sorry i have not been in touch for a while but university and stuff took over a bit!

thought i owed you the closeing chapter of my story being as you were all so helpful and tolerant, listening to me.

if you dont want to read a relationship story then i sugest that you go to anouther thread now. (some people seem very down on us broken hearted folk at the moment???) so at the risk of being called every thing from stupid to easy here goes.

well as some of my friends know i should be sitting in sunny beautiful egypt right now! but im not - im still in oxford and its snowing!
all was set for my trip- ticket bought, emails and texts going back and forth - counting the days........then..........he called and asked me to pospone my trip for a couple of months.....??????....why i asked ....because his buisiness was in trouble and he had to move out of his flat and he had no money.... i said i would go anyway and stay in a hotel but he said that was no good - we could not 'be' together unless we were married (marrage was the one thing he did not sugest - did not know if i was offended or relievd lol)........i was upset, especialy as my ticket was non refundable and i could not change the flight..........we did not speak for a week........ i became resigned that it was over and that i was not going.
then......he called and said could i still go?????? i said i could and and then he said i could no longer stay with his family but could i get a room so we could be together.....but i would have to pay for it as he had no money..........i explained that i had very little money and could only go in the first place because i could stay with his family - he was not pleased.
i felt hurt as i did not feel he was giving me full details of what was going on - some things he just would not explain.
he said that we could manage on very little and could get a room together as there was no point in me geting a hotel room because we could not 'be' together there..........this all sounded very different to what had been arranged..........so i said i could not go - he was upset and said if i did not go then he would not wait for me till the summer.......i said there was nothing i could do and if he could not wait for me then that was his disision.

we did not speak for a couple of days then he called again asking me to go - lots of sweet words..........by this time it was the night before my flight - i was resigned to the fact that i was not going to go and pay him to sleep with me - better to lose my ticket money than lose anything else!!!!

so here i am in the snow in england - a bit down but ok - a little older and maybe a bit wiser????

so thats it really......he has called me a few times but not much has been said.
im not sure how i got so carried away by the situation - im not given to falling in love with reckless abandon (maybe it was the sun!) - all i can say is that i still love egypt and will go back some day - i have not and would never change my feelings towards such a wonderful country and such great warm people just because i had a disagreement with one person.

dear congratulations you have beaten your weakness.
welcome to Egypt whenever you decide to come ,,i can help you with this without paying for me to sleep with you ,,,

MotherEgypt, what's wrong with you???????

but the only thing i did not understand ,,,and i wonder what do you mean is ( put ur self in my shoes ) hey what is your feet size

He doesn't deserve you ... that's it.

Forget him like you forget everything else. Not only you are better off without him, but also with wisdom you escaped a setup arranged for you, as prey.

I can really understand your feeling, and I understand that your pain is because you trusted him more than you loved him, but life is life. C'est la vie.

And pain is pain ... it is gonna take time.

Please think of it the other way down. What if you went there and he slept with you ... what after that.
You see, there are many sad stories about sad marriages, how about relationships based on desire.

I think you should consider yourself lucky ... or as Egyptians say “God loves you” to the extent that He let you know about that guy on time.

Take it easy on yourself ... weep sometime ... laugh sometime ... get busy sometime ... until your sadness gradually calms down.

Following are some advices by about.com … although directed to teens but I believe work fine for adults:

Here's How:

• You may feel really low and completely unmotivated right now, but if you can force yourself at first to take these steps, it will get easier!
  
• Give your friends a call and setup a time to do something fun.
  
• Do the things you used to enjoy but were not able to do when you were dating your ex.
  
• Throw yourself into the activities you've been thinking about getting involved in, but haven't had time for.
  
• Let yourself be around your ex.
  
• If you feel like you want to get back together, repeat steps 1-5.
  
• If you're comfortable being around your ex and don't feel the need to slip back into your old relationship, congratulations! You have moved on with your life!

• When a person is in a serious relationship, sometimes s/he may put less effort into maintaining friendships. This means you're going to have to be the on to take the first step in repairing your friendships.
  
• Sometimes a person can identify his/herself by the relationship (ex: seeing yourself as 'Ashely's boyfriend'). This can be hard to deal with when the relationship is over and you're left without an identity.
  
• Getting over someone is a tough, but you'll learn a lot about yourself and the kind of relationship you want for the future.

You can also check these links:
http://enotalone.com/article/2445.html
http://www.inq7.net/lif/2003/nov/26/lif_25-1.htm
http://www.thespark.com/features/breakup/
http://www.lovingyou.com/content/singles/content.shtml?ART=breakup

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Raymon www.youregypt.com

Alfa Mabrouk Habibti. Even though you are most probably feeling a lot of pain right now, you certainly have had a lucky escape. Shareen summed it all up in the last post. "Never let a man destroy your love of Egypt". Men come and go and can be crushingly disappointing but Egypt will always be there and will always be a soucre of wonder and beauty.

I even recommend Egypt to any female friends who are trying to recover from heartbreak to take a trip here. Nothing like being hassled 24/7 (hello, hello, where are you from my Queen, I love you, you have the most beautiful eyes, you are sooooo beautiful)to make you hate men and forget about that heartbreak.

May a thousand rabid fleas from a diseased camel infest the arm pits of this shebsheb wearing scoundrel.

thankyou so much for your posts
how can i be sad when i have such friends?

I'm so sorry to read about the end of your story, it started out looking so bright and positive. But then I'm much more glad that you discovered the truth early enough, an end with a shock is better than a shock without end, says a german proverb

never let go of hope and your positive attitude, I'm sure someone who deserves you is waiting out there for you, and inshaAllah you'll find him sooner or later.

I'm so glad you got out basically unscathed. You are a bright woman wioth a whonerful personality & I am sure you will find the one God has picked out just for you.

Have faith my friend!

*hugs*

iam so sorry for all that but iam sure ull have the best, be patient , u deserve the best and surely ur a faithful person, and ur posts, not only this one shows the type of person u r, and the far bright sweet person u r..

may god bless u dear

Realy sorry it did not work out. At least you found out early and were so strong and it only cost you the price of a flight.

All the best with your degree course. Hard work is always such a healer. Be proud of yourself you made all the right decisions and something good will come your way soon.

good choice , that is the strong Kay i want to hear about, go on girl, cheer up , u did the right thing, and the right thing always hard

wont be here for a couple of weeks - going to stay with my family for easter break - and will have no web !!!!!!

i will be thinking of you even tho i wont be able to post - take care and i will be back soon