him and she immediatly knew who I was although we had never spoken before. She spent the next five minutes telling me how much he talks about me and how happy she was to speak to me. Before getting him on the line, the phone was passed around to his other sisters who were all equally excited and friendly. The reason why I posted is that I want to be certain about all this before I travel half way around the world. Thanks again for your response and well wishes!

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Don't be worried about meeting online. I met my fiance online as well, although it's different in that we live very close to one another and have had a traditional dating relationship from there.

I think it's a good sign he is very open about you with his family. One of the things I've read about Islamic marriage and what I've discovered from my fiance's family is that the relationship's being public and out in the open is very important. My fiance's 45 so his parents are a bit older and not quite comfortable with the thought of American-style dating. But it's important to them that U. (fiance) holds me out as his fiance to all his colleagues and friends and family.

I think it's important to be cautious until you meet. I know it's hard to reign feelings in, but you know what you can and cannot withstand as far as emotional disappointment and possibly heartbreak are concerned. My fiance is the only Egyptian guy I know so it's hard for me to judge. He's such a wonderful guy with great integrity, honesty, and compassion. I honestly have not met an American man (single anyway) who has been as good a soul as him. So I personally think all Egyptians are great, based on him! And it's totally possible your friend is great, too!

If I were you, I'd remain optimistic, yet realistic. Have you ever been to Egypt? I found it to be beautiful but it was a bit disorienting, mostly because I didn't speak the language at all. Do you have a backup plan if he doesn't meet you at the airport? If he says all of a sudden you can't stay with his family? Do you have enough money to take to get an immediate return flight if you need to?

I know some people talk about Egyptian guys taking advantage of foreign women, but my only experiences with Egyptians period have been so warm, so honest, it's hard for me to picture the other side.

If you go to Cairo (is it Cairo?) and for some reason need help, I can give you my fiance's family phone number and they will look out for you. They are truly giving and caring that way. I'm serious about that. Just make sure you have a backup plan. I hope it works out wonderfully for you, as it has and hopefully (God willing) will continue to do so for me. :-)

Hope for the best but plan for the worst.

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Originally posted by Snoozin:
Don't be worried about meeting online. I met my fiance online as well, although it's different in that we live very close to one another and have had a traditional dating relationship from there.

I think it's a good sign he is very open about you with his family. One of the things I've read about Islamic marriage and what I've discovered from my fiance's family is that the relationship's being public and out in the open is very important. My fiance's 45 so his parents are a bit older and not quite comfortable with the thought of American-style dating. But it's important to them that U. (fiance) holds me out as his fiance to all his colleagues and friends and family.

I think it's important to be cautious until you meet. I know it's hard to reign feelings in, but you know what you can and cannot withstand as far as emotional disappointment and possibly heartbreak are concerned. My fiance is the only Egyptian guy I know so it's hard for me to judge. He's such a wonderful guy with great integrity, honesty, and compassion. I honestly have not met an American man (single anyway) who has been as good a soul as him. So I personally think all Egyptians are great, based on him! And it's totally possible your friend is great, too!

If I were you, I'd remain optimistic, yet realistic. Have you ever been to Egypt? I found it to be beautiful but it was a bit disorienting, mostly because I didn't speak the language at all. Do you have a backup plan if he doesn't meet you at the airport? If he says all of a sudden you can't stay with his family? Do you have enough money to take to get an immediate return flight if you need to?

I know some people talk about Egyptian guys taking advantage of foreign women, but my only experiences with Egyptians period have been so warm, so honest, it's hard for me to picture the other side.

If you go to Cairo (is it Cairo?) and for some reason need help, I can give you my fiance's family phone number and they will look out for you. They are truly giving and caring that way. I'm serious about that. Just make sure you have a backup plan. I hope it works out wonderfully for you, as it has and hopefully (God willing) will continue to do so for me. :-)

Hope for the best but plan for the worst.

Susan

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Originally posted by kaldoais:
If you would like to contact me I would love that, kaldoais@hotmail.com. Thanks again!!!

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Thanks! I emailed you from bluebottle.com. Have a good night.

Susan

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Originally posted by Imhemazi:
this is funny to me

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As far as I am concerned, if he has a big dick and he hands over all the money he has to you and his future earnings he's trustworthy.

Otherwise he's not.

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Originally posted by Angelcake:
Laughed untill I cried, Sonomod you are priceless. This is the best advice I have read on egyptsearch.

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I am reading yet another book on Egypt from an anthropological perspective.

You cannot be irrational when it comes to marriage in Egypt or with an Egyptian.

Love marriages is highly suspect and for loonies.

If he doesn't hand his income over to you, there is something wrong with him.

Then of course if he doesn't have a big dick then his thoughts won't be so masculine and he'll think too much and about the wrong things.

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Originally posted by sonomod:
I am reading yet another book on Egypt from an anthropological perspective.

You cannot be irrational when it comes to marriage in Egypt or with an Egyptian.

Love marriages is highly suspect and for loonies.

If he doesn't hand his income over to you, there is something wrong with him.

Then of course if he doesn't have a big dick then his thoughts won't be so masculine and he'll think too much and about the wrong things.

Men and thinking, kinda like blood pressure, you don't want to much pressure and you want the flow in the right places (i.e. as far from the brain as possible)!

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Sonomod I thought of you when I received this email from my mother, enjoy:

Once upon a time there was a female brain cell who accidentally ended up in a man's head. She looked around nervously but it was all empty and quiet.

"Hello?" she cried, but no answer. "Is there anyone here?" she cried a little louder, but still no answer.

Now the female brain cell started to feel alone and scared and yelled at the top of her voice, "HELLO! IS THERE ANYONE HERE?"

Then she heard a very faint voice from far, far away...

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Originally posted by Nooralhaq20055:
Sonomod I thought of you when I received this email from my mother, enjoy:

Once upon a time there was a female brain cell who accidentally ended up in a man's head. She looked around nervously but it was all empty and quiet.

"Hello?" she cried, but no answer. "Is there anyone here?" she cried a little louder, but still no answer.

Now the female brain cell started to feel alone and scared and yelled at the top of her voice, "HELLO! IS THERE ANYONE HERE?"

Then she heard a very faint voice from far, far away...

"We're down here!"

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HaHaHa
you guys here know cool jokes I never heard of
do you have anymore of these??