quote:Originally posted by phuckedupwife: mine just did that a$$$$hole
i was told they leave home to avoid confrontation. so they do not get mad enough to him the wife.walid said when he gets mad he always leaves.cas he will never hit a woman.
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quote:Originally posted by phuckedupwife: mine just did that a$$$$hole
i was told they leave home to avoid confrontation. so they do not get mad enough to him the wife.walid said when he gets mad he always leaves.cas he will never hit a woman.
Tina, this is a really poor excuse used by men who are just looking for a reason to go out. Real men don't hit women during an argument or otherwise - regardless of whether or not they leave the house.
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[/qb][/QUOTE]Tina, this is a really poor excuse used by men who are just looking for a reason to go out. Real men don't hit women during an argument or otherwise - regardless of whether or not they leave the house. [/QB][/QUOTE]
Agree 100% there is never any justification to hit a woman and any man who does is scum in my opinion.
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I had a abusive ex who never thought he did anything wrong. If I'm honest I wish he had walked out before he behaved that way Never had an experience of my hubby walking out as we have never argued to be honest.
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Wow YAH you never argue? See how grownup you are this must be because you're so mature now that you're 102
Actually me and my husband aren't really the arguing type I just have huffs every now and then...although since I have been pregnant I am rather emotional...I find myself crying at the slightest of things real or imagined. I even threw a book at his head the other day, luckily it was only a paperback
If anyone was going to leave the apartment during an arguement it would most certainly be me and I'd be banging the door off its hinges as I went!
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Hey DG I am younger than Ayisha by a couple of years Maybe I am just too senile to remember our arguements You are allowed to be emotional, it's your right Posts: 4476 | From: Scotland | Registered: Mar 2006
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i do not see it as an excuse i am glad he would walk out and think about what he will say before he says somethin in a heated arguement that we would both regret
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quote:Originally posted by phuckedupwife: mine just did that a$$$$hole
How long are you married??
Try counceling or opt for divorce if you are both unhappy in your relationship. No need to stick around with each other.
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quote:Originally posted by Dubai Girl: although since I have been pregnant I am rather emotional...I find myself crying at the slightest of things real or imagined.
And believe me that's a very normal thing in your current situation. Congrats on the baby news. When are you due??
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quote:Originally posted by young at heart: Hey DG I am younger than Ayisha by a couple of years Maybe I am just too senile to remember our arguements You are allowed to be emotional, it's your right
you told me you were only 75! If I had known you were 88 I would have snapped your walking stick lady! Posts: 15090 | From: http://www.egyptalk.com/forum/ | Registered: Jul 2004
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I'm not due for ages and ages...I am only 14 weeks, but my stomach is bigger than my friend in UKs and she is 22 weeks, in fact my mother in law is convinced I have got my dates wrong and even though I've had 3 scans at the hospital here, the hospital is also wrong about my due date....she has already booked me an appointment at a hospital in Egypt for when I go at the end of this month as there are no proper doctors in UAE but Egypt will be able to provide the answers....
The fact that I have looked in the early stages of pregnancy for the last two years is irrelevant. Every woman has an area where they are prone to weight gain, mine is my stomach and I remedied this by wearing magic pants
Now that I'm no longer wearing the magic pants I suddenly look 5 months pregnant and I am confusing my in laws Posts: 500 | From: United Arab Emirates | Registered: Jul 2008
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Ah DG.. that is FAB news... tell hubby I said congrats and I really hope that we get to meet again with the newest member of you family Posts: 11097 | From: Cairo | Registered: May 2008
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Thanks Cheeky I will pass on your congrats, I'm actually gonna be there over New Year but I know it coincides with you being in the UK
Cairo - 10 days + many family get togethers as Christmas day there too + 72 kilos of food = non stop stuffing my face and no guilt because I'm supposed to get fat anway Posts: 500 | From: United Arab Emirates | Registered: Jul 2008
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Congrats DG! I actually miss being pregnant, lol, but then, mine was insanely easy. Just know, it might feel like the looooongest 40 weeks of your life, but the second the baby comes out it feels like a distant memory. If it wasn't for Zain as evidence, I would be wondering if I ever was actually pregnant, or if it was just in my imagination!
quote: Try counceling or opt for divorce if you are both unhappy in your relationship. No need to stick around with each other.
Surely you are not advocating throwing away a marriage due to the one argument? People (well most people) argue with their loved ones, it happens. I say forget about it, and go out for a Chinese!
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Classic everyday couple incompatibility we see everywhere when each comes from a different background, that's why the golden rule is to choose from your own kind..nobody ever listens. Posts: 3219 | From: Wisdom comes with age, but sometimes age comes alone. | Registered: Nov 2005
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lol the original poster is probably tucked up in bed with her other half right now and forgot about the argument everyone is still debating
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quote:Originally posted by Dzosser: Classic everyday couple incompatibility we see everywhere when each comes from a different background, that's why the golden rule is to choose from your own kind..nobody ever listens.
It doesn't need a different background to feel trapped in an unhappy and unhealthy relationship. But I do agree with the classic incompatibility part..... too many couples stay together which should not.
As John Cusack puts it shortly: "A lot of people are not meant to be together."
