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QUESTION !!! WHATS IT LIKE BEING OLDER THAN YOUR PARTNER ,DO YOU FEEL SOMETIMES YOUR THE MOTHER OR THE FATHER ...AND DO YOU FEEL YOU KNOW MORE ,AND IS IT LIKE LOOKING AFTER A SPOIL BRAT SOMETIMES ...... ARE YOU WORRIED IF YOUR OLDER AND CANNOT GIVE CHILDREN THAT HE WILL WANT TO MARRY AGAIN ..DO YOU FEEL THEY MARRIED YOU NOT REALLY BOTHERED OF YOUR AGE AND GOT HERE TO YOUR COUNTRY THEN WAITING FOR THE VISA PERIOD TO FINISH HE GOT OR SHE GOT ,WHAT SHE WANTED THEN STARTS TRADING YOU IN FOR A YOUNGER PERSON ... CHIMPS .
DO YOU HAVE DOUBTS ...IF NOT HOW LONG HAVE YOU BEEN MARRIED ...
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ok chimps, im alot older than my partner, i cant have children, he knows this and accepts. he is very mature and sensible for his age. he keeps me sane!
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I am 13 years older than my Egyptian husband. I can still have kids, the question is if I want to. (I already have one satan for an offspring ) I have been ALWAYS feeling like a mother to any guy I have been with, no matter if older or younger than me.... I do not worry about age gap or possible evil intentions of my husband as I strongly believe that the ocean is FULL of fish at all times. It is my third marriage and I do remind my husband often that "I ain't done yet"! Posts: 2238 | From: Mother Earth | Registered: Jun 2004
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I am 3 years older, I know, it doesnt seem like much, but, sometimes I feel like it is. However, He FAAAAAAR more mature than I am. I think he was an old man when he was like 6.
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I am almost 7 years older than my Egyptian husband. He is more mature in some areas and I am more mature in others. I am still able to have children and insha Allah will have as many as we are blessed with.
I am not worried that he will leave me for a younger woman or once he gets to the United States. I am not worried about this because 1) we have entrusted our relationship to Allah and make dua for each other each day and 2) what will worry really do? I have spent my entire life worrying about this that and the other thing and in hindsight that energy could have been spent on so many other productive things in life. I did my best to gain comfort that he was the real thing before we married and felt comfortable once we were married so that's that.
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wow thankyou all for this ,im still waiting for many more .. im too 11years older than my husband im sometimes feel im know more than him and it frustrates more the one thing i do hate is being dictated too i hate that it so annoys me ,.im my own person . i two may or could might be able to have a full pregnancy one day im not seem to go past the 7weeks stage but really with what i have with my daughter im not want any do i believe he will go or i leave in the future if i dont produce and cause of my age i cannot answer that now ,ask me in the future and i might have a entirely different answer ,....
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I am 9 yrs older. But only in years, I can promise you that. He will always be older than me in other ways. Everyone actually thought he was older than me. hehehehe.....I ate it up.
I don't think he's after money, visa, etc. I don't have any money. LOL Visa.......well......he don't really want or need to come here. He has a business, and is very happy in Egypt. Ok...yah it's a plus for him. But believe it or not, it is hard for some men to leave their families.
I think you have the extremes with Egyptian men. The ones who will do anything to get out. The others who are terrified at leaving their families. Mine is the latter. I know many men like this. I think it depends on family, qualifications, lifestlye, support, person, etc.
I even tried to talk one of my friends into taking that job offer. It was only 1 yr. And he could keep communication with his family. Wouldn't miss too much. With webcams and yahoo, it's not so bad these days. Also, he could make enough money in that year or two if he chose, to set himself up for life in Egypt. But......he didn't do it. Couldn't stand to leave his family.
Children.......it will happen only when God wishes it. We are both open to either. Being together, and working for the future is most important now.
Another woman. No. I don't worry. I know him and our relationship. I have complete trust in that. We are both commited.
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I'm younger than my husband so I have no say in this, but just to let you know something about Egyptian culture; most Egyptian families/men see the (Egyptian) woman being older as *the* reason to call the marriage plans off.
