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No, my husband is a homebody. But he's older (mid-40s) than I think most guys on this board. He has two Egyptian friends here in the U.S. that he occasionally hangs out with and/or calls. Very rare, though.
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I have met two of my fiance's friends and they were both really nice. When I was visiting last time, he went down to the cafe and they watched a soccer match. You could hear those dummies screaming on the balcony Since both of his friends are married, I don't expect him to be hanging out with them alot and I doubt it will ever be an issue for me because my fiance knows what side his bread is buttered on Posts: 833 | From: Egypt | Registered: Dec 2006
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Josette, time to switch personalities and come back as a guy. You aren't fooling anyone with your transvestite routine. Come on, you can do better. Posts: 2953 | From: Slightly south of Azkaban. | Registered: Aug 2006
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gosh my husband is here in the Uk and the phonecalls to his friends backin Egypt are still constant and every day??????When does it stop
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Do egyptian men generally remain close to their male friends ie: going out/lots of phone calls after marriage!
If so does it irritate you?
How do you handle it?
Yes, Egyptian men remain very close to their male friends after marriage. This is very normal in their society. Going out and phone calls yes, all normal.
Look in any coffee shop at night and this will answer your question. It will be full of men socialising after the days work.
The way to handle it is the same as anything else in marriage. Discuss it and come to an agreement. You will have to accept though that the best course for you in the longrun is to ensure you develop your own social life and hobbies so you don't end up waiting for him and seething by the time he comes home.
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Oooh, I can't edit my message. I just wanted to clarify I don't know what is typical for most Egyptian men, only that *my* Egyptian husband is a homebody.
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Why on earth wouldn't they keep friends just because they are married? I have my friends as well. If you just stop having friends and sit and stare at each other your life will be very boring in no time and who wants that?
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Egyptian men socialise by themselves with other men
Egyptian women stay at home, occasionally other females visit them or they visit but only with permission of the husband
OK these are generalizations and there are exceptions
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quote:Originally posted by Josette: permission???????? You really must be a deluded second wife wacko.
after passing a couple of hours reading pages 17 - 22 of the 'pics' thread I can honestly say I am STILL totally gob-smacked at what comes from some people. Here we have a total slut (fiction or not) who shags around various men en route to her supposed 'love' attempting to slag off a respectable woman in Egyptian society. Whereas on the pics thread we had an equally total slut who has pics of herself 'spreading the flaps' spending pages on 'exposing' another western woman for showing a knee it's totally bizarre Posts: 15090 | From: http://www.egyptalk.com/forum/ | Registered: Jul 2004
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quote:Originally posted by Josette: permission???????? You really must be a deluded second wife wacko.
Josette, you really have gone into this relationship/marriage with your eyes closed haven't you, you have a lot to learn, but I am sure you will come into the real world once you are married!
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N E way to stick to the topic.....my hubby is a home person, but the one friend that was a witness for us, and took all our pics did get on my last nerve!. He always want to be in the pic with us, and it did annoye me, but then I realize that i was just over reacting, because he was just happy for us, and wanted to share in the moment.
I think my hubby knows that i want him all to myslef, and friends and hanging out in ok, as long as he knows that I come first, and not his friends.
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Why is it on here people seem to put words in your month.
Of course it is ok to have friends after marriage but its a case of whether a man would still carry on as though he was single leaving the wife at home holding the baby so to speak. I just wanted to hear other peoples experiences!
I have to say I am becoming very disappointed with with website. Is all I have seen is people cursing each other. Making stupid comments and assumptions about people.
I think its so sad because a relationship even with your own nationality can be so hard at times and then you have the added complication of cultural differences.
Of course there will be questions and who better to talk to than other people who have more experience than yourself.
Thankyou to the people who are nice and supportive.
But I just feel that this is now making me reluctant to post on here further!
I THINK CERTAIN PEOPLE ON THIS WEBSITE SHOULD BE ASHAMED OF THEMSELVES REGARDLESS WHO THEY SAY STARTS IT!!
IT IS JUST CHILD LIKE BEHAVIOUR!!
THIS IS SUCH A SHAME!!
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quote:Originally posted by uklady: Why is it on here people seem to put words in your month.
Of course it is ok to have friends after marriage but its a case of whether a man would still carry on as though he was single leaving the wife at home holding the baby so to speak. I just wanted to hear other peoples experiences!
It's my understanding (haven't had the personal experience yet) that Egyptian men tend to view childrearing as the woman's domain. Can you negotiate with him? Say *guys' night out* on such and such nights.....and these nights you're home with the family?