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quote:Originally posted by Ayisha: lol the original poster is probably tucked up in bed with her other half right now and forgot about the argument everyone is still debating
I love angry make up sex! It's the best!!!!! Posts: 30135 | From: The owner of this website killed ES....... | Registered: Feb 2004
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Originally posted by Ayisha: lol the original poster is probably tucked up in bed with her other half right now and forgot about the argument everyone is still debating
Yeah..probably back to her original username too.. Posts: 3219 | From: Wisdom comes with age, but sometimes age comes alone. | Registered: Nov 2005
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I think they do it because they haven't been taught how to have an adult arguement (they are part of a normal relationship) so they have to run away rather than discuss the problem. My husband has tried the 'im leaving for a while' several times and I tell him to get over himself, grow up and finish the discussion.
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Stephnie there really is hardly any discussion..there is the yapping and the screaming the tantrum throwing and whatever point is being made gets loss real quick..why not ie the male leave every one calmed down and restart a real disussion...about whatever??
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You should read MEN ARE FROM MARS WOMEN ARE FROM VENUS it is not an Egyptian thing it is a man thing. Women like to talk it out, men have to go away and think about it.
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quote:Originally posted by akshar: You should read MEN ARE FROM MARS WOMEN ARE FROM VENUS it is not an Egyptian thing it is a man thing. Women like to talk it out, men have to go away and think about it.
agree, they go off to their 'cave' and think about it. Posts: 15090 | From: http://www.egyptalk.com/forum/ | Registered: Jul 2004
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Have been married 38 yrs and one advise to all men, just go with the flow with wife’s and you will see that it’s a wonderful day. No reason for anyone to argue now day’s and wife’s, just do the same, both need to just talk things out. Talking makes issues come together
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quote:Originally posted by Jake1081: Have been married 38 yrs
Congrats; that's nice to hear. I hope I will be able to say that one day. Posts: 30135 | From: The owner of this website killed ES....... | Registered: Feb 2004
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In my experience, they run away to sit and brood in a coffee shop, trying to come up with a rationalisation that makes you the one who was in the wrong. Usually this running off crap happens when he's losing the argument. 'Don't go to bed angry' [my mother told me] 'Stay up and fight!'
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quote:Originally posted by Stephie_ELH: I think they do it because they haven't been taught how to have an adult arguement (they are part of a normal relationship) so they have to run away rather than discuss the problem. My husband has tried the 'im leaving for a while' several times and I tell him to get over himself, grow up and finish the discussion.
There is also the point that someone needs to cool down to finish the discussion. If there is a big argument I couldn't talk in the heat of it but perhaps would need an hour to cool down, going for a walk or something. If someone is pushing me to talk when I'm totally mad the result is not very good. And I'm sure that no one can talk in a situation like that. Others can coold down in minutes, other don't.
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I leave or stay silent when things get very stressful to avoid making it worse. in the heat of arguments we may say things we regret later.
I know many women hate this but so far it works for me and when things cool down we talk and resolve issues in a good way.
Arguing with an angry woman makes her more angry and is dangerous considering they have no limits in using whatever available as a weapon and then apologize after damage has already occurred nice creatures!
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quote:Originally posted by LaZeeZ: I leave or stay silent when things get very stressful to avoid making it worse. in the heat of arguments we may say things we regret later.
I know many women hate this but so far it works for me and when things cool down we talk and resolve issues in a good way.
Arguing with an angry woman makes her more angry and is dangerous considering they have no limits in using whatever available as a weapon and then apologize after damage has already occurred nice creatures!
wow the first smart guy i have seen. we are always right even if we are wrong we are still right......!!!!!
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Tina, I'm not sure if that was a compliment or sarcasm. I accept both
Dalia!! You're still here and surviving!
Honestly, I was talking about my experience with Egyptian women.
I find it hard to win a reasonable argument with a woman I'm in a relationship with. How can you win an argument with someone who ends up screaming and crying when you don't accept their point of view?
And to resolve an issue,
-I have to admit I was wrong, no matter how much I believe I'm not.
- I have to apologize
- I have to promise I wont do it again; however, it happens no matter what because I'M NOT DOING SOMETHING WRONG
- I have to be reminded that no woman in the world does for her man what she does for me - now you will think she gave me money or a kidney -
After I do all this, we are okay again and I can make out with her
This is what I call a win-win resolution, she wins an argument and I get to have sex.
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Does Lazeez mean 'delicious' in Arabic? Cause it meas so in Turkish
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Honestly, I was talking about my experience with Egyptian women.
I find it hard to win a reasonable argument with a woman I'm in a relationship with. How can you win an argument with someone who ends up screaming and crying when you don't accept their point of view?
You can't. Imo if that is how someone acts during a conflict, they have never learnt proper communication techniques.
Sadly, I have observed that many Egyptian / Arab people tend to get very emotional and irrational when conflicts arise, and many women resort to drama. Personally, I believe that is one of the reasons so many marriages in Egypt fail -- because a lot of people have not learnt how to communicate within a relationship / family and how to solve conflicts. Instead, they keep manipulating each other, for example with crying and screaming.
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