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There are enough un-married men out there. Why marry a weak, selfish hypocrite who isn't willing to properly dedicate his love and energy to one woman?
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why would anyone want to marry a married man?
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Yep brill if she knows about you and you know about her and his mother approves and you are living a country where it is legal.
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I think it depends on the place the woman lives, her age, her independancy. I think any woman who is capable to manage it on her own, has enough income, a safe place to live, never would marry a man who is already married. Such a marriage is always born out of reasons that the man can offer her things she wouldn't get when she would stay alone. A proper reputation, a roof above her head, someone who takes care of her, that kind of reasons. It doesn't even need to be because of negative characteristics of the man in question, it can be because he doesn't want her to be in need...
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Its not something I would consider doing, but whatever floats ones boat.
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I see all women here in the forum against it however i c many foreign women in hurghada and luxor accepting the fact of marrying an egy guy who is already married
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quote:Originally posted by egyptian7: I see all women here in the forum against it however i c many foreign women in hurghada and luxor accepting the fact of marrying an egy guy who is already married
Are these real marriages E7 or just orfi's?
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This may sound unacceptable for a western woman like marrying to a woman that's not virgin sounds unaccpetable for an eastern man. Those things are cultural. Many women in Islamic world have been living with a fact that their husbands may get married to another woman one day (like their father did to their mom)and I think it doeesn't hurt some of them much. For them, it is not the end of the world.
And sometimes it is financial. In Nepal, there are women marrying to 4 brothers and they all live in 1 house (fraternal polyandry). A family has one land and it is too small for 4 families.
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It is only unacceptable for someone who has been born and raised in a society where it is unacceptbale to marry more then one wife... So,the culture makes the difference, culture makes things acceptable or unacceptable. Perhaps it is usefull to think it over by discussing issues that are perfectly acceptable in our culture but unacceptable in the Eatsern culture. As the Western women in common still think it's unacceptable for marry more then one partner, an Egyptian man will think it's unacceptable to have sex without being married etc. We all have our own cultural thoughts about what is and isn't acceptable. Some are able to think out of their own culture, but it needs a lot of understanding of the new culture...
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Heyy QM, Turkey is doing very good with Hiddink Right now, they are playing with the USA in Philadelphia. Posts: 2591 | From: **Ex Oriente Lux** | Registered: Jan 2007
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quote:Originally posted by Questionmarks: It is only unacceptable for someone who has been born and raised in a society where it is unacceptbale to marry more then one wife... So,the culture makes the difference, culture makes things acceptable or unacceptable.
In all countries and in all cultures there are polygamist marriages. In the US take, for example, Utah and Mormons. There are such cases in Germany, Sweden, just name the country.
Just few days ago I saw a program about a German family consisting of one man and three women - all blond and blue eyed. They met in 60s while being hippies and started to live together out of curiosity and experimentation. Eventually this became their life style.
So, there can be plenty of reasons why people live in polygamous marriages. Although the majority of women and men as well prefer a conventional marriage - one man and one woman.
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Miss Daisy, It depends on the Egyptian man, his attachment to religion, his standards, class..... a lot of factors.
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In all countries and in all cultures there are polygamist marriages. In the US take, for example, Utah and Mormons. There are such cases in Germany, Sweden, just name the country.
Just few days ago I saw a program about a German family consisting of one man and three women - all blond and blue eyed. They met in 60s while being hippies and started to live together out of curiosity and experimentation. Eventually this became their life style.
So, there can be plenty of reasons why people live in polygamous marriages. Although the majority of women and men as well prefer a conventional marriage - one man and one woman.
I don't know exactly but as far as I know it is forbidden by law to marry more then one wife in every EU country. It is possible that a man lives with more then one woman, but not to marry them. I have no idea how many there are here, but surely it a is minority. I know about one: an artist, painter, had 6 wifes/women untill he died. the women still are living together. It still is considered as abnormal...
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yeah and if a women tried to live with 6 men she couldn't just be considered abnormal, she would be considered a complete slut.
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quote:Originally posted by Miss Daisy: yeah and if a women tried to live with 6 men she couldn't just be considered abnormal, she would be considered a complete slut.
Every thing is possible. how many man do you wanna live with, Miss Daisy? (An honest answer is appreciated )
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quote:Originally posted by 7seas: Not all people think your way. and they are not supposed to.
I didn't say anyone was supposed to think like me. I just didn't understand your metaphor. Why don't you explain it?
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A boat float is like when in some cases the first marriage crumbles into ruins due to many reasons, the man tends to pick a new wife, he tells each one his plan, he tells number one who's got young kids 'do you want a divorce if I marry number two ?' The answer in many cases is a no..and tells number two he's keeping number one and she tells him that she's fine with this arrangement Posts: 3219 | From: Wisdom comes with age, but sometimes age comes alone. | Registered: Nov 2005
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Why would anyone want to marry a man who is already emotionally involved with someone else... how desperate is that!!!
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quote:Originally posted by Cheekyferret: Why would anyone want to marry a man who is already emotionally involved with someone else... how desperate is that!!!
Cultural baggage, just because in your culture there is emotional involvement in marriage why presume that is true in all cultures
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What I've seen was the case like Dzosser said. The reason why the first wife agreed was because when she should divorce him, she wouldn't be able to offer her children a childhood like they had: nice appartment in a good neighbourhood, private schools, etc. Again, economical reasons.
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Cultural baggage.... you are either gonna marry a man who loves another or marry a man who will feck anything without having any emotion. NIIIIIIIIIIIIIIICEE.
There are loveless marriages all around the world, however, they are still married!!!
Why the hell would anyone want to marry a man who is already married... desperate.
I think it is a joke that we are brought up in the UK to believe it is wrong to marry a married man then women come here and all of a sudden it is fine cos their new Egyptian man says it is ok....
Sorry, my stance it is sad a pathetic. I am not going to say it is a beautiful and wonderful thing when I don't think it is!
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Well, I know of many Egyptian women who married for economical reasons. The Egyptian madames I know look forward to their husbands marrying a foreigner co-wife because of the money the foreigner will bring to the table.
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