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He's not with me yet! Just researching generally! Better to understand generally their mindset saves on arguments! I think this is important! So for this reason I have many questions.
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uklady, if you are doing general research it may end up confusing you in your relationship. When I read the majority of posts on this site I feel like people are not representing the Egypt that I see and they don't think that it exists due to their own differing experience. If I did not have my own life as an example, and only read this site, I would have a very different picture of what life in Egypt is and can be. If I followed what many people say on this forum, I would not think that the people that I know and trust could exist in Egypt. My real advice would be to learn as much as you can about the man you are involved with from his friends and family, because no one on this forum can really say anything about *your* man with any accuracy. There are all types of people in Egypt, and especially recently, the extremes are being displayed in society. So, even when attempting to speak generally people usually end up speaking about the current extremes.
That said, regarding your question: "whether a man would still carry on as though he was single leaving the wife at home holding the baby so to speak. I just wanted to hear other peoples experiences!" I have got a couple of friends that act like this, but they don't have good relationships with their wives in the first place (one is positively unbearable when she isn't on her medication.) I have one friend that loves his son much more than his wife, so he is home often and encourages his wife to spend more time with her friends (in the house or out, just as long as she is busy.) Yet the majority of my friends and acquaintances that have children are home straight after work and live the usual family life at home.
My father had friends over a couple of times a week, but didn't go out at night without his wife. My mother was always (about daily) having her friends over for tea and until a couple hours after dinner. Even as a child I used to get annoyed at having a couple of guests for dinner every night, but my father was very gracious, and I don't suspect that is common Wow, didn't notice I had written so much!
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Finally! Someone who lets the rest of us know that things are not as they would appear by listening to all the stories on this site. Thank you, Graf_Genn, for your post.
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Do egyptian men generally remain close to their male friends ie: going out/lots of phone calls after marriage!
If so does it irritate you?
How do you handle it?
The only time my husband has been with friends was to go with them to a wedding and I was always invited to come, he never goes out to 'hang out' with friends, they all are married and prefer to be at home.
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quote:Originally posted by uklady: Question?
Do egyptian men generally remain close to their male friends ie: going out/lots of phone calls after marriage!
If so does it irritate you?
How do you handle it?
The only time my husband has been with friends was to go with them to a wedding and I was always invited to come, he never goes out to 'hang out' with friends, they all are married and prefer to be at home.
So uklady it all depends on what kind of person he his. I guess some men will continue to spend a lot of time with their friends even after getting married. And some men would prefer to stay home with their wives. Maybe just ask him his opinion on this and you may find ur answer directly from him. Best of luck to both of you..
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quote:Originally posted by uklady: Why is it on here people seem to put words in your month.
Of course it is ok to have friends after marriage but its a case of whether a man would still carry on as though he was single leaving the wife at home holding the baby so to speak. I just wanted to hear other peoples experiences!
I have to say I am becoming very disappointed with with website. Is all I have seen is people cursing each other. Making stupid comments and assumptions about people.
I think its so sad because a relationship even with your own nationality can be so hard at times and then you have the added complication of cultural differences.
Of course there will be questions and who better to talk to than other people who have more experience than yourself.
Thankyou to the people who are nice and supportive.
But I just feel that this is now making me reluctant to post on here further!
I THINK CERTAIN PEOPLE ON THIS WEBSITE SHOULD BE ASHAMED OF THEMSELVES REGARDLESS WHO THEY SAY STARTS IT!!
IT IS JUST CHILD LIKE BEHAVIOUR!!
THIS IS SUCH A SHAME!!
AMEN, Sister!!!
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Thanks for the advice guys! If he turns out to be the type who is AlWAYS out with his friends spending money what he could spend on us I would walk just like I would if somebody was like that in the uk (loser!). What would be the point of getting married?
I suppose I am trying to find out what the norm is in egypt!
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I don't think it's necessarily BAD if he hangs out with his friends if it's ok with you and you know he's a good person, etc., (after all why would anyone marry someone they didn't think was good?). I would just say it's probably like any other man, some still hang with the homies some don't, but you are right in what you said above UKlady, what would be the point in getting married if he always did that? Personally I always thought it was best to lay down the ground rules and what you both expect of eachother from the beginning so there is no confusion later...works for me! best of luck Posts: 13440 | Registered: Feb 2006
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Since both of his friends are married, I don't expect him to be hanging out with them alot and I doubt it will ever be an issue for me because my fiance knows what side his bread is buttered on ![[Big Grin]](biggrin.gif)
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