Talk about double standards.
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excellent post chimps, I'm younger too same as MK, so cant say much, i wouldnt like someone younger than me cos i think i would boss them about too much for the reasons you said but with regard to kids, I guess even if you grow old together there is always the chance they might want kids later and there's no guarantee any of us can have them so i guess its pot luck. I'm actually really surprised how many on here have been able to answer, i would hate being older than my husband, i know i would definately have an inferiority complex the size of a house, so its good to hear that you guys dont! well if its good enough for Demi Moore! Posts: 1017 | From: uk | Registered: Mar 2006
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Girls, who gives a crap about your age? Age is irrelevant it's more important how you feel. And if your partner is fine with it - who cares.... You only live once and if the relationship is based on love and commitment it's wonderful.
Why is no one complaining that so often older Egyptian dorks - sometimes 15 and more years - are getting married to very young Egyptian women after saving up enough money????
How can they find something in common? But yet for the Egyptian society it's soooooo normal. Posts: 30135 | From: The owner of this website killed ES....... | Registered: Feb 2004
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I can't really comment on this because I don't have a partner at the moment Anyway I will comment on the 2 Egyptian partners that I had. They were both younger than me by approx. 4 years. I didn't really find it to be a problem with either of them, I guess that is because I don't feel my age, I feel as though I am still in my mid-twenties What I did find interesting with the 2 Egyptian guys was that the 1st was probably the more mature out of the two. I think that may be because he hasn't had the life opportunities that the 2nd one has had. The 1st works in a hotel in Sharm el Sheikh, whilst the 2nd works in the family business and has studied in the UK. Age for me has never been a problem, a relationship has to be based on trust, honesty, love and security.....age is a long way down the list! Posts: 1244 | From: we come in peace | Registered: Nov 2006
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i have been the younger both times my ex was 9 yrs older and my fiance is older by 14mths but it wouldnt bother me if i was older
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i agree miss sharm. At the end of the day you cant help who you fall for. If you refuse someone because of age, how do you know your not throwing away the best thing to happen to you. Woman look after themselves alot more now, health, fitness and beauty wise, so they dont look or feel they're age. I am aware that i am making a big effort to look the best I can, is that because of him being younger? yes probably, He's always telling me I dont look my age, so I guess I must be doing something right! As they say each to they're own. Everyone deserves happiness in a loving, secure relationship, whether your partner is alot younger or alot older.
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im younger but not by much.... 2 years. Its funny i think he is the first person i have ever felt i *wasnt* the mother. I've always been quite a bit more mature than the one i was with... especially with my ex husband... i was definately parenting two children. Not in a good way. Its reassuring to feel the way i do now with him. Its kinda hard to explain, but i definately feel sometimes that he is parenting me, but not in a grrrr kinda way. sometimes its parenting that makes one partner feel annoyed, or put upon.... in this case, I think its a dynamic we are both very new to, but also very comfortable with. But I dont want to put words in his mouth certainly. *grins* as for the kiddos, and such... we are like minded in this as in most things... so no worries there. The rest is between he and I. No, I have no worries about the future of the relationship with regards to other or younger women... he is the only one for me, and he tells me daily that I am for him.
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I agree, age is nothing when real love is there, it really is not important, and when youre partner doesnt see any problems, who cares, only nosey, gossiping people with sad lives are the ones to complain, maybe only jealous
I have 2 friends both married to older women. Significantly older I may say! lol
These women do not act or appear their age. My friends are completely devoted to their wives. Their families love them, they have been married for 10 and 6 years respectively. My wife tells me that the women are utterly devoted to their husbands and their husbands I can confirm are likewise.
No age does not matter.
My mother in law was 9 years older than her husband when they married all those years ago. Was not a problem at all. They are the most devoted couple. It is not true that all foreign/egyptian marriages with age differences are doomed.
This is what sad, jealous, women here would have you believe.
Love is the most important thing.
On another note, Akshar I take my hat off to you for having the grace to rise above Sono's ( just one of the thoroughly unpleasant women I have encountered here ) comments.
