quote:Originally posted by madame f: Hubby went this morning. Now it is just me and daughter and morning,day,and evening sickness
I also hope the symptoms will lessen soon. Which weak are you in right now??
I don't know why it's called morning sickness. During my first pregnancy - with my only daughter - I felt sick and nauseous the whole day.
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I am in week 9 now. I feel completely exhausted, I can´t even vacuum or do anything and it is like I have run a marathon. Then I feel nauseous and dizzy but when I eat I feel I want to throw everything up yet I feel hungry all the time....
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quote:Originally posted by madame f: Hubby went this morning. Now it is just me and daughter and morning,day,and evening sickness
I also hope the symptoms will lessen soon. Which weak are you in right now??
I don't know why it's called morning sickness. During my first pregnancy - with my only daughter - I felt sick and nauseous the whole day.
I had the same with my daughter. An old-women's saying is that it is connected to girls pregnancies. So, if they're right, Madame F is going to get a daughter!
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I'm having a boy and have had the easiest pregnancy in the world (so far). Really no exhaustion or sickness, just appetite loss in the early stages. So, maybe there is something to the oldwives tale.
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quote:Originally posted by madame f: I hope not, this is supposed to be a boy!
Healthy!! has always been my main concern - GENDER DOESNT MATTER Posts: 1325 | From: For tooti http://www.csa.gov.uk/ | Registered: May 2009
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quote:Originally posted by madame f: I hope not, this is supposed to be a boy!
Well if it turns out to be your second girl you know you have to get busy again later on! All the best.
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Exactly - other than healthy and happy Must be a cultural thing i dont understand Posts: 1325 | From: For tooti http://www.csa.gov.uk/ | Registered: May 2009
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Oh please will all of you get of your high horses!!! Like no woman has ever said something like this!!! I have a daughter and saying that it would be lovely to have a boy this time around is such a huge crime!!!???? Did I say that I wouldn´t welcome another girl if it is a girl???? Aren´t you all the perfect little PC women...my god...
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A lot of again. When couples already are having a child from one gender, their secret wish often is the other gender. They all say that health is the most important, and it is, but that doesn't mean they can't have preferances...
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I have no problem with people having a preference, but saying a baby is "supposed" to be something, isn't exactly the same as saying "it would be nice if it was a..."
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Yes, but I think this is a case of the wrong choice of words, and not because of something negative. It happens everyone, specially when the native language isn't English. No big deal...
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I find it fun to have both a girl and a boy. I love them both just as much. I never had any preference towards gender - maybe because my best friend has a son that is extremely handicapped and i have seen her daily struggle. I know my exhusband wanted a boy during my second pregnany (and it was a boy) but i didnt wish for anything but healthy- didnt wanna "become disapointed" uuyyyvv that sounded nasty....
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madame F don't worry about the 'old wives' tales I was sick the whole 9 months 24/7 and had a baby boy....gosh that baby turned 21 last saturday where oh where does the time go.
Take care you don't get dehydrated..food does not matter so much but lack of water is dangerous I ended up in hospital on a drip several times.
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I had three boys in a row and gosh didn't I wish for another girl. Up to this day I kept all little clothes of my daughter. Oh well my smallest son still looks like a girl so I can't complain.
Hehe the Egyptians all loved that little cute 'bent' while we were on holidays in Hurghada and were actually surprised when I told them it's actually a boy. Long hair = girl - that's how they think.
I think overall being married to an Egyptian - to an Arab in general - puts women under lot of pressure to give birth to a boy.
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quote: I think overall being married to an Egyptian - to an Arab in general - puts women under lot of pressure to give birth to a boy.
When I had a doctors appointment in Cairo after finding out I was pregnant, he asked what we wanted. Of course we both said we didn't care, and he said that upper Egyptians all want boys. So, just wondering if it was more of an upper Egyptian thing than lower, as Sam never had a preference (at least not that he told me).
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Funny thing is that many of the egyptian men think there is something wrong with the woman if she doesnt give birth to boys. They dont realize that it their sperm that desides the gender - not the female egg.
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Also it makes more sense to have girls in the Arab culture as it would mean lots of dowery Posts: 4476 | From: Scotland | Registered: Mar 2006
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quote: I think overall being married to an Egyptian - to an Arab in general - puts women under lot of pressure to give birth to a boy.
When I had a doctors appointment in Cairo after finding out I was pregnant, he asked what we wanted. Of course we both said we didn't care, and he said that upper Egyptians all want boys. So, just wondering if it was more of an upper Egyptian thing than lower, as Sam never had a preference (at least not that he told me).
I don't think so. My friend's husband is from Cairo too and finally they had a boy after three girls - oh was she HAPPY and more so RELIEVED! No more babies!!
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quote:Originally posted by weirdkitty: I have no problem with people having a preference, but saying a baby is "supposed" to be something, isn't exactly the same as saying "it would be nice if it was a..."
Me too - I had a problem with the 'I hope not' part too. I'm not on any kind of high horse, but honestly, a healthy baby that you get to keep and watch grow up is far more important than anything else.
We had a girl first and now have a boy, and I can honestly say that uppermost in my husband's mind was that our baby would be healthy, rather than born with bits between its legs...
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I often read that many people get offended if you say "I don't mind if it's a boy or a girl as long as it is healthy". I can understand this especially if you have had "more or less" disabled children. Because, even if you have a healthy baby to take home, a lot of problems can arise when the baby is growing, maybe after a year or few years. So if you are wishing for a healthy baby/child you can really never be at ease.
If you think of it, it (this sentence) kind of indicates that you would love the baby girl or a boy, but if s/he was disabled you wouldn't love so much. Of course if s/he is very severely disabled that can mean early death and painful life but for example down syndrome kids are very lively and happy children Posts: 758 | From: Finland | Registered: Jun 2006
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No, that depends on the person, and I can know, because I've expierenced it. I still wish people a haelthy baby, but that doesn't mean I loved mine less as a healthy one... A wish is supposed to be positive, and actually nobody is even thinking about the fact that their baby can be disabled. We know that it happens, but not with us... If we would, the pregancy would be a time of fear...
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I was horribly ill with my first pg and I had a boy. These are old wives tales.
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quote:Originally posted by madame f: Hubby went this morning. Now it is just me and daughter and morning,day,and evening sickness
I also hope the symptoms will lessen soon. Which weak are you in right now??
I don't know why it's called morning sickness. During my first pregnancy - with my only daughter - I felt sick and nauseous the whole day.
I had the same with my daughter. An old-women's saying is that it is connected to girls pregnancies. So, if they're right, Madame F is going to get a daughter!
my husband wants to do the same, i can not understand why he would want to go without you. why leave you?
what sort of man would contimplate taking a child from his mother, he should wait especially summer, really hot. he should plan for winter months when you cna all go together.
you might think i am rude but does he have something to hide. maybe another family hiding out their, or something worse.
in egypt their is a high percentage of woman who are circumcised, have you spoke about this. just asking as my mother in law wanted my kids done, no way for girls.
you might think i do not know what i am talking about, but one thing for certain never trust an egptian man when it comes to their mothers, they are all attached to the umbilical cord.
it will not be him that looks after them it will be sisters or aunts etc.
please do not send her,
are you scared of him, do you have no sya in the mattter.
suprise him and say just pretend that someone will give you the money to go and see what he says.
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I believe the husband went alone for a visit. Madame F is pregnant so she didn't feel up for a visit. You may want to read the entire thread.
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and were actually surprised when I told them it's actually a boy. Long hair = girl - that's how they think. 
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