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I have been thinking why is it that we always concentrate in beginnings and endings of things rather than what really matters...The MIDDLE!
I mean generally speaking, in a fight, a relationship, race...etc. We tend to always analyse things based on reasons and consequences, though the middles are what deserve attn. It's only in the middle that we cant go back. Ends and beginnings can be postponed or even denied..
It's the middle that matters!! I hope this thought helps anyone to start his day concentrating on what we actually started..the middle, what we really have.
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Asoom Member # 8611
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U r very wise honey…YEAH, it’s true, for those who r troublemakers, they concentrate in that trivial detail which sounds like bullshit, and the most important thing is nothing 2 them…
Lonely Member # 8661
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Because alawys the end that count,
for example if we are talking about any relationship that it is ended. we start by thinking how it starts and then jump to the miserable end . if we think about the middle how wonderful it was and how we were enjoying doing this and that ...., we are often hurting ourselves, because it doesnt end as we wish
May be i am wrong
quote:Originally posted by ngeg: I have been thinking why is it that we always concentrate in beginnings and endings of things rather than what really matters...The MIDDLE!
I mean generally speaking, in a fight, a relationship, race...etc. We tend to always analyse things based on reasons and consequences, though the middles are what deserve attn. It's only in the middle that we cant go back. Ends and beginnings can be postponed or even denied..
It's the middle that matters!! I hope this thought helps anyone to start his day concentrating on what we actually started..the middle, what we really have.
[This message has been edited by ngeg (edited 21 August 2005).]
Show Time Member # 8513
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quote:Originally posted by ngeg: I have been thinking why is it that we always concentrate in beginnings and endings of things rather than what really matters...The MIDDLE!
I mean generally speaking, in a fight, a relationship, race...etc. We tend to always analyse things based on reasons and consequences, though the middles are what deserve attn. It's only in the middle that we cant go back. Ends and beginnings can be postponed or even denied..
It's the middle that matters!! I hope this thought helps anyone to start his day concentrating on what we actually started..the middle, what we really have.
[This message has been edited by ngeg (edited 21 August 2005).]
Well we always think mainly in the begining of any thing we are going through, in the middle ,It is time when we are trying to fix or sustain our situation and when we fail in that it is just the end which is the result of the second process( the middle); And the circle goes on.
Real life Member # 7982
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quote:Originally posted by ngeg: I have been thinking why is it that we always concentrate in beginnings and endings of things rather than what really matters...The MIDDLE!
I mean generally speaking, in a fight, a relationship, race...etc. We tend to always analyse things based on reasons and consequences, though the middles are what deserve attn. It's only in the middle that we cant go back. Ends and beginnings can be postponed or even denied..
It's the middle that matters!! I hope this thought helps anyone to start his day concentrating on what we actually started..the middle, what we really have.
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So true and that is how I am looking on 'the journey'. Even if things don't work out with my man once we meet up again - I've had a fantastic 3 months of being 'loved up', lost 12kg without effort (after years of trying) and everyone I know says I've been so happy and much more fun, and I'm doing things I would never have dreamed of even 6 months ago (not just in relation to him and Egypt!) He has bought such happiness into my life that even if we break up I will treasure it forever
Ngeg Member # 1271
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Catlover:It's a very good method to work on the middles really, to be grateful for what u have and work on keeping yr happiness regardless of the fear of ends..enjoy yr relationship.
Sam on line: you got my point, it's useless to move in a circle that way! And is it possible to grasp middles before ends come?
Lonely: Why talk abt ended realtionship, the whole point is talking, thinking acting and working on it while it's in the middle..and the end could be potponed or denied!
Ya Asoom: It's not wise, it's a mistake i do in my daily life and for a second thought to stop and think..
Serendipity Member # 7211
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agree with you ngeg, but at the same time disagree. I agree sometimes, instead of getting grumpy or depressed of what has happened in your life, you should see the good things you learned on the way. but sometimes, its good to see the consequense, some ppl get too blind when they are in the middle, like youre topics name gets "caught in the middle" that you forget what may the consequenses of your actions can be, cause you may not only turn up hurting yourself, but people around you too. so its better to look the whole picture, The beginning, the middle and the end. it will balance it all. if you concentrate on one of these, you will end up forgetting something, it can be, why you started the journey, or the teachings you learned, or the consequenses.
Show Time Member # 8513
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quote:Originally posted by ngeg: Catlover:It's a very good method to work on the middles really, to be grateful for what u have and work on keeping yr happiness regardless of the fear of ends..enjoy yr relationship.
Sam on line: you got my point, it's useless to move in a circle that way! And is it possible to grasp middles before ends come?
Lonely: Why talk abt ended realtionship, the whole point is talking, thinking acting and working on it while it's in the middle..and the end could be potponed or denied!
Ya Asoom: It's not wise, it's a mistake i do in my daily life and for a second thought to stop and think..
one can never be in the middle , the middle is always an introduction for a new start, cross roads, and what ever road you choose is a way for an end and a new start as well. It is never possible to hold what we have,and keep life in a strait line,it is never strait line; cause we are not the only master players.
Karah_Mia Member # 4668
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It is highly commendable to apply the brain analytical function before getting involved in any kind of relationship, but overdoing it by visions of doom each time is killing the joy of life and even ceasing to live years before our official funeral day. I strongly believe in the magical power of 'aurea mediocritas': the golden worth of 'the middle', but applying it in real life calls for a high level of our spiritual development and sometimes may seem a bit overwhelming. Which, of course, should not discourage us from trying! InshaAllah, we will all understand the need of peaceful cooperation of all human beings: it is not a question of quality of life any more, it is a question of our global survival.
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