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Yorkshire Rose I agree I am older than my husband but we get on great BUT i have found the ex-pats that live in Egypt have been the most critical about our relationship not people here in the Uk or my husbands friends and family...
Why???
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PS Think its something to do with living in Egypt and the failed relationships that have happened i might be worng and i hope i am but i have met with negative remarks on lots of occasions.
Especially with a certain person who is against any one being involved with a age difference.. At this moment in time were happy and i hope it will last for long long time Posts: 206 | From: england | Registered: Aug 2004
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yes. my friends here are all behind me on my relationship, its only on the net that people find problems with things. my mum was 14 years older than my dad, they were married for 38 years, very much in love.
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quote:Originally posted by banana ,chimpsey: QUESTION !!! WHATS IT LIKE BEING OLDER THAN YOUR PARTNER ,DO YOU FEEL SOMETIMES YOUR THE MOTHER OR THE FATHER ...AND DO YOU FEEL YOU KNOW MORE ,AND IS IT LIKE LOOKING AFTER A SPOIL BRAT SOMETIMES ...... ARE YOU WORRIED IF YOUR OLDER AND CANNOT GIVE CHILDREN THAT HE WILL WANT TO MARRY AGAIN ..DO YOU FEEL THEY MARRIED YOU NOT REALLY BOTHERED OF YOUR AGE AND GOT HERE TO YOUR COUNTRY THEN WAITING FOR THE VISA PERIOD TO FINISH HE GOT OR SHE GOT ,WHAT SHE WANTED THEN STARTS TRADING YOU IN FOR A YOUNGER PERSON ... CHIMPS .
DO YOU HAVE DOUBTS ...IF NOT HOW LONG HAVE YOU BEEN MARRIED ...
I am considerably older than my husband but certainly never felt it, and never felt like im his mother In knowing more I suppose we are equal in that he knows more about his world and I know more about mine, obvioulsy, but he is never like a spoiled brat, hes too much of a gentleman.
He doesnt want to come to my country, he would be a fish out of water here and would be unhappy, so I am going there to live in his as I was planning living in Egypt before I met him so just where in Egypt has changed. We have been married 2 years and 4 months now
I trust him totally and dont worry about him running off with someone else as I know his character very well.
I have been reluctant to post on this thread for the normal reasons, its ammunition for certain psycho's. But I really dont give a toss what anyone says or thinks about my relationship with my husband, I know him and he knows me, it works for us so sod the rest Posts: 15090 | From: http://www.egyptalk.com/forum/ | Registered: Jul 2004
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well said, for a while it was a case of feeling we had to apoligise for the fact our partners were younger and from a different country. what will be will be
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Ayisha, Kimberley, Young at Heart and all the others (sorry can't remember all the names), I wish you all the best in your relationships and just ignore any comments from others about the age difference. I believe when people want to comment like that a part of them is jealous and envious of what you have in your life. Some people only enjoy it when others are going through a hard time in their life. So to all of you good luck and remember it is how young you feel not how old you are there are more important things to worry about in a relationship than this age old thing Posts: 1244 | From: we come in peace | Registered: Nov 2006
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quote:Originally posted by young at heart: well said, for a while it was a case of feeling we had to apoligise for the fact our partners were younger and from a different country. what will be will be
We can't decide when, where and whom we fall in love with, it is destiny We should never feel that we have to apologise for whom we are with and why we are with them. As long as we aren't hurting one in the process of being in love then it is no one else's business.
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sharm, my ex father in law used to say a man is as old as the woman he's feeling so it works both ways
At first I did worry and I did get a lot of negative input from others whose relationships had failed. Now we know each other very well and he is the most level person I have ever met in my life apart from my dad!!! His values are like my dads.
saying that there are a lot of doomed relationships between western women and Egy men, doomed not because of the age gaps so much as the people themselves not being 'right' for each other. Of course this happens anywhere in the world with anyone who is not 'right' for each other.
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Hey friends I am not in a relationship but if I was I would be 29 years way older than him. Anyone beat that? lol But he is so sweet he told me "you maybe 29 years older but your heart is 29" Maybe one day I will meet this little charmer but if I don't oh well......I have a dear friend who is 75 and her man is 45. She told me all I know is the day I die I will die a happy woman with a smile on my face. He has given me the best last years of my life. Better to die happy than bitter regretting what could have been if we hadn't listen to the criticism....Cheers to all us Oldies but Goodies that know how to give the young a treat ...hehehe
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Actually younger is better because they keep our hormone level up and have an easier menopause hehehe they pause it for awhile..lol right? Well it did to me........hahahha...
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quote:Originally posted by banana ,chimpsey: QUESTION !!! WHATS IT LIKE BEING OLDER THAN YOUR PARTNER ,DO YOU FEEL SOMETIMES YOUR THE MOTHER OR THE FATHER ...AND DO YOU FEEL YOU KNOW MORE ,AND IS IT LIKE LOOKING AFTER A SPOIL BRAT SOMETIMES ...... ARE YOU WORRIED IF YOUR OLDER AND CANNOT GIVE CHILDREN THAT HE WILL WANT TO MARRY AGAIN ..DO YOU FEEL THEY MARRIED YOU NOT REALLY BOTHERED OF YOUR AGE AND GOT HERE TO YOUR COUNTRY THEN WAITING FOR THE VISA PERIOD TO FINISH HE GOT OR SHE GOT ,WHAT SHE WANTED THEN STARTS TRADING YOU IN FOR A YOUNGER PERSON ... CHIMPS .
DO YOU HAVE DOUBTS ...IF NOT HOW LONG HAVE YOU BEEN MARRIED ...
I am considerably older than my husband but certainly never felt it, and never felt like im his mother In knowing more I suppose we are equal in that he knows more about his world and I know more about mine, obvioulsy, but he is never like a spoiled brat, hes too much of a gentleman.
He doesnt want to come to my country, he would be a fish out of water here and would be unhappy, so I am going there to live in his as I was planning living in Egypt before I met him so just where in Egypt has changed. We have been married 2 years and 4 months now
I trust him totally and dont worry about him running off with someone else as I know his character very well.
I have been reluctant to post on this thread for the normal reasons, its ammunition for certain psycho's. But I really dont give a toss what anyone says or thinks about my relationship with my husband, I know him and he knows me, it works for us so sod the rest
i feel your shouting at me and i cant think god knows why ....it dont matter what my problems are im just asked if any one had doubts you dont have to prove any thing to me any way its what with you two counts and im too as well past caring any way for any one actually ...thanx a lot chimps .
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Have some spearmint tea chimps...works all the time...and as for the hair maybe a Brittney Spears move lol just kidding!!!!!!!!
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Thank you sweetie.........Life is like a jalapeno never know which one gonna burn your ass...lol
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quote:Originally posted by MissNoor: Actually younger is better because they keep our hormone level up and have an easier menopause hehehe they pause it for awhile..lol right? Well it did to me........hahahha...
Mine is 8 years 8 mos. younger and definately my hormone level has went thru the roof with him. lol So im glad there is the benefit of an easier menopause as well as all the fun we're having getting there.
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I could never be with a man younger than me; not even if he were one year younger. Call me old fashioned or narrow minded, but that's the way I feel about it. Posts: 327 | From: balad alnour | Registered: Sep 2004
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quote:Originally posted by yorkshire rose: mISS nOOR COOL, GO GIRL SO THE HELL WHT, 29 YEars so the hell wht Hey chimps hows the hair did you get it cut
i look like a shag bag now im not amused.
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quote:Originally posted by MK the Most Interlectual: I'm younger than my husband so I have no say in this, but just to let you know something about Egyptian culture; most Egyptian families/men see the (Egyptian) woman being older as *the* reason to call the marriage plans off.
Talk about double standards.
It is double standards, MK. It also contrasts with what is happening in the west, with older women/younger men relationships becoming much more common - without financial issues even being a consideration. Posts: 2953 | From: Slightly south of Azkaban. | Registered: Aug 2